What a weird freakin day here! Hang on for a wild, sorta long, story.
My sister is here to pick up her 17yo DS. He is the one that is autistic. She placed him voluntarily with the state of Oregon about 10 years ago, not that she couldn't take care of him, but because he would qualify for many services that he couldn't get if he lived with his natural parent. He lived with one family at first that didn't work out, then finally was placed with his skills trainer at school. She applied to become his foster mom. She is a young, single woman and took wonderful of him. Now that he is going to turn 18 next month, my sister has decided it is time for him to come home. He loses many services, etc. when he turns 18. Her 3 other children are grown and she is in a position to be able to devote much time to him. During the past 8 years that he has been with this foster mom, my sister sees him several times a year, he comes to visit her at Christmas, spring break and summer time. She even got him a cell phone so she can call him every night.
The foster mom has become extremely attached to him and my sister was trying to make this a peaceful transition, but the foster mom has become increasingly difficult to deal with. Finally my sister just called the social workers and they set up a time (this Monday) to turn him over. Yesterday the foster mom called and wanted to meet with my sister, they could tell him together what is happening, etc...
We met them this afternoon at a restaurant, where she told her she has filed for legal guardianship! A few words were exhanged, we left the restaurant and she had her mother (who is a legal process server) chasing my car thru the parking lot trying to serve legal papers! We ended up in a crazy loop around Portland trying to ditch a couple of cars that were following us!
Anyway, my sister was able to get ahold of the social worker, who says that the lady is just a foster mother, has no legal rights and has been ordered to turn him over Monday. We have a feeling that she will try to run with him. She has lots of family that will help her. She is a generally nice lady, but she truly believes that this child is her's and I think she is now willing to do anything to keep him. Anyway, the social worker (thank God my sister had her cell phone number) told her to not stay at my home tonight to avoid getting served with legal papers. They will go to her home tomorrow morning with police presence to remove him. This is so not the way my sister wanted to do this, she wanted to have them maintain their close relationship.
Needless to say, we were both freaking out and I just want you guys to know that if you ever have anyone chasing you I do really well at eluding process servers and cars that are following us.