Call me crazy...

[pigletgirl]

We had our "big" ultrasound today, and we found out we're expecting baby girl #2.

Honestly, I'm feeling disappointed. I really wanted to experience raising both genders. After the tech told us, I did shed a few tears. It feels so silly! She's 100% healthy, so I feel shameful for having this disappointment.

Anyone been in my shoes before?

 

[soccerdad72]

My wife went through the same thing, albeit in reverse, with our second son. She was really hoping for a baby girl. It was a brief sadness, however, and like you, she realized that a healthy baby was the most important thing.

 

[lorimay]

You are fine, its very normal.
I just read about a lady who wanted to give up her 3rd baby for adoption because it was the third girl. YES, she said that her husband wouldn't let her give the baby away. NOW, thats someone with issues.
Congratulations!!!!
Your girls will be best friends forever.

 

[pigletgirl]

You are fine, its very normal.
I just read about a lady who wanted to give up her 3rd baby for adoption because it was the third girl. YES, she said that her husband wouldn't let her give the baby away. NOW, thats someone with issues.
Congratulations!!!!
Your girls will be best friends forever.

Wow, yeah I definitely don't have it that bad. It just feels kind of like a loss of a dream. Luckily, time heals.

And yes, I do hope they're best friends!

 

[Kitty 34]

I had three sons and never once for a moment felt disappointed. I was just glad they were healthy!

 

[3Gsandme]

I have three daughters. There was a twinge of sadness when dd #2 wasn't a boy, but I cannot imagine not being a mom to three girls. By dd#3, I wanted another girl.

 

[fly girl]

Don't feel shameful, it will be a fleeting feeling. You had your heart set on a boy and it didn't happen. Shed the few tears, go through it, and then you'll move on.

On the plus side:

1. You can recycle your girl items
2. Sister bonds can be truly amazing
3. Boys, ehh. Girls rule and boys drool. (hopefully that gave you a giggle).

 

[lorimay]

I was one of three girls, my dad was sad not to get his boy. BUT He was blessed with 6 grandkids.....5 were boys. He got his wish in all the grandsons with the sports and seeing all their games.

 

[mjkacmom]

I really wanted a boy with #2, especially after finding out my friend, who was due right after me, was having a boy (we both had girls first). I ended up having a boy, but once they reached a certain age, they weren't buddies, even being 20 months apart. Dd12 and dd14, on the other hand, have always been so tight (share a room, clothes, dance together 10+ hours a week! share some friends...). There is a special bond between sisters - I'm close with mine.

 

[Gumbo4x4]

I always wanted 1 of each. Now, with 2 girls & 0 boys, I wouldn't change a thing

 

[DisTXMom]

My husband is a big outdoorsman, so I desperately wanted a boy for him. Nope, two girls! While I was somewhat disappointed, now I am so thankful that I have 2 of the same gender. While they have their different likes/dislikes, they are into a lot of the same things. It allows for a lot of harmony in our home.

 

[cabanafrau]

You're pregnant, I wouldn't read much into it. The hormones can do a bit of a number on you. While pregnant with my first I could literally change moment to moment what I was wishing for, generally depending on seeing a too cute baby and deciding that's what I wanted -- until I saw another too cute baby and deciding that's what I wanted. With my second I felt different in the pregnancy so I convinced myself it meant I was having a boy. Of course I was terribly guilty because I secretly wanted a girl so my oldest would have a sister and I was positive I was making my baby boy feel bad. Turns out I was simply being pregnant and hormonal and kind of whackadoodle. When it came time for each of my daughters to be born and I heard the words it's a girl I realized each time what I really wanted to hear was a baby crying and be told it was healthy.

 

[jetskigrl]

I went through that when I found out my second one was a boy. I have a close relationship with my sister and I was kind of hoping that my DD would have a sister to bond with too. But now I can't imagine not having my son. He is so funny, considerate and compassionate. He is going to make a great husband one day

And I'm surprised every day how my two can get along so well (not all the time, of course..but enough that it surprises me considering they are different genders and 5 years apart).
And I am glad that I have gotten to experience raising one of each gender.

But darn it killed me to have to give away all those adorable pink outfits that I had been saving since DD was a baby

 

[Wendy31]

I understand.

But, somewhat in reverse, actually.

Our first child was a girl, &, when I found out I was pregnant w/ #2, I thought I wanted another girl. W/ them being only 18 months apart in age, I just got my heart set on 2 little girls - being friends & sharing toys & clothes. Plus, I have a sister & cherish that "sister-bond."

After our ultrasound, when we discovered that #2 was not going to be a little sister, but, instead, a little brother, I do admit I felt a little disappointed.

My mom (who has only ever been the mom of girls & really prefers girls) though absolutely crushed me - but, also, in a sense completely changed my mind & made me realize I was actually happy about my little boy. When I told my mom we were having a boy, she said w/ a little disappointed sigh, "Oh, I was hoping for another girl. They could have shared so much!"

And just to hear it said out loud, from someone I thought should have been happy regardless... I don't know... it just kind of completely reversed my thinking. "I'm having a baby boy, & it's going to be okay. Even better, it's going to be fun. And I'm happy."

I don't think I'm making any sense. LOL! But a little initial disappointment is natural.

And, by the time I was pregnant w/ #3, instead of wanting another girl, I really secretly wanted another little boy while it was DH who wanted another girl.

And, now, we wouldn't trade any of our 3 children for anything. Our family is how it was meant to be.

There's a part of me that's sorry that DD doesn't have a sister & won't know that wonderful bond between sisters - especially after she's grown. But I really can't even imagine our family being any other way now than w/ our 1 DD & our 2 DSs. For us, 1 girl & 2 boys are perfect.

And it will be the same way w/ your two girls!

Little girl clothes are so darling! And all the little hair accessories! I've told DH that it's a good thing our third child was a boy & not a girl - otherwise I would have spent a fortune on her clothes!

 

[Pinkos]

I think it's perfectly normal. I had a boy first. When I found out I was expecting #2, I couldn't make my mind up. The thought of 2 little boys melted my heart, I could picture them being the best of buddies. But on the flip side, I longed for a little girl to experience both genders, and for me when I was older- little boys grow up to have wives, I wanted a little girl so she would grow up still wanting to spend time with me. So since I was torn, you'd think I'd be ok either way. When they told us the sex ( girl) , I had mixed emotions. Happy, but also sad. I agree with the previous poster, it's prob a lot to do with all those hormones! lol. Once you have the baby, and you get into the routine of being a family of four ... You won't be able to picture your family any other way!! And like you already mentioned, she's a healthy baby, and that's all that matters.

 

[Kitty 34]

I was one of three girls, my dad was sad not to get his boy. BUT He was blessed with 6 grandkids.....5 were boys. He got his wish in all the grandsons with the sports and seeing all their games.

That's what I'm hoping for........but for girls. I've already told my sons and now wives that I'm buying the pinkist crib around for my granddaughter(s)!!!

 

[gemini2727]

It is a bit of grief for the loss of a vision of your future you had. Don't feel bad about your feelings, and I'm sure they'll be a memory soon!

 

[TLSnell1981]

My first child was stillborn. Gender never mattered, just a heathy baby.

 

[Disneylover99]

I am the youngest girl out of four girls - no brothers.
When I was born and the doctor announced it was a girl, my mother was disappointed. She asked the doctor to please check again.

Don't worry. Your feelings are normal. You won't feel disappointed for long.

 

[MickeySP]

All boys in this family too. I was thrilled!!!

Even if you got one of each no guarantees you get the boyish boy & girlie girl. My poor Mom wanted more than anything to dress me up, dolls, tea parties. Umm me - I would rather be in a tree or playing football.

I was & still am very untraditional just by nature.