Call me crazy...

[spacemountainmom]

I think it is completely normal and hormonal too. I grew up with a sister and just kind of imagined myself as the mother of two girls. We did not know the sex of either baby however my hunch was right each time. I was certain my daughter was a girl and pretty certain my son was a boy. I wanted a boy, but felt overwhelmed by the idea since I only had a sister and 4 of my 5 cousins are girls.

Even though my feeling was that I was having a boy, I was mighty surprised when they told me. I do love that I have one of each, but I would have been fine with two of the same sex as well.

 

[apirateslifeforme]

I'm still ashamed to admit that I would have been a bit disappointed if we were having a girl. Not that I wouldn't love ANY child, not after all we went through to have one...the desire for a boy was, for me, overwhelming. I truly wouldn't know what to do with a girl. All of my life...when I was little and played "house" with my friends, my baby dolls were boys. Whenever I had dreams about children, it was always about boys. My BIL has two girls already (and is done). My MIL once sadly commented that there were no boys in the family. So when we had our ultrasound and I saw the tell-tale "turtle" (before the sonographer said anything), my heart just jumped a thousand miles. And I wish I could have photographed the expression of surprise and ecstasy on DH's face.

Being that this was IVF, we specifically requested 2 embryos be transferred in the hope of having boy-girl twins. We really did want one of each. Everyone else that used our donor and had 2 embryos transferred had twins, so we thought our chances were pretty good. Unfortunately, one of those embryos split into triplets who sadly passed away sometime between 10-12 weeks, and I often find myself wondering if they were boys or girls. I will not allow myself to "decide" as I'm still mourning them (and probably always will). And then we thought that this one would be a girl, as we were told that statistically, IVF results more in girls than boys. Please don't get me wrong; I would have LOVED a girl as well, how could I not? I just feel like it was "meant to be" that we have the boy that we'd hoped for.

 

[superme80]

I'm still ashamed to admit that I would have been a bit disappointed if we were having a girl. Not that I wouldn't love ANY child, not after all we went through to have one...the desire for a boy was, for me, overwhelming. I truly wouldn't know what to do with a girl. All of my life...when I was little and played "house" with my friends, my baby dolls were boys. Whenever I had dreams about children, it was always about boys. My BIL has two girls already (and is done). My MIL once sadly commented that there were no boys in the family. So when we had our ultrasound and I saw the tell-tale "turtle" (before the sonographer said anything), my heart just jumped a thousand miles. And I wish I could have photographed the expression of surprise and ecstasy on DH's face.

Being that this was IVF, we specifically requested 2 embryos be transferred in the hope of having boy-girl twins. We really did want one of each. Everyone else that used our donor and had 2 embryos transferred had twins, so we thought our chances were pretty good. Unfortunately, one of those embryos split into triplets who sadly passed away sometime between 10-12 weeks, and I often find myself wondering if they were boys or girls. I will not allow myself to "decide" as I'm still mourning them (and probably always will). And then we thought that this one would be a girl, as we were told that statistically, IVF results more in girls than boys. Please don't get me wrong; I would have LOVED a girl as well, how could I not? I just feel like it was "meant to be" that we have the boy that we'd hoped for.

Congrats on your son. Hoping for a smooth and quick delivery.

 

[Kellykins1218]

We have 4 boys and I felt a little disappointed each time. I had my tubes tied with the last one & ended up pregnant a year later. It wasn't ectopic, which is what usually happens, and then I miscarried. Everyone kept saying "I bet that was your girl." Ummm thanks? Anyway, that was the one time where I was sure it would be a boy. I figured we'd have our own basketball team.

 

[Aladora]

Totally normal to have a moment of sadness for the "could have been." I grew up with an older sister and always dreamed of having a daughter. When we went in for my 20 week US and the tech said that we were having a boy, I had a moment of sadness but now 10 year later I would not trade my son for anything.

 

[NewRVLady]

I felt this just a brief moment
The funny thing is how polar opposite my 2 boys are
One is traditional boy/man...Fraternity sports hunter
The other is artistic, did gymnastics- played guitar- will go to Art museums with me Lol- and moved 1500 miles away for his dream job- designer( and now a Dad)

 

[superme80]

We have 4 boys and I felt a little disappointed each time. I had my tubes tied with the last one & ended up pregnant a year later. It wasn't ectopic, which is what usually happens, and then I miscarried. Everyone kept saying "I bet that was your girl." Ummm thanks? Anyway, that was the one time where I was sure it would be a boy. I figured we'd have our own basketball team.

Of all the crass, rude, inappropriate things people could say. I'm so sorry.

 

[Bec3b1g]

I felt like this. After 3 boys, we were told boy #4 at our ultrasound. The tech even went on to share that she had only been wrong 2 times in blah blah years. I went home and was sad for a bit, but then I named him and set about decorating the nursery. We were SHOCKED when we had an amnio later in the pregnancy and our little boy was actually a little girl. I'm not sharing this to give you hope that your ultrasound is wrong. Quite the opposite, actually. There are times when I think about my little Anden (that was going to be his name) and get sad I never got to meet him. A 4th boy would have been a pretty special addition to our family. And I never did replace the nursery stuff. DD#4 had a teddy bear themed nursery totally intended for our little boy

 

[BadgerGirl84]

Just wanted to chime in w/ a little bit of reassurance - The same thing happened w/ our younger DS at my first scan. His kidney was still slightly enlarged at a follow-up scan the following month, so I was referred to a high-risk OB as well. I was extremely worried as well. His kidney stayed that way throughout the pregnancy - but, when he was born, he was completely fine. About a week after he was born, we had some kind of special scan or ultrasound done on his kidney, & it had resolved to the point that there was not need for us to do anything further.

Thank you! Thankfully, I'm not sitting around on pins and needles stressing about this. I was hoping to avoid excessive ultrasound scans--looks like that won't be happening! From everything I've read, if they are going to find an anomaly in the 20 week scan, this is the least serious one.

I'm still excited about getting to meet my little girl, but I can't stop thinking about the "what-ifs" if we had been having a boy. I was looking forward to decorating a boy nursery and buying little boy clothes. Any money that will be saved on re-using some of my daughter's clothes will be spent on replacing the carpeting in the nursery--it's a darkish moss green selected by previous owners and it just doesn't go with any design ideas I have for a girl nursery.

 

[bianca]

We had 2 girls and would not have changed a thing. To this day, they are 24/26 and best friends. It really makes your life easier when they are same gender. 26 yo daughter had a boy last year, so we are able to experience a boy, but in a different way. For the record, although she got her boy, he was born with a very serious life threatening disease that he will deal with the rest of his life ..... She didn't get the "healthy" part. I hope you find happiness in your 2 healthy, happy girls.

 

[bigbabyblues]

I was convinced our second was a girl. Name was picked out, I was ready to start shopping. The u/s tech told me he was a boy, and I said she should look again, I was SURE it was a girl. No....very obviously a boy. I cried a little on the way home, but it was just fine.

 

[scrapquitler]

We had our "big" ultrasound today, and we found out we're expecting baby girl #2.

Honestly, I'm feeling disappointed. I really wanted to experience raising both genders. After the tech told us, I did shed a few tears. It feels so silly! She's 100% healthy, so I feel shameful for having this disappointment.

Anyone been in my shoes before?

Been there. When I had the big ultrasound with my second, and they told me it was a boy, I was so disappointed that I burst out in tears. I had always wished to have a sister, but only had brothers, and when I found out that my daughter was going to have a brother instead of a sister, I was devastated. I actually cried for several days.

 

[Hollymom1229]

DH and I are only planning on having this one little one, and we are over the moon excited about her being a little girl. But with our plan to have just one there was a certain amount of sadness over the little boy I will never have. I think it's normal and in no way means you won't love this child with your whole heart.

 

[mummabear]

I haven't personally felt this, but it is somewhat common.
We have 3 girls and I am ecstatic, I do know if it was 3 boys I would have felt some sadness over not having the girlie thing.

 

[Kellykins1218]

Of all the crass, rude, inappropriate things people could say. I'm so sorry.

Thanks

 

[Monykalyn]

I didn't actually know it was so common to be somewhat disappointed and happy at the same time at finding out what the gender is! Totally felt that way with my second daughter- especially as I though at the time it would be our last baby. So when I got pregnant with my third (totally not planned- accidents do happen) we decided not to find out at the ultrasounds (multiple as I was over 35). I was content at whatever gender we had as it really WAS to be last baby - but I was surprised to find he was a boy! Had prepared myself for another girl - Then had a few moments of panic as I had no idea what to do with boys lol! 9 years later I'm still figuring out the boy thing too...

Congrats on another sweet baby girl!

 

[pigletgirl]

Thank you! Thankfully, I'm not sitting around on pins and needles stressing about this. I was hoping to avoid excessive ultrasound scans--looks like that won't be happening! From everything I've read, if they are going to find an anomaly in the 20 week scan, this is the least serious one.

I'm still excited about getting to meet my little girl, but I can't stop thinking about the "what-ifs" if we had been having a boy. I was looking forward to decorating a boy nursery and buying little boy clothes. Any money that will be saved on re-using some of my daughter's clothes will be spent on replacing the carpeting in the nursery--it's a darkish moss green selected by previous owners and it just doesn't go with any design ideas I have for a girl nursery.

I understand completely. I'm not sad this baby is girl, but more sad at the thought of not having a son. I'm not disappointed in her at all. She had no choice in this. Of course it's the loss of an idea... And something I wanted more each day.

DD and this baby will have birthdays in different seasons so we will need some new clothes for her. I think that'll help a lot! I'd also like to get a name settled so we can start calling her that instead of just baby.

I had DD get her baby doll out and call her sister and now she says it all day long. She hasn't got a clue what's coming but that definitely warmed my heart.

 

[pigletgirl]

I'm still ashamed to admit that I would have been a bit disappointed if we were having a girl. Not that I wouldn't love ANY child, not after all we went through to have one...the desire for a boy was, for me, overwhelming. I truly wouldn't know what to do with a girl. All of my life...when I was little and played "house" with my friends, my baby dolls were boys. Whenever I had dreams about children, it was always about boys. My BIL has two girls already (and is done). My MIL once sadly commented that there were no boys in the family. So when we had our ultrasound and I saw the tell-tale "turtle" (before the sonographer said anything), my heart just jumped a thousand miles. And I wish I could have photographed the expression of surprise and ecstasy on DH's face.

Being that this was IVF, we specifically requested 2 embryos be transferred in the hope of having boy-girl twins. We really did want one of each. Everyone else that used our donor and had 2 embryos transferred had twins, so we thought our chances were pretty good. Unfortunately, one of those embryos split into triplets who sadly passed away sometime between 10-12 weeks, and I often find myself wondering if they were boys or girls. I will not allow myself to "decide" as I'm still mourning them (and probably always will). And then we thought that this one would be a girl, as we were told that statistically, IVF results more in girls than boys. Please don't get me wrong; I would have LOVED a girl as well, how could I not? I just feel like it was "meant to be" that we have the boy that we'd hoped for.

I think it's awesome you guys are getting what your heart desires! I really, I mean really wanted a girl with our first and we got her. It's been an amazing two years with her. She's everything and more, but also different than what I had envisioned while pregnant. She is a bit more rough and tough... She loves to play ball with her daddy... She's actually a lot like I was growing up.

Your little boy will be everything and more for you guys! He will be here soon and I'm sure this last month has felt like a 1000 days (because the last month sucks!) but enjoy it all! It's an amazing experience.