Diana --
Thanks for the advice but I am certain that I can't change the PS and if I show up without the other people, I will be charged.
The difference from your situation is the size of the parties. If you reserve for 4 you get a 4 size table. If you reserve for 3 you still get a 4 size table. Therefore, Disney is not losing any table space if your husband doesn't show up.
I reserved for a party of 6 which is a larger table. Disney's policy is to seat at least 5 at this table. Therefore, there are losing out on 2 diners if I show up with only 3.
I've asked on this board and talked with every PS dining agent and even with a supervisor and if I show up with 3, I will lose my deposit for the other 3 diners.
I'm still hopeful that I either will be able to pick up a PS for 3 sometime in the next month and a half or will find 3 people who would like to join us for breakfast!!
Sheila