Cheerfully child-free. Anyone else?

[Suzibrat]

Ya know, for the longest time I really really tried to get into kids. Especially since all my friends were having them and I was hearing "oh you'll love them once you have one. It's different when they are yours." Thankfully I didn't fall for that one! I don't hate kids I just am really uneasy around them. Scared? Maybe I am. I don't know. It's not a fear of responsibility because my furbabies are a handful but very well taken care of and pampered. A friend (now ex friend!) once said that you can tell how much love a person has in their heart by the number of children they have. What a crock! The first time DH came to my house, when we were going together, I caught him giving me an odd smile, which I later asked him about. He said "I could tell you have a lot of love in you by the way you treat your animals." I never felt so validated as I did that day.

 

[YachtClubWoman]

I have been thinking about posting here for some time.

I'd like to give another perspective - my husband and I are child-free by circumstance not choice. However, in the last 8 years since making the decision to not try a second time with in-vitro we are at peace with the decison and love our life.

The point I would like to make is that all people that are child free are not also people who have "furbabies". Frankly, a pet is the last thing I would want as you need to be home at certain hours and give up freedom. The term annoys me to no end and you wonder why people come over to the thread to start things up.

 

[LindsayDunn228]

The point I would like to make is that all people that are child free are also people who have "furbabies".

Wrong. I am child-free and have no pets. Please don't generalize.

 

[YachtClubWoman]

Wrong. I am child-free and have no pets. Please don't generalize.

You are right - I missed a word in my post and have corrected it.

Sorry

 

[LindsayDunn228]

You are right - I missed a word in my post and have corrected it.

Sorry

Hakuna Matata

 

[Suzibrat]

I have been thinking about posting here for some time.

The point I would like to make is that all people that are child free are not also people who have "furbabies". Frankly, a pet is the last thing I would want as you need to be home at certain hours and give up freedom. The term annoys me to no end and you wonder why people come over to the thread to start things up.

Excuse us! And didn't you just post that to start another stir up? No one ever said that "child free" automatically meant that you had to have pets. A little thing like referring to our beloved pets as "furbabies" annoys you to no end? Then why did you post here? Why read post after post that annoys you?

 

[Fitswimmer]

Perhaps you do if 40 year old women posting wishes for a nice trip for you, give you a headache.

I was just worried that you might want to consider that you are setting youself up for a bad time, most especially if 72 hours beforehand you are worrying about someone else's behavior over all the other things you could be thinking/planning.

I gotta admit, I don't understand the open hostility toward children. You don't have to like them, true but the need to put down others with a differing viewpoint is..ironically enough, pretty juvenile. IMO.

Then why are you putting her down because she doesn't like kids and doesn't want her peaceful afternoon ruined by someone's badly behaved child?

Not everyone likes dogs, not everyone likes cats and not everyone likes kids. It's a big world.

 

[Jennasis]

I have two dog, four cats and three horses. All of which are my life. But too I HATE the word furbabies (I also hate the word grandbaby). Usually I just refer to my pets as "the kids".

Personally, I see no reason why anyone with children would even bother to read any of this thread, much less post something.

One thing I will say about being CCF, is that it's hard to make/keep friends. The ones we had, now have kids and no longer have time/energy to do "grown-up" stuff, or we simply cannot relate to one another anymore (they want to talk about their kids constantly...and I do not). On the making friends side, it's a lot easier to make new adult friends when you have kids in school/karate/dance/soccer etc and will be exposed to lots of other adults.

HOWEVER, I actually met a fellow DIS'er who lives IN my (very small) town, and is also CCF and a fellow Disney nut! I'm hoping we can get together for dinner and swapping WDW stories when she gets back from her trip to WDW.

 

[CheshireVal]

I'm child free, though hopefully not for long. Looking at it objectively, I kind of think that the cruise comment was blown a little out of proportion. I personally like the idea of having my own kids, but as a currently childless adult, I really don't like having my own activities ruined by other people's children.

For instance, sometimes when I'm sitting at a curb waiting for a parade to start at Disney, I think to myself "I hope no one tries to shove their kids in front of me." Which of course inevitably happens about 50% of the time!

Or if I'm going to a restaurant I think, "I hope a toddler isn't in a booth behind me who spends the whole meal standing up in his seat and turned around dropping things into my booth or staring at us the whole time."

That doesn't mean I don't like kids, but I certainly don't appreciate parents who think their kids are so precious that everyone else in the restaurant/theme park/pool wants to be a babysitter or play pal!

I don't think these parents are the majority, but there are definitely quite a few out there! I keep encountering them.

Again, totally the parents fault and not the children, but I think the sentiment of wanting to be generally left alone is honest and true and really not all that horrible in the grand scheme of things.

I don't mind kids who are playing and having fun and laughing. Heck, I enjoy it when babies play "peek a boo" with me in restaurants sometimes, but when they become intrusive (running around restaurants, hiding in clothes racks in stores and running through the aisles uncontrolled), it's really annoying!

 

[goofygirl]

The term annoys me to no end and you wonder why people come over to the thread to start things up.

So using the word "furbaby" is a reason to stir things up?

I have one piece of advice for people who get irritated at the word "furbaby": GET OVER IT!

Frankly, a pet is the last thing I would want as you need to be home at certain hours and give up freedom

So obvious that you've never had cats!

 

[goofygirl]

Ya know, for the longest time I really really tried to get into kids. Especially since all my friends were having them and I was hearing "oh you'll love them once you have one. It's different when they are yours." Thankfully I didn't fall for that one!

Yeah, when I hear those cliches about it being "different when its your own" and "you'll love it once you have it" I automatically think, "Oh, like Andrea Yates did?"

If it was really true, then there would be no abuse or murder of children by their parents.

 

[TurboKitty]

So using the word "furbaby" is a reason to stir things up?

I have one piece of advice for people who get irritated at the word "furbaby": GET OVER IT!



So obvious that you've never had cats!

I do believe the needle on my Irony-meter just broke off.

 

[goofygirl]

I do believe the needle on my Irony-meter just broke off.

I have no idea what you're trying to say here .

 

[mickeyboat]

Yeah, when I hear those cliches about it being "different when its your own" and "you'll love it once you have it" I automatically think, "Oh, like Andrea Yates did?"

If it was really true, then there would be no abuse or murder of children by their parents.

O.k. I lurk on this thread sometimes, and generally just leave you to your own opinions, but this really bothers me. The vast majority of the human population does not murder its offspring. Andrea Yates was sick. Come on!

And truthfully, I always wanted to have children, and I love my girls, but I am not particularly fond of other people's kids.

 

[Suzibrat]

Yeah, when I hear those cliches about it being "different when its your own" and "you'll love it once you have it" I automatically think, "Oh, like Andrea Yates did?"

If it was really true, then there would be no abuse or murder of children by their parents.

Well said!!!

 

[maddhatir]

I have no idea what you're trying to say here .

I thought I read- I HAVE NO IDEA WHY YOU'RE TRYING TO STAY HERE!

I was going to say- ITA

Here, maybe this will help.....

 

[Jennasis]

I have no idea what you're trying to say here .

If I were guessing, I'd say she was alluding to the notion that those who are irritated by children should "GET OVER IT" as well.

Again I ask, WHY are there any parents contributing their 2 cents to this thread???

 

[goofygirl]

O.k. I lurk on this thread sometimes, and generally just leave you to your won opinions, but this really bothers me. The vast majority of the human population does not murder its offspring. Andrea Yates was sick. Come on!

And truthfully, I always wanted to have children, and I love my girls, but I am not particularly fond of other people's kids.

Yes I know that most people don't abuse or kill their children but that's not my point. The point is that people automatically assume that everything will turn out "honkey dorey" for everybody who has a baby. Well, it doesn't.

 

[goofygirl]

I thought I read- I HAVE NO IDEA WHY YOU'RE TRYING TO STAY HERE!

I was going to say- ITA

Here, maybe this will help.....

 

[PhotobearSam]

Again I ask, WHY are there any parents contributing their 2 cents to this thread???

I am with you...Why won't you (changed the name as to not offend...)People with kids, leave us alone.

We just want a place to call our own and people with kids keep coming here to nag at us...Could you all please leave us alone...You are not going to change our minds so you must be doing it to start the There seems to be no other reason...If that is not your point, then please let us be.

Please leave us alone...we were getting along just fine without you...