Broken Promise

[CurlyGirl]

I was wondering what a 9 month anniversary because I cannot imagine being engaged to someone I had dated only 9 months, let alone someone that cannot afford a night out.

Guess us old married folks just don't get it. I've been with DH over 27 years.

Denise in MI

It's my guess that this couple probably lives paycheck to paycheck. There's probably very little money inbetween for extras since she says her money is tight.

I just am curious on how they'll pay for a wedding if money is scarce or tight.

 

[Bob NC]

I just am curious on how they'll pay for a wedding if money is scarce or tight.

Why? What makes you curious about that?

 

[mjkacmom]

I was wondering what a 9 month anniversary because I cannot imagine being engaged to someone I had dated only 9 months, let alone someone that cannot afford a night out.

Guess us old married folks just don't get it. I've been with DH over 27 years.

Denise in MI

I've been with DH for over 23 years, but have known him much longer.

 

[CurlyGirl]

Why? What makes you curious about that?

Human nature I suppose.

 

[dzorn]

I've been with DH for over 23 years, but have known him much longer.

I've known DH since 8th grade.

Denise in MI

 

[grumpy101]

my fiancee doesn't live with me he still lives with his mom and takes care of because she has cancer again. I just talked my fiancee on the Phone he went out and bought me a present with the money he had leftover from his fishing trip to show how sorry he was for breaking plans for 2nite.

 

[CurlyGirl]

So .... what did he get for you!?

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

He should not have promised without tickets in hand.

I'm very sorry that he did that.

As for counting months...some like to do that. To me it is irrelevant. Just because someone doesn't find something important, doesn't mean that you have no right to be upset. He could have promised because it was Tuesday. Why he promised is irrelevant.

Don't make promises you can't keep!

 

[LuvsDragonflies]

Am I the only wondering what you are doing getting married to a man that can't even afford to take you to a movie?

Sorry about the disappointment honey, but this is something worth thinking about before hooking up all legal like.

 

[amg35]

Am I the only wondering what you are doing getting married to a man that can't even afford to take you to a movie?

Sorry about the disappointment honey, but this is something worth thinking about before hooking up all legal like.

Come on, we've heard (on here I'm sure) tons of stories about couples starting out who didn't have two dimes to rub together. I don't think it's that foreign of a concept.

Not that I would do it....

 

[SaraJayne]

Am I the only wondering what you are doing getting married to a man that can't even afford to take you to a movie?

Sorry about the disappointment honey, but this is something worth thinking about before hooking up all legal like.

Seeing as I married a man that was poorer than a church mouse, I have no issue with that.

It's how she handles it that could become a problem.

 

[LuvsDragonflies]

This is true. If it becomes a pattern of promises and disappointment, it won't be a happy road.

PS: I see a big difference in young people starting out together broke and marrying and older people being broke and marrying. Double standard? Probably. I just think older people would have it more together

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

I'm a dingbat--here I thought Broadway show--I guess I didn't realize the movie version just came out. Still--a promise is a promise and he broke it. Fishing was more important. It will continue to be more important. Plans change--but geesh.

 

[addicted_to_WDW]

It was probably more of a, "yeah, we can see the Lion King," as opposed to, "I promise that we will go see The Lion King." He may not have realized the importance of the day/movie.

 

[LuvsDragonflies]

It was her birthday present, how do you not get that as being important?

Then again, Mr. Gotznobux spent a week fishing with the buds so......

 

[addicted_to_WDW]

It was her birthday present, how do you not get that as being important?

Then again, Mr. Gotznobux spent a week fishing with the buds so......

No, it was a 9 month anniversary present, and most guys aren't going to consider a 9 month anniversary celebration-worthy.

 

[SaraJayne]

It was her birthday present, how do you not get that as being important?

Then again, Mr. Gotznobux spent a week fishing with the buds so......

No, it's their "9 month anniversary".

 

[Octoberbride03]

I was wondering what a 9 month anniversary because I cannot imagine being engaged to someone I had dated only 9 months, let alone someone that cannot afford a night out.

Guess us old married folks just don't get it. I've been with DH over 27 years.

Denise in MI

My Dh and I only dated officially for about 4 months before we got engaged, and we'll be married for 8 years in 2 weeks. Though we knew each other for over a year by then. But still we never did the "Monthly" engagement stuff. That only sets people up for trouble. Hell, last year Dh and I didn't even buy anniversary cards for each other. If we can afford to do something or somewhere we do. If we can't we can't. I don't worry about it.

 

[dennis99ss]

From a married guys standpoint.

Yes dear. we should have gone to the movie. I am so sorry honey. I promise not to be such a sorry excuse of a husband in the future.



But, really, fishin with the guys, drinkin, fartin, cussin vs. a 3d movie......

Well, i would probably take the heat from the missus and go drinkin, fartin, cussin as well.

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

No, it was a 9 month anniversary present, and most guys aren't going to consider a 9 month anniversary celebration-worthy.

There is no such thing as a 9 month anniversary. I know that I didn't care and I doubt that my wife did.

He disappointed her, and that is unfortunate. He should try to make it up to her. Making more of it than that would be even more unfortunate than his mistake.