Bridal Shower: Writing Your Own Address on the Envelope of a TY Card

[shoney]

Yes I've done it before. It takes a few seconds for each person to write their own address. I never gave it any thought before. No big deal in my book.

 

[donac]

I made a quilt for my niece's baby shower last week. Her father emailed the family (since they live in Mo and we are here in NJ) and said the shower was great and they loved the quilt. The father just sent some pictures to the family in NJ from the shower and my quilt was not even in the pile of presents. I am sure I will get a thank you note but it would have been nice to send a picture. They sent a picture of balloons, the cake and a pile of shower presents

 

[msjprincess]

Lol she did hand write a note but it was very generic!



Really. I always thought it added a more personal touch when the receiver of gifts does everything themselves.

So she got the thank yous out in less than a week? I would have been impressed with that.

 

[CookieandOatmeal]

So she got the thank yous out in less than a week? I would have been impressed with that.

She has the summers off from work so I wasn't surprised.

 

[Kellykins1218]

I've been to at least a dozen showers, bridal and baby, that have done that. I think it's a great idea.

 

[Goofy_Disney_Dad]

I don't see the problem with it, but then again, I don't see the problem with most of the etiquette issues I read about here.

 

[bcbmommy]

I'm impressed that she's actually going to send out thank you notes! We gave 5 graduation gifts this year in the amount of $50 each, and never received a thank you from any of them. Not a note, phone call, email, text....nothing. My daughter, on the other hand, had ALL her thank you notes written within 3 days of graduation.

Next year, I'm giving graduates a box of thank you notes, a sheet of stamps, and a book on writing thank you notes!

 

[elaine amj]

Every shower I've ever been to has done that. The envelop is also used to draw a door prize. I have no issue with it. But I'm low class so ....

Yep, that's how all the showers I have been to here have done it too. I think our shower and wedding invites were hand-delivered, so they don't always have our full mailing address.

Heck, to this day I still don't know my best friends' full mailing addresses. I know they name of their street and how to get there, but can't say I have ever paid any attention to their house numbers.

 

[sk!mom]

I went to a bridal shower this past weekend (yes it was in a restaurant with about 50 women) and I was given a blank envelope by one of the hosts to write my own address on so the bride wouldn't have to spend time doing that when she writes out thank you cards. I did it but I thought it was a bit ridiculous that she couldn't spend a few extra minutes writing out the addresses herself. It may not be the bride's idea but her mom or MOH but I thought it was super tacky. I'm 29 and got married last year. I would never dream of asking guests to write their own envelopes. Am I just super old school or is this a new trend?

Lol she did hand write a note but it was very generic!



Really. I always thought it added a more personal touch when the receiver of gifts does everything themselves.

If the shower was just last weekend and you already received a thank you note then maybe it's a great idea. The last wedding that I took a gift to was 3 months ago and I've yet to receive a thank you for the envelope of cash at the wedding or the shower gifts for the two showers I was invited to prior.

I've been asked to address an envelope a few times and thought it seemed a bit silly. A shower is nothing but a gift grab so it seems that the recipient could at least handle the thank yous. The guests did their part now do yours.

That's my opinion since you asked but really, I didn't give it much thought at the time. I've never done it at a shower that I've given though.

 

[Disneylover99]

So she got the thank yous out in less than a week? I would have been impressed with that.

Well since the note was generic, maybe she actually wrote the thank-you's before the shower. All she had to do was pop them in the envelopes and stamp.

 

[Disneylover99]

I've been to at least a dozen showers, bridal and baby, that have done that. I think it's a great idea.

I've never done it or seen it, but I think it's a great idea!

My wedding shower was at my mom's house and my mom informally invited a few friends from her aerobics club to the shower at the last minute. They brought gifts, but I remember having to hunt down their addresses after the shower so I could send them a Thank-You card.

 

[EMom]

Is it a timesaver for the bride to be? Absolutely.

Is it tacky? Certainly.

If someone takes the time to buy you a gift, wrap it, affix a card, and come to your shower, then you should be able to take 20-30 seconds to address a card to them. Actually writing a thank you note takes perhaps 1 minute more. Between putting on a stamp and sealing it, in two minutes you have properly thanked someone for a gift. Is that really so much to ask? If it's just too much effort to address a thank you note, let alone write one, then skip the shower.

 

[Goofy_Disney_Dad]

Were the thank you notes printed on recycled paper? That's an important issue for me.

 

[ZephyrHawk]

It is the "new trend", but I don't like it.

 

[Meriweather]

Were the thank you notes printed on recycled paper? That's an important issue for me.

 

[CookieandOatmeal]

Were the thank you notes printed on recycled paper? That's an important issue for me.

Nope sorry they were not.

 

[Goofy_Disney_Dad]

Nope sorry they were not.

Well, I just can't even...

 

[Rhombus]

It's OK by me as long as I'm not required to supply a stamp or actually write myself a note.

Yeah, I was wondering if they asked the guests to supply the stamps as well.

 

[CookieandOatmeal]

If the shower was just last weekend and you already received a thank you note then maybe it's a great idea. The last wedding that I took a gift to was 3 months ago and I've yet to receive a thank you for the envelope of cash at the wedding or the shower gifts for the two showers I was invited to prior.

I've been asked to address an envelope a few times and thought it seemed a bit silly. A shower is nothing but a gift grab so it seems that the recipient could at least handle the thank yous. The guests did their part now do yours.

That's my opinion since you asked but really, I didn't give it much thought at the time. I've never done it at a shower that I've given though.

It took me and hubby a week to get TY cards to everyone from our Jack and Jill shower but we made it our priority. Our card to each guest included a TY for specific gift(s), a description on what we planned on using it for, and that we were so happy that they could join us at the shower/wedding. I guess maybe since this was the first time I've ever experiences this at a shower/event/party that I was taken aback by it.

 

[Bren's Mom]

It's a trend that's been around for a while, and I think it's very tacky too.