Bridzilla Disney Style?

[Brier Rose]

Ok, this is the Dis, and I know how lots here love a good “2 sides to every story” smack down, so let me just say from the get-go this is MY personal experience. I’m just feeling pretty down, and need a vent session..no validation..no I’m so right and she’s so wrong..it is what it is.

On that note, l just returned home last night from the absolute hands down worst Bachelorette trip, or ANY trip for that matter that I have ever experienced in my life!!

The Bride is my brother’s fiancée, the maid of honor is..was..my daughter, so we took on all the planning. We all love Disney, so the Bride wanted Food and Wine Festival, great right??

We starting planning…months and months and MONTHS of planning. I formed a Facebook Group so that I could ask everyone involved in every step of the planning what they wanted to do and when. I never assumed one single activity..everything was put to a vote.
I booked a 2-Bedroom Villa at the Grand Floridian Villas for 3 nights with 2 day park hoppers for everyone. The girls are young, so I thought I’d be nice and just let them pay $500 each for the trip. That didn’t even cover HALF of the room, but that’s fine!

We picked a theme…Alice in Wonderland. We had all the girls pick a character, but didn’t tell them why. We had mini top hats custom made to match each character..they were BEAUTIFUL!! The Bride was Alice, and as a gift my daughter and I also had a beautiful Alice in Wonderland corset custom made for her in Milan Italy.

We made very detailed and elaborate themed ‘hangover” kit boxes for the girls, a sash for the Bride, and spend crazy amounts of time even making an Alice in Wonderland themed Epcot drinking game that we had cards designed and printed for.

I picked up allll the Brides expenses from her food to her spa treatments, every single thing. Not ONE offer from anyone else to help. There were two girls who couldn’t afford the spa, so I even paid for pedicures for them both because I didn’t want them to feel left out. I booked limos for transportation, ordered them room service for meals, and even bought them all tickets to them Villains Sinister Soiree at $100 each.

From Day One…5 hours into the trip..the Bride was “disappointed”. She did NOT want to eat at La Hacienda for dinner..which I had NO idea of. We’ve eaten there plenty of times before!! I got tables by the water so we had a PERFECT view of Illuminations and she wouldn’t even look out the window because she “hated everything about being there”. The other 2 girls were basically just mirror images of her. Well, except the one that got made because she was under the impression that she would have her OWN ROOM at the Villa. Lol

The plan was to go to Jelly Rolls after, so we did. She and the other 2 girls sat in the corner and literally pouted all night…I am not kidding. Total strangers asked us what was wrong with the Bride. I had NO clue at this point. I called my brother to ask if I had done something to upset her..that’s when I found out about the restaurant issue.

We got back to the villa she and the other girls went in one room, closed the door, and didn’t speak to any of the rest of us at all.
Next day..complaints about getting up for the Spa, and she was mad I didn’t tell her to pack a bathing suit. I had a hair and make-up team come to do “glam makeup” in the Villa before MNSSHP as a special treat. I even skipped the massage I had planned for myself so they could start on me while she took a shower..she was mad because she felt “rushed”.

They left before us for the party and we didn’t see them again until the Villains Party. They sat there..didn’t say one word to us..didn’t look around..didn’t crack a smile..hated all the desserts, and the Bride got pissed when Dr. Faciler tried to play around with her. We left without speaking..came in..they went in one room and closed the door again.
I didn’t speak to them again until the Bride texted me while at Epcot to meet up with her to give her a wristband for her food and drinks. They wouldn’t even meet us for dinner.

Come to find out..she DID NOT want to play any sort of game while in Epcot..wouldn’t look at it..wasn’t interested in it..and avoided us at all costs to keep from having to “talk about it”. I had already told her the day before that we didn’t have to do anything at all!!

There are so many more little things…but this is long. I know some of you are not going to believe she and the others acted like this for no reason, but they did. I tried so hard to just keep a smile on my face and let all of the comments and digs roll off my back. We finally got into it last night before coming home..now my daughter is no longer maid of honor…like she ever should have been anyway..and I am no longer invited to my brothers wedding.

I’m in shock.

 

[yoopermom]

Ok, this is the Dis, and I know how lots here love a good “2 sides to every story” smack down, so let me just say from the get-go this is MY personal experience. I’m just feeling pretty down, and need a vent session..no validation..no I’m so right and she’s so wrong..it is what it is.

On that note, l just returned home last night from the absolute hands down worst Bachelorette trip, or ANY trip for that matter that I have ever experienced in my life!!

The Bride is my brother’s fiancée, the maid of honor is..was..my daughter, so we took on all the planning. We all love Disney, so the Bride wanted Food and Wine Festival, great right??

We starting planning…months and months and MONTHS of planning. I formed a Facebook Group so that I could ask everyone involved in every step of the planning what they wanted to do and when. I never assumed one single activity..everything was put to a vote.
I booked a 2-Bedroom Villa at the Grand Floridian Villas for 3 nights with 2 day park hoppers for everyone. The girls are young, so I thought I’d be nice and just let them pay $500 each for the trip. That didn’t even cover HALF of the room, but that’s fine!

We picked a theme…Alice in Wonderland. We had all the girls pick a character, but didn’t tell them why. We had mini top hats custom made to match each character..they were BEAUTIFUL!! The Bride was Alice, and as a gift my daughter and I also had a beautiful Alice in Wonderland corset custom made for her in Milan Italy.

We made very detailed and elaborate themed ‘hangover” kit boxes for the girls, a sash for the Bride, and spend crazy amounts of time even making an Alice in Wonderland themed Epcot drinking game that we had cards designed and printed for.

I picked up allll the Brides expenses from her food to her spa treatments, every single thing. Not ONE offer from anyone else to help. There were two girls who couldn’t afford the spa, so I even paid for pedicures for them both because I didn’t want them to feel left out. I booked limos for transportation, ordered them room service for meals, and even bought them all tickets to them Villains Sinister Soiree at $100 each.

From Day One…5 hours into the trip..the Bride was “disappointed”. She did NOT want to eat at La Hacienda for dinner..which I had NO idea of. We’ve eaten there plenty of times before!! I got tables by the water so we had a PERFECT view of Illuminations and she wouldn’t even look out the window because she “hated everything about being there”. The other 2 girls were basically just mirror images of her. Well, except the one that got made because she was under the impression that she would have her OWN ROOM at the Villa. Lol

The plan was to go to Jelly Rolls after, so we did. She and the other 2 girls sat in the corner and literally pouted all night…I am not kidding. Total strangers asked us what was wrong with the Bride. I had NO clue at this point. I called my brother to ask if I had done something to upset her..that’s when I found out about the restaurant issue.

We got back to the villa she and the other girls went in one room, closed the door, and didn’t speak to any of the rest of us at all.
Next day..complaints about getting up for the Spa, and she was mad I didn’t tell her to pack a bathing suit. I had a hair and make-up team come to do “glam makeup” in the Villa before MNSSHP as a special treat. I even skipped the massage I had planned for myself so they could start on me while she took a shower..she was mad because she felt “rushed”.

They left before us for the party and we didn’t see them again until the Villains Party. They sat there..didn’t say one word to us..didn’t look around..didn’t crack a smile..hated all the desserts, and the Bride got pissed when Dr. Faciler tried to play around with her. We left without speaking..came in..they went in one room and closed the door again.
I didn’t speak to them again until the Bride texted me while at Epcot to meet up with her to give her a wristband for her food and drinks. They wouldn’t even meet us for dinner.

Come to find out..she DID NOT want to play any sort of game while in Epcot..wouldn’t look at it..wasn’t interested in it..and avoided us at all costs to keep from having to “talk about it”. I had already told her the day before that we didn’t have to do anything at all!!

There are so many more little things…but this is long. I know some of you are not going to believe she and the others acted like this for no reason, but they did. I tried so hard to just keep a smile on my face and let all of the comments and digs roll off my back. We finally got into it last night before coming home..now my daughter is no longer maid of honor…like she ever should have been anyway..and I am no longer invited to my brothers wedding.

I’m in shock.

Wow, I am so very, very sorry for you. Good manners were obviously not shown by the bride, whether or not she wanted and/or liked/appreciated all that you had planned. You and your daughter are probably well rid of having to be part of the rest of the wedding. You still must feel terribly hurt, though.

My 25th anniversary is in a year, I would love to have you plan my party, if that makes you feel any better .

Terri

 

[aaarcher86]

How old is the bride?

You put up with more than I would have if this is accurate, and she would've known exactly what I thought about her before we left. My brother would be hearing about her being an ungrateful wench as well.

 

[lynxstch]

WOW! You went to so much trouble and expense, and she acted like a spoiled rotten brat I feel so bad for you , and for the way she treated you! Sounds like one family member who would never be invited to any gathering that I was planning ever again..or at least till she comes to her senses and offers a sincere, BIG apology! 's to you

 

[Happy Snowman]

I really don't think she can uninvite you from your brother's wedding--holy moly!!! Did you like her before this trip? I sure hope your brother takes into consideration all you did for her and her response.

 

[Vernie822]

Ugh- I know somewhat how you feel. Long story short, my cousins best friends and I threw her an amazing bachelorette weekend. One "wrong" thing (in her eyes) and my cousin went nuts. Drank herself into oblivion and actually told all of her bridesmaids how much she disliked them. Threw things at them. I was luckily spared the rage because I'm family. She even tried to jump off a balcony. I called my aunt and she just told me how mean those friends of hers were and how it wasn't her fault (***!!)

So all I can say is, I believe your story! Lol. It's really difficult to put so much time and effort into something for someone, and to have the person react like that. I'm really sorry you and your daughter had to deal with something like this. It's so sad! Hopefully you can work things out. I'm a bride to be too, and I know no matter what the girls plan, I will appreciate it so much! ESPECIALLY the fact that you took all of them to disney. Really, that's such a nice gesture of you guys!!

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Ok, this is the Dis, and I know how lots here love a good “2 sides to every story” smack down, so let me just say from the get-go this is MY personal experience. I’m just feeling pretty down, and need a vent session..no validation..no I’m so right and she’s so wrong..it is what it is.

On that note, l just returned home last night from the absolute hands down worst Bachelorette trip, or ANY trip for that matter that I have ever experienced in my life!!

The Bride is my brother’s fiancée, the maid of honor is..was..my daughter, so we took on all the planning. We all love Disney, so the Bride wanted Food and Wine Festival, great right??

We starting planning…months and months and MONTHS of planning. I formed a Facebook Group so that I could ask everyone involved in every step of the planning what they wanted to do and when. I never assumed one single activity..everything was put to a vote.
I booked a 2-Bedroom Villa at the Grand Floridian Villas for 3 nights with 2 day park hoppers for everyone. The girls are young, so I thought I’d be nice and just let them pay $500 each for the trip. That didn’t even cover HALF of the room, but that’s fine!

We picked a theme…Alice in Wonderland. We had all the girls pick a character, but didn’t tell them why. We had mini top hats custom made to match each character..they were BEAUTIFUL!! The Bride was Alice, and as a gift my daughter and I also had a beautiful Alice in Wonderland corset custom made for her in Milan Italy.

We made very detailed and elaborate themed ‘hangover” kit boxes for the girls, a sash for the Bride, and spend crazy amounts of time even making an Alice in Wonderland themed Epcot drinking game that we had cards designed and printed for.

I picked up allll the Brides expenses from her food to her spa treatments, every single thing. Not ONE offer from anyone else to help. There were two girls who couldn’t afford the spa, so I even paid for pedicures for them both because I didn’t want them to feel left out. I booked limos for transportation, ordered them room service for meals, and even bought them all tickets to them Villains Sinister Soiree at $100 each.

From Day One…5 hours into the trip..the Bride was “disappointed”. She did NOT want to eat at La Hacienda for dinner..which I had NO idea of. We’ve eaten there plenty of times before!! I got tables by the water so we had a PERFECT view of Illuminations and she wouldn’t even look out the window because she “hated everything about being there”. The other 2 girls were basically just mirror images of her. Well, except the one that got made because she was under the impression that she would have her OWN ROOM at the Villa. Lol

The plan was to go to Jelly Rolls after, so we did. She and the other 2 girls sat in the corner and literally pouted all night…I am not kidding. Total strangers asked us what was wrong with the Bride. I had NO clue at this point. I called my brother to ask if I had done something to upset her..that’s when I found out about the restaurant issue.

We got back to the villa she and the other girls went in one room, closed the door, and didn’t speak to any of the rest of us at all.
Next day..complaints about getting up for the Spa, and she was mad I didn’t tell her to pack a bathing suit. I had a hair and make-up team come to do “glam makeup” in the Villa before MNSSHP as a special treat. I even skipped the massage I had planned for myself so they could start on me while she took a shower..she was mad because she felt “rushed”.

They left before us for the party and we didn’t see them again until the Villains Party. They sat there..didn’t say one word to us..didn’t look around..didn’t crack a smile..hated all the desserts, and the Bride got pissed when Dr. Faciler tried to play around with her. We left without speaking..came in..they went in one room and closed the door again.
I didn’t speak to them again until the Bride texted me while at Epcot to meet up with her to give her a wristband for her food and drinks. They wouldn’t even meet us for dinner.

Come to find out..she DID NOT want to play any sort of game while in Epcot..wouldn’t look at it..wasn’t interested in it..and avoided us at all costs to keep from having to “talk about it”. I had already told her the day before that we didn’t have to do anything at all!!

There are so many more little things…but this is long. I know some of you are not going to believe she and the others acted like this for no reason, but they did. I tried so hard to just keep a smile on my face and let all of the comments and digs roll off my back. We finally got into it last night before coming home..now my daughter is no longer maid of honor…like she ever should have been anyway..and I am no longer invited to my brothers wedding.

I’m in shock.

I am speechless.

And not that this would in any way excuse all the wonderful stuff you did to plan what I would consider a most wonderful bachelorette weekend...

My bachelorette party--I had one request. It was honored and I appreciated that. But many many things were planned and done that made me extremely uncomfortable. I am not a live a little person for certain things and I just was not into much of it. I do not recall that I pouted. I did try to make the best as much as I was able. I did not complain at all. And I had as much fun as could be had under the circumstances.

Again--this bride has no excuse for rude behavior. I do wonder what she expected instead of all these things.

But I would love to rewind 16 years and have you plan my bachelorette party. Because everything you did is right up my alley!

And who in their right mind doesn't bring a swimsuit on a weekend getaway in October in Florida?

I'm so sorry this happened. But it would likely be the last thing I did for the bride. Her conduct, if as presented, was uncalled for.

Oh--and if your brother makes you aware of any of her other complaints--I would give him the whole story and of it turns out this isn't what she wanted, then I would point blank tell him that it was no excuse for her.....white trash behavior.

Okay, I wouldn't actually say that.

But I wouldn't be surprised if she one day wrote a post about how you ruined Thanksgiving.

She sounds like a witch...just in time for Halloween.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

I really don't think she can uninvite you from your brother's wedding--holy moly!!! Did you like her before this trip? I sure hope your brother takes into consideration all you did for her and her response.

Holy crap, I missed that!

Who the heck does that?

I would show up anyway.

Was there a camera crew? Because this does sound like it is right from the show.

 

[Vernie822]

Yeah- echoing the above.. you clearly threw an amazing bachelorette weekend!! What more did she want that you didn't deliver? Have she and her friends been to disney? Maybe they were expecting Disney in general to be different. Not that it would even slightly excuse her actions..

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

OP, you said you got into it on the way home.

What did Bridezilla accuse you of? What was the relationship like before this clearly most awful weekend on her life?

Because...wow!

 

[EMom]

If your brother has a brain in his head, he will run like the wind.

 

[NYEmomma]

Crap, I would have peed my pants out of excitement if someone planned a bachelorette party like that for me!

My bridesmaids sucked and I didn't even get a bachelorette party. (12 years later and I'm apparently still a little bitter about that, lol)

ETA: my brother is getting married in 2016 and I'm a bridesmaid... in a way I am so looking forward to the bachelorette party because c'mon, mom of 3 young kids, any excuse for a night out on the town I will grab with abandon! But they live in Canada and the bridesmaids are spread all across not one but two countries. It's going to be an expensive shindig because it's almost guaranteed to be an out of town trip for me. I'm going to have a blast, of course, because my future SIL is awesome and I love her. But between the trip for the wedding, a bridesmaid dress for me, 3 flower girl dresses for my girls, tux for my husband (a groomsman), this wedding is going to cost us a fortune. I hope I'm not the only broke girl in the party!

 

[xlsm]

Send her a bill, LOL.

For the room, the makeup, the spa, the EVERYTHING.

There is no excuse for her behavior. None. If she can't be grateful for something like that, how in the world could anyone hope to please her with anything?

Good luck to your brother.

 

[Jennasis]

Yep...I believe it. My sister was apparently a "challenge" during her bachelorette weekend (that I missed, luckily). She had apparently been talking smack to each of her many BM's about the other BM's...telling them that so-and-so hates you...but then when you put them all in a beach house together for the weekend and they actually start talking and find out that so-and-so never actually said she hates you and in fact likes you very much...

The whole lot of them wanted to stage an intervention with the bride but decided to wait until after the wedding. Not an addiction intervention...one over her rotten attitude and poor treatment of her friends and family.

 

[worm761]

Well, it sounds to me like you need a redo. I am willing to play the role of prospective bride! Though I am married already.

 

[EMom]

You've already spent a fortune on that bachelorette weekend. Hell would freeze over before I'd spring for a wedding gift. And if your brother has even one bit of backbone, he will not allow her to kick your DD out of the wedding and "disinvite" you. Seriously, this is a huge red flag that he should reconsider his choice of a bride. I can see decades of her wanting to spend every holiday with her family and forgetting about his.

 

[Handbag Lady]

I can't make heads or tails out of the bride here. There was a Facebook group for details and information...did she participate in that ahead of time?

How old are you and how old is the bride? Was she maybe thinking that you were planning this all and footing the bill but not going so that she could have a wild weekend? Is your daughter MUCH MUCH younger than the bride?

This is the only thing I can think of, but you know what? Good riddance to her.

 

[Brier Rose]

She is 26. I did like her before, and we've been on many Disney trips together. Unfortunately this type of behavior is not surprising for her, but the extreme level of it this go round is. She is very demanding with my brother, and he is aware of it, not happy about it, but has decided he loves her enough to put up with it. Good luck to him! It was actually he who doesn't want us at the wedding because he's afraid of conflict and doesn't want their special day ruined. As much as it hurts, I can respect that. If he truly chooses to be with her and make a life with her I would be disappointed in him if he DIDN'T put HER first. I'm his sister, but she will be his wife, and should come first IMO.

When we got into it was actually on our last evening. She had texted to tell me they wouldn't be meeting us for dinner...AFTER I had changed our reservation from Via Napoli to Le Cellier because she said she'd rather eat fries there than ANYTHING from Via Napoli. We've eaten there plenty of times too!! Lol I went off on her..sent her a pretty angry text complete with a **** yall.

not my finest moment to be sure, and she sent a copy of the text straight to my mother. I am hurt..so very hurt, but more than that I'm just sad. I wanted so much for all of us to have a good time together. I wanted to give her a bachelorette party to be proud of. I'm sad for my DD..she wore bride ears and got bridesmaid ears for the other two girls completely excluding DD who was supposed to be her MOH!! It was just beyond weird!

 

[EMom]

If your brother is stupid enough to walk into this with his eyes open, he deserves every bit of misery she will bring him. And she will. You are being far too generous with your brother. He is as bad as she is.

I'd have stuck her with some of the bills midway through.

 

[Brier Rose]

I can't make heads or tails out of the bride here. There was a Facebook group for details and information...did she participate in that ahead of time? How old are you and how old is the bride? Was she maybe thinking that you were planning this all and footing the bill but not going so that she could have a wild weekend? Is your daughter MUCH MUCH younger than the bride? This is the only thing I can think of, but you know what? Good riddance to her.

I just turned 40...last week actually. She is 26 and my DD is 23. So she and I, decent age gap for sure, but we've been on many many trips together, drink together, laugh together. She did not participate in the group because we wanted to keep all the details surprises for her. I did have a convo with her before tho about definite do's and dont's. She knew about the spa and a few other things, but nothing kept from her that should have been cause for a ruined trip! At least we didn't think so anyway.

Weird thing..we stocked the Villa with a case of Veuve Clicquot and bottles of their favorite types of alcohol..mixers..etc. They drank NONE of it..and believe me..she is definitely a drinker!! The whole thing was just Twilight Zone weird!!