Can I Vent? (Sorry, a little long)

[CamColt]

As most of you know, FIL passed away this weekend. Before it actually happened I had thought of offering to do the gathering after the funeral at our house. Now once it actually happened, within hours I was TOLD by MIL we had to have the gathering at our house. Im the type of person that does not like to be told what to do so Im really resenting this. Then we saw the forecast and earlier in the week they were saying low 90s for today. Being the only voice of reason in the family I suggested doing it at a restaurant or hall since it would be air conditioned. Nope! No good, it has to be here. So, since Sunday DH and I have been running ourselves ragged cleaning house, shopping for food, setting stuff up(all in 90 degree heat, while lugging 2 kids around). Now the day comes, Im up at 4:30 am rolling cold cuts and making finger sandwiches, and sweating. As I watch the news they say its going to be 98 today with a heat index of 105!!!!!!!!!!!! I like it hot as much as the next guy, but this is ridiculous! The kicker is I just know people(mostly MIL) are going to complain how hot the house is! Im already trying to control myself from flipping out.
So, if you could send some very cool pixie dust this way, and maybe some ice too, Id appreciate it. It would help me to get throught he next few hours. Thanks!

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Icy PD showers sent...

 

[dianeschlicht]

We'll send our nice little cool front your way soon. Probably not in time though. Just calmly remind them that YOU wanted to do it at a nice cool restaurant.

 

[jldriscoll]

Snowy cool PD on it's way!!!!!

You're a good person to do this!

 

[Disney Doll]

I would say to the first person that complained about the heat, "Well, I wanted to do it at a restaurant because I knew it was going to be very warm, but my mother-in-law wanted it here." If your MIL is the first person to complain about the heat,then I'd say, "Well, I wanted to do it at a restaurant because I knew it was going to be warm, but YOU wanted it here."

Pixie icicles coming your way!!!!!!!

 

[Spinning]

Oh I am so sorry to hear about your FIL.
I hope you will get a t least a breeze or something.
Prayers and thoughts headed your way!

 

[helenabear]

Icy cold PD being sent your way... I hope it all goes well today for you. {{{hugs}}}

 

[CamColt]

Thanks everyone! I feel sort of guilty to be complaining about all this, however I do have to say I think doing it all here is ridiculous. Even if it were 85 degrees Id be in a better frame of mind about it. DH has said the first person who complains about the heat gets pushed off the deck into the pool(its a very high deck ).

I just keep saying to myself...10 days until WDW, 10 days until WDW.

 

[newmousecateer]

Sorry this pressure had to be put on you and DH

I'm sending frozen PD your way right now.

(No need to feel guilty, I would feel the same way).

 

[Kermit]

I'm sending some icy PD your way. (I'll have to get it out of the freezer because it's not any cooler here. ) I hope it turns out as well as you can expect that kind of gathering to turn out. {{{Hugs}}}

 

[bfeller]

I too don't like to be told what to do. My MIL is gone, my SIL's, all 5 of them, now like to tell who is going to have the next gathering. Of course 3 of them never have anything because their houses are too small. Anyway, your vent is one that is justified. I don't understand why people think that a person who is grieving should be running around their house cleaning, going to the store to stock the fridge, and all other stuff. You are going through such an ordeal in your life, how can you be expected to be a host/hostest. Unless you are want to do it and it helps in your grieving process, then take a stand. Just ask my DH's 5 sisters. They thought that we should have the funeral gathering at our house because we have the biggest house. Of course they also thought that since I was a SAHM that I should be at the hospital everyday with their mom(MIL) which I didn't mind, but after a 5 month stay in the hospital my house and household was a wreck. I did the funeral gathering thing when my parents died and I lived out of town and did it at my dead parents house with a 2 and 5 year old. Learned my lesson. Been there and done that. Will not ever do it again. Oops, this turned into my mini rant. Sorry!!!!

Best Wishes to you today. Hope the weatherman is wrong and the temperature will not be as hot. They have been known to be wrong.

 

[Serena]

{{{hugs}}}

 

[ILUVDXL]

Throwing ((((HUGS)))) from the freezer. Try to keep your KOOL! Being in the same neck of the woods I know exactly how you feel. If I have to live in my bedroom one more night or eat another salad, I think I'll scream.

Do the best you can. You can always hide in the shower.

 

[Amy]

{{hugs}} to you, and strength to make it thru the day. I totally agree with Disney Doll - make it known that having the wake at your house was MIL's idea, not yours. On the plus side, it should be a very short wake - everyone will want to leave and get into some air conditioning!

 

[JerseyJanice]

I'm sorry, Cam, that I didn't notice your father-in-law passed away. My condolences to you and your family.

And I'm sorry, too, that your MIL stuck you with the repast in this heat.

Hang in there. {{{hug}}}

 

[leahannpen]

First, my condolences! I'm sorry to hear about FIL.

Second, can you set up a few window/box fans? Even if you have to maybe buy 1 or 2, it would help ciculate the air a little bit.

I hope everything goes okay for you. Try to keep cool, and keep your cool! It'll be over at this time tomorrow, and you get to go to WDW soon! How great is that?

 

[glo]

HUgs...I hope everything goes well. Try to keep calm and remember that it is only for a few hours. I am sorry Sending you lots of calming PD and a prayer or two.

 

[gemmie214]

I am so sorry about your FIL. This extra stress is not what you need after losing a loved one. I'll send you lots of icy PD but I'm afraid it will melt on the way.

 

[tc]

I, too, missed your post about your FIL passing away. I am so sorry to hear that.

Chilly pd sent from out west. It has been cold here the last couple of days (91 today though), so maybe I can make it hurry on east.

I hope the day goes smoothly. Lots of fans could help

P.S. You're going to WDW on my birthday. I was supposed to be there then, but we decided to push it out a couple of weeks. Have a great time and a Kaki Gori and think of me on my b-day, k?

 

[Saffron]

Oh Cam. Lots of stress and heat all in the same day. I'm sorry. I hope this afternoon things go well and quickly. {{{{Hugs}}}}