I'm ok with the fact that some of you don't believe me. Why would you? You don't know me, as I said already I can only tell my side, I can't get much more clear than that.
I've been around here long enough to know how the Dis...and other places work. Eventually you're gonna get people calling you a liar and assuming all sorts of things about you that aren't true. Again, I get it.
Think what you want about why I even started this to begin with. I was venting, period.
I do have to wonder tho if some of you just purposely misread things I post or what?
Everybody in my family is NOT against me. In fact NOBODY is, except the bride, my brother, and my mother. Tho I have now come to a place with her where we're ok, so we're down to just 2 who hate me at the moment.
My brother's engagment was bought and paid for by my brother. I NEVER said otherwise. I said I planned it for him, which I did. He told me what he wanted, I knew how to set it up for him. Simple as that. He asked us to go down in secret to act as an onsite coordinater, HE also paid for OUR trip expenses btw, so we did.
In retun we threw them an engagement dessert party in Epoct. I know it all sounds so unbelievably sorted.
The only mentions of money..that I remember..this is a looong thread..were where I was trying to point out how ridiculous one of the bridesmaids were for thinking their room portion of $80 per night was going to buy them their own room at the Grand Floridian Villas. I'm sure she had NO idea what it cost in total, NO, I did not tell her. We don't own DVC so yes, I paid out of pocket. It was the fact that she acted like such a snot about not having her own room that I had issue with.
Again, the Bride is the one who chose Disney, not me. I feel like if there was any sort of issue with assuming the girls could cover the expenses, that is on her. I never asked the girls to go to Disney, nor did I insist they pay for something they couldn't afford. Again, her.
Because Disney IS what she REQUESTED, and I knew she wanted the other girls to be able to go, I drastically reduced their share down to what would have been less than even a third of the real expenses so they could come.
I wasn't saying that to brag. I was pointing out how hard I tried to do anything and everything I could to make her happy.
Same with the spa, I didn't want the girls to feel left out, so I paid for pedicures. Unless they read it here...NOBODY knows that I did that. I secretly sent them both messages on Facebook asking if I could treat them both. I then made the reservations, and we all went like normal. I NEVER made a big deal to everyone about paying for things. I wouldn't have wanted to embarrass anyone like that! I told them I had enough Disney Rewards points to cover it, so it wouldn't cost me a thing. Not exactly true, but then I'm a liar so what do you expect.
I did pay for all of their expenses at Jelly Rolls, their room service, the Villians Soiree tickets...not to make myself feel like some sort of benefactor, not to make them fall to the floor in praise of my generosity. I did it because I wanted everybody to have a good time together, and that's the only way it was gonna happen. In that regard, I guess I was selfish. I thought having everyone together and doing all of these things together would make for a fun weekend. It didn't, and yes that made ME sad. I was looking forward to it as well.
I don't even care that I didn't get a simple thank-you. All I would have liked was just some plain and simple kindness! A smile every now and then. Some laughter, some friendliness. Geez! I would have been happy if they at least acted like they were enjoying themselves!
And before someone says it..again..I was NOT forcing these girls into misery by making them do anything! These were all things they had asked to do..I just arranged it..and paid for it..all.
I have absolutely NO deep rooted jelousy over my own wedding, or lack of rather. lol DH and I had our own wedding 5 years later on the beach in Jamaica. I don't begrudge my brother or sister anything. I'm HAPPY for them, I LOVE them!
DH has made sure that I have always had anything and everything I could possibly want. There is no need or room for me to be jealous, there just isn't. If you must take that as a brag, take it as a brag on my DH. He certainly derserves it.
I called my brother her "baby boy", because he is indeed her favorite, and wants for absolutely nothing. This has never bothered ME because my mother COULD NOT do those types of things for my sister and I growing up. She absolutely WOULD HAVE if she COULD HAVE, and that's enough for me.
Since she married my step-father she has the means in which to support him like she does. Not going into detail with it. Its quite embarrassing actually. She lets my brother waste more money on nonsense than a lot of people make in a year. Probably won't believe that either..it's ok, neither did I until I actually saw the proof.
We call him the prince, and pick on my mother endlessly that we know which of us she really loves. Is there truth to it, a little. I assure you tho, it has only ever been said in fun..at least on my part anyway.
We DID get along before this. The Bride and DD have had minor issues in the past. They are almost the same age, and have had bickering arguments the way girls do sometimes. Yes my DD does have issues, more than I realized, with my brother for the constant putting her down to build the bride up. I never even knew the extent of it until we discussed it since all this happened. She has always done a good job at hiding it, which makes me very sad.
Where did I say I was banking on a divorce? I'm pretty sure I did NOT. If she is what my brother wants, then I hope with all of my heart they stay together forever. I want him to be HAPPY. I don't have to live with her! I certainly would not want him to be without the woman he loves just because we don't get along and have to deal with each other a few times a year.
Lastly, (I hope lol) I am an emotional person, it's true. I have been desperatly sad and anxious since we got home. I do NOT however love drama. I've said what I needed to to her this morning. I know I've done all I can at this point, so I truly feel like I have some peace about it.
It may not seem so, but I'm quite normal I promise.lol I'm no martyr I assue you! I just like to do nice things for nice people, that's all. Tho I must admit to not knowing when to walk away from the computer.
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