Closed threads???

[Bob O]

Maybe somebody can explain to me why some among us feel the only thing they can do when people dont agree with them is have a thread closed and take their bat and ball and go home???
Or are we not to disagree with a posters thoughts and just wish everybody pixie dust and not think for ourselves???

 

[MaryAnnDVC]

Originally posted by Bob O
Maybe somebody can explain to me...???

Apparently not.

 

[SPAGo 98]

if a thread's closed by request of the op you're free to start another thread on the same topic.

 

[Bob O]

Well the people who do start threads and then want them closed should be able to explain their reasoning to us, shouldnt they??

 

[WebmasterAlex]

Bob,
Some people need to be able to express how they feel but they don't like conflict. It's called venting. You are married right? Whenever your DW is venting do you argue everytime or do you sometimes just say "yes honey", "I'm so sorry you are going through that" or "poor baby". It's the old, old thing where guys feel the need to "fix" everything and women just want someone to listen.

 

[browneyes]

Originally posted by WebmasterAlex
Bob,
Some people need to be able to express how they feel but they don't like conflict. It's called venting. You are married right? Whenever your DW is venting do you argue everytime or do you sometimes just say "yes honey", "I'm so sorry you are going through that" or "poor baby". It's the old, old thing where guys feel the need to "fix" everything and women just want someone to listen.

If I need to vent, my SO knows he needs to duck-quickly. No listening required.

Bob, I think there should be a board where there's a short explanation as to why threads were closed or yanked (sometimes the OP don't know the thread has been closed or yanked unless someone brings it to their attention). No need for indepth reasons, just something short and simple.

 

[Kermit]

I agree with Alex's reasoning. Sometimes people just aren't up for a debate. It can take a lot out of you to argue something, even if you're completely convinced that your feelings are valid. I'm guessing, based on your post history, that debate doesn't drain you. But for some of us it's just too much sometimes.

 

[Blondie]

Some people--none here ofcourse thrive on rattling cages, conflict, and arguments.

And for those that don't, there's the option of asking a moderator or a webmaster to have your thread locked.

 

[Eeyore2U]

Originally posted by Kermit
I agree with Alex's reasoning. Sometimes people just aren't up for a debate. It can take a lot out of you to argue something, even if you're completely convinced that your feelings are valid. I'm guessing, based on your post history, that debate doesn't drain you. But for some of us it's just too much sometimes.

If they aren't up for debate don't post somewhere that opinions opposite of yours are likely to show up.

 

[WebmasterAlex]

Good point Eeyore2u... it would be inconceivable to think that maybe we could let someone just express their feelings without attacking them.
What really amazes me is that it is the same people that do the attacking every time. I think they think the rest of us are impressed by their wit and intelligence. Actually we are much too busy comparing them to certain parts of a horses anatomy.

 

[SonjaB]

LOL, Alex, we've closed threads at the request of MALE posters, too.

 

[DocRafiki]

Originally posted by Bob O
Maybe somebody can explain to me why some among us feel the only thing they can do when people dont agree with them is have a thread closed and take their bat and ball and go home???
Or are we not to disagree with a posters thoughts and just wish everybody pixie dust and not think for ourselves???

Not really surprising based on the original post, is it?

Don't like the coach... quit the team.
Don't like the discussion... close the thread.


I can understand people not wanting to get into a debate. Several times, I've realized that the DB got me way too upset over stupidity, and I just don't go back. I don't try to shut things down. There's no reason that other people involved in the discussion shouldn't be allowed to voice their opinions.

I take the closing of that thread as a post that reads, "Oh yeah? Well I can play that game here too! Pbbbt! "

 

[DocRafiki]

Originally posted by WebmasterAlex

What really amazes me is that it is the same people that do the attacking every time. I think they think the rest of us are impressed by their wit and intelligence. Actually we are much too busy comparing them to certain parts of a horses anatomy.

That IS amazing... to think there are only a few people who are brave enough to stand up for their beliefs. Not all of us are here looking for a fan club.

 

[Eeyore2U]

Originally posted by WebmasterAlex
Good point Eeyore2u... it would be inconceivable to think that maybe we could let someone just express their feelings without attacking them.
What really amazes me is that it is the same people that do the attacking every time. I think they think the rest of us are impressed by their wit and intelligence. Actually we are much too busy comparing them to certain parts of a horses anatomy.

Alex, is a differing view point an attack?

LOL, Alex, we've closed threads at the request of MALE posters, too.

I've asked for a couple of threads to be closed.

 

[EROS]

Of course, PETE has the right to set policies for his boards, but I've always felt that the "right to close a thread" has been constantly abused. Hey, where is it stated that a thread initiator has "control" over responses generated by subsequent posters?????? . This policy implies that one can request a thread closure if members don't respond "rightly". RIDICULOUS.

Threads take all kinds of tangents. They're dynamic entities. Their initiators simply pose a topic for discussion. I couldn't agree with BOB more; this policy is really, "I'm picking up my marbles and running home to mama" ........

 

[Bob O]

WM Alex yes im married and have been married for 21 yrs and if my wife vents i will argue if i feel im right but wont just placate somebody if i feel they are wrong.
As for the policy of letting posters have there own threads closed i think it is wrong/stupid but thats just my opinion and would change it if i had the power but of course that wont ever happen.
Just because somebody starts a thread and wants it go to in a certain direction doesnt mean it should go that way. And IMHO if people are afraid that people wont agree with them then they shouldnt start a thread, and if they do they shouldnt whine to a moderator to have a thread closed if they dont like the responses.
Or maybe we need a rodney king/kumbaya board where a requirment would be that everybody has to agree with the poster who starts a thread and only pixie dust is allowed??

 

[WebmasterAlex]

well Doc, I think there is a world of difference between standing up for your beliefs and looking at a post and realizing the poster is just venting....
I am certainly not suggesting that you suppress things you feel strongly about but is it that hard to look at a post and think "wow that person is just hurt"

 

[EROS]

Let's say that a female member posts that she is FURIOUS with her husband, who just sustained an inguinal hernia necessitating surgery after lifting a heavy trunk. Why is she furious???? Because, she had always warned him about avoiding such lifting following prior hernias. She states that she feels like smashing him in the mouth .

A nice "vent"????? Maybe. However, she may receive some responses which would urge her to show him a little more empathy or compassion. Should she then be "entitled" to close the thread because others aren't agreeing with her wrath??

 

[Eeyore2U]

But who is responsible for the hurt? The person who replies or the person who is looking for something and not getting it.

 

[WebmasterAlex]

Well Eros.. you could post in such a way as to help the person figure it out or you could blast them and make them feel really bad....

Eeyore2u... I don't think they are neccesarily looking for something..just trying to let some feelings out