Can I just vent for a minute?????

[disfan07]

Why do people feel the need to make comments about anything adn everything?!?!?!

My cousin has a 2 1/2 year old girl and a 3 month old boy. Her husband is out of town a lot on business so I help with the kids a lot. Well, this weekend, she was sick and her husband and parents were out of town so the kids came and stayed with me adn my parents for the weekend.
I took the older one to the grocery store on saturday and OMG...the stares adn comments i got from people was astounding...and it was even better when i took both of them to the playground!!!

I'm 20 but i look about 16/17 and obviously, everyone thought they were mine.

But, kids really do have the best timing.... she overheard someone make a comment about if i was her mom and she piped up and was like...."she is not my mommy she's my cousin duhhhhh" crossed arms, sassy attitude and all....it was priceless

 

[Arielle22]

I have a 16 yr old dd and when we were out with my 3 yr old nephew, I left them together with the cart and went down the aisle. When I returned my dd said never to do that because she got dirty looks from people.

Of course, she had bright purple streaks in the front of her hair so it could have been that

 

[MommaSnowwhite]

When I was 14 I was in a store with my nephew in a car seat in the cart and an eldery woman walked by and looked into the cart and exlaimed "Babies having babies!" and huffed off. I was so mad - I told my DSis never to leave me alone with him in the store again!

Even funnier was a couple of years later when I would drop of her two children at the day care for her - the looks were amazing!

 

[Robmom]

I can sort of relate to this. When I was pregnant with my DD 17 years ago, I used to get dirty looks from people, because I looked like a teenager. I actually had to walk around with sunglasses on. When I told my mother this, she didn't believe me, but we were out one day, and she saw it. Sadly, it didn't happen when I was pregnant with my DS. I guess I aged now.

 

[Cindy's Mom]

On the flip side of this......years ago, when I was about 21, my dad and I went to see Barry Manilow. We went to the Chicago Theater - my mother let me wear her mink coat.....my dad is pretty successful and a sharp dresser, and he is 33 years older than me.

He is an old school gentleman, when we walk - he hooks my arm in case I slip and fall.

We're walking from the parking lot to the theater and people were staring at us. I thought it was the coat.

Then we go to the portable bar in the theater - we each get a cocktail and people are still staring (the coat is gone now so I don't know what's up) He picked up on it right away and he said "they think I'm your sugar daddy"

Then I glanced the lobby with new eyes and he was 100% right - all these older women were giving him dirty looks.

He didn't give a hoot - he was taking his daughter to see her favorite artist and inspiration for playing piano all those year.

 

[Becky2005]

I totally forgot about stuff like this. I remember my nephew lived with us for a short time along with my sister...I was 14 when he was born, sure enough she left me with him in the cart at the store while she ran to go get something -- I actually had a positive comment about a cute baby & asking his age, etc... -- I couldn't think of his age!! He was only a few months old (probably about 6 months? He was just starting to learn to sit-up) -- I'm stammering and finally get out that "He's my nephew!" because the way the question was asked I'm pretty sure they thought he was mine. I was never so glad when my sister got back.

We have had the opposite though when my DD was born -- everyone seemed to think my mom was the "mom" and not Grandma. I'm not really sure who they thought I was -- the tagalong sister?

My poor DD already gets things and she doesn't even have a kid along with her -- I'm *sure* when she is older and has children, everyone is going to think she is younger than she is. People think she is 11 - 12 as it is right now & she is 15. She's not going to get any taller, so it's something she is going to have to live with. Drives her crazy at the moment. Then there is my oldest son who people used to think he was older than he was so I think they always thought he was a little bit bratty "not acting his age" since he wasn't acting the 2 years older that they thought he was.

I NEVER try to figure out how old someone is due to having dealt with it. I'm bad at it anyway.

 

[SleepyMom]

But, kids really do have the best timing.... she overheard someone make a comment about if i was her mom and she piped up and was like...."she is not my mommy she's my cousin duhhhhh" crossed arms, sassy attitude and all....it was priceless

Love this! Too cute

Once I had a friends 6 month old twins with me and I needed to go to a store, DD (about 16 at the time) came with to help. I was holding the girl and DD the boy and she saw someone from school in another checkout line, they smiled at each other and said hi and then we moved on. A few weeks later DD told me this girl had been treating her differently at school and being snotty to her, so DD finally asked if something was wrong. The girl told DD she was a Christian and she thought it was very wrong for DD to have a baby at such an age and not married.

Why she assumed DD was the mom is beyond me I was standing right there holding the other baby who were obviously the same age so one could guess they were twins, maybe they were both mine.

Second, for being a Christian she was sure quick to pass judgement on my DD without knowing any facts. DD set her straight saying we were watching them, but I still found her attitude really rubbed me wrong.

 

[NMAmy]

Here's one to make you laugh! My sister is 10 years older than I am. When I was 12, she was pregnant with my nephew and lived in another city. My mother was trying to buy her some maternity clothes and hustled me into the maternity store because she and I were the same height.

So, here's my mom, holding up maternity pants against her 12 year old daughter to make sure they'd be long enough. I thought the sales lady was going to faint. And I wanted to fall right through the floor.

 

[mrsv98]

Man when we all get together, no one can figure ANYTHING out! DMom had me when she was barely 18 and my youngest brother when she was 42, I am the oldest but was last to have a child; DBro and DSis already have one each in high school! while youngest bro is still in college!

Then add in the fact that DSis-in-law is from Peru and DSis's ex is Puerto Rican so the kids are all mixed while DD is blond and fair!

DMom looks pretty young still so when we are all out together we definitely get some looks! We have fun with it though and take any sideways glances in stride.

 

[worm761]

Sometimes you just have to laugh. As I have gotten older I have figured that one out. I look young for my age. I am now 33 and pregnant. I don't get the stares like I used to. For my 21st birthday, we went out to eat. I was handed a kids menu! THAT is how young I used to look. I had my DS right before I turned 20 so I heard it all. It really doesn't help that he has Asperger's so sometimes is very different. What they saw was a teen mom trying to control and out of control brat. The reality was...I was 25 and DS was just having a moment. I always left when he did but children's timing is perfect. If he was going to have a moment it would always start in the back of the store so we got to walk out with everyone staring. Lots of comments. And only once did I go off on someone. She started yelling at me for disciplining MY child! I yelled back. Poor lady did not expect that. LOL

 

[DVC Sadie]

On the flip side of this......years ago, when I was about 21, my dad and I went to see Barry Manilow. We went to the Chicago Theater - my mother let me wear her mink coat.....my dad is pretty successful and a sharp dresser, and he is 33 years older than me.

He is an old school gentleman, when we walk - he hooks my arm in case I slip and fall.

We're walking from the parking lot to the theater and people were staring at us. I thought it was the coat.

Then we go to the portable bar in the theater - we each get a cocktail and people are still staring (the coat is gone now so I don't know what's up) He picked up on it right away and he said "they think I'm your sugar daddy"

Then I glanced the lobby with new eyes and he was 100% right - all these older women were giving him dirty looks.

He didn't give a hoot - he was taking his daughter to see her favorite artist and inspiration for playing piano all those year.

Cindy, the same thing happened to me when I was younger. Now that so many men have "trophy" wives I don't see the "looks" anymore.

Sadly, where we live it's nothing to see a young teen pregnant and I haven't noticed them getting "ugly" looks.

 

[cinderellascastle29]

I TOTALLY know how you feel. I'm 21 and I nanny 3 kids 9,6, and 2. When I take all three out somewhere people look at me with shocking stares and sympathy. It used to bother me, but I just laugh now because who are they to judge me, they don't know who the kids are in relation to me and it isn't fair for them to pass such judgments.

 

[Magic Mom]

Maybe the were looking because they thought you were a great, big sister.

 

[Fire14]

I had it once with an ole lady lecturing me about a kid having a kid. I finally got fed up and told her she quit lecturing me and MHOB as I was the aunt and was actually older than the mother!!!

 

[dis-happy]

LOL This scenario happens a lot in my family. My oldest, a dd, was 18 and starting college when my youngest was born. She never wants to be too near the baby (holding him, pushing the stroller) in public because everyone just assumes she's the teen mom. Doesn't make her happy one bit!!! I just laugh about it....

 

[disfan07]

Whats so funny about it is they look absolutely nothing like me. I have red hair and brown eyes and my cousins daughter is as blond as they come with blue eyes.


Nothing compares though to the looks i got one time last year. Before I moved i babysat for a family with 4 kids, youngest 1 and oldest 9. One afternoon, their mom had to take one of the kids to the ER and their dad was not home so i ended up going to the oldests school to pick him up. Because I was not on their list at the time to pick up the kids, I had to park and go in and get him so when i got to the school and got out of the car with the 1 year old and 4 year old, the looks on some of the parents faces were priceless. I have never seen so many confused parents in my life

 

[pixiewings71]

I used to get the looks but that's because I was a 16 y.o. Mom. People thought my Mom was my DD's Mom. Now I'm 38 and DD is 21, she's got her own baby girl but people think she's mine. People think DD21 and I are sisters, we look very much alike, she looks older then she is and I look younger then I am. I also have 2 other DD's, 13 & 9, you should the looks DD21 gets when she's out with them. LOL It's really crazy when we go someplace with my Mom, everyone thinks we are all her kids, even my 2 youngest, and that my GDG (Mom's GGD) is her only GDG. lol I guess we are just a very confusing family.

 

[FireDancer]

I find life got much easier when I stopped caring what other people think about me. I can pretty much pass as a high school kid if I shave and often get weird glances when I take my nephew for my friend's kids out to the park. It is what it is and my life will continue despite their uninformed opinion of me.

 

[golfgal]

I can sort of relate to this. When I was pregnant with my DD 17 years ago, I used to get dirty looks from people, because I looked like a teenager. I actually had to walk around with sunglasses on. When I told my mother this, she didn't believe me, but we were out one day, and she saw it. Sadly, it didn't happen when I was pregnant with my DS. I guess I aged now.

Same here, I was out buying maternity clothes with my Mom and Sister and we were NOT getting a lot of assistance from the clerk. When I went to make my purchase and took out my checkbook to pay the clerk said Oh, I thought you were another pregnant teenager. I should have just dumped the stuff and left but at the time it was the only maternity store around.

 

[MinnieMe87]

My sister in law is pregnant, and I have been shopping for baby clothes for shower gifts and just because gifts. I cannot tell you how many times I have been checking out and someone has asked me when I'm due. I look younger than I am (I'm 22) and I don't look even close to being pregnant. I've even had someone ask if I was giving up the baby for adoption so that I can have my life back. I just smile and politely tell them I'm buying gifts for my future niece and go about my business.