Calling Child Welfare

[mickeyboat]

I guess the answer does not seem as cut and dry to me as it does to the rest of you. Mandatory reporting aside, I am not sure I would contact the police or child services based on what has been shared here.

I think my choice might be determined by how "nasty" the nasty talk was. Was he trying to coerce other children to do something? Did he do it more than once or was this an isolated incident? Was there something physical involved? Was there some indication that he "knew" more than the typical 10 year old?

Clearly this little boy has issues - lack of supervision and a misunderstanding or carelessness as to what is appropriate behavior. But I don't know that he is a menace to society or even a continuting real danger to the OP's daughter based on the limited information posted.

Would I insist my child not play with him? Absolutely. Would I report him to child welfare or the police? I am not so sure.

My two cents.

Denae

 

[lulugirl]

BTW, lulugirl, I don't know what the nasty talk entailed. I didn't push her on it, as she seemed to be more upset about the other.

I was just curious if you meant foul language, mean spirited insults or creepy sexually suggestive type stuff.
If it was sexual in nature then I would say that exposing himself is a clear escalation of the behavior.

 

[C.Ann]

I think calling Child Welfare was the appopriate thing to do..

OP has no way of knowing if this was a "one time incident" or if he has exposed himself to other children in other places and the children didn't tell their parents - or the parents chose not to do anything about it..

To OP and DD:

 

[luvmy3]

I hate to be so blunt... but by calling and reporting this you may well have saved a girl in the future from actually being raped. Strong words I know, but I believe it could be.

I really think this is a bit too much. A ten year old with behavoir issues exposing himslf does not equate to rapist in the future. I do not condone his actions, but I'm not going to assume this child will be dangerous criminal in the future because of it.

I guess the answer does not seem as cut and dry to me as it does to the rest of you. Mandatory reporting aside, I am not sure I would contact the police or child services based on what has been shared here.

I think my choice might be determined by how "nasty" the nasty talk was. Was he trying to coerce other children to do something? Did he do it more than once or was this an isolated incident? Was there something physical involved? Was there some indication that he "knew" more than the typical 10 year old?

Clearly this little boy has issues - lack of supervision and a misunderstanding or carelessness as to what is appropriate behavior. But I don't know that he is a menace to society or even a continuting real danger to the OP's daughter based on the limited information posted.

Would I insist my child not play with him? Absolutely. Would I report him to child welfare or the police? I am not so sure.

My two cents.

Denae

I was thinking the same thing earlier but didn't want to post. OP has this been an on going issue or was this the first incident? Did he threaten physical or sexual harm to your dd, or was he just speaking profanities? I know a boy with a dirty mouth and who would probably do something like this because he thought it was "funny" but not mean any real harm. He was my next door neighbor and I am glad he moved away, but I never saw him as dangerous. I have a dd myself and my first thought like your would be her welfare, but I'm not sure I would involve CPS or the police unless this has happened repeatedly, and obviously if there was real threat to your dd's safety in the situation. I'm sorry but I just don't see a 10 year old exposing himself as a dangerous threat unless there is more to the story.

 

[mamacatnv]

I'm just curious, not judging and I know it is now out of your hands.

Did you ever consider talking to the boy yourself and letting him know that his behavior is unacceptable?

10 year old boys are odd creatures and if no one is setting limits then how is he to know that what he is doing is not acceptable behavior? Sure, his older brother might say something but the older brother in reality is to close in age to have any authority in the younger brothers eyes.

I do not think he is a pedophile or sex offender in the making I think he is an unsupervised 10 year old boy who has discovered how to get attention and no one has really sat him down and told him his methods are not acceptable.

IMO

 

[Hedy]

Well, it's out of my hands now -- DH called and talked to CYS. I don't know how I feel about that. Because of what happened to me at her age, it's really hard for me, but also because of it, I wanted to be the one to make that call. He was trying to make it easier for me considering what I've been going through lately. He's a good husband.

They were very matter of fact, just wanted to know time of day, what was said, what was done. They said they'd follow up with more questions if necessary.

BTW, lulugirl, I don't know what the nasty talk entailed. I didn't push her on it, as she seemed to be more upset about the other.

Bless her heart, she asked me this morning what MY mother would have done in a similar situation. I told her probably nothing, but knowing my mother would have (and did) blame me. Geez louise.