Bridal registry

[okeydokey]

I am attending a wedding this spring. The bride is complaining about people buying "off" the registry. I always thought the registry was a suggestion, not a requirement, and the gift was a symbol of your best wishes for the couple. I did buy somthing from the registry for both the shower and the wedding, but I feel that her attitude is a bit greedy. Is this just how things are now and I am too old fashioned?

 

[L107ANGEL]

Let me get this straight, shes mad people are buying gifts she requested

 

[singingpixie]

No, I think she's complaining that people are buying things that are not on the registry. As a bride-to-be myself, I can't believe her nerve! People are not required to buy presents at all (even if it is traditional), so she should be grateful for whatever she recieves!

 

[CapeCodTenor]

Let me get this straight, shes mad people are buying gifts she requested

Yeah, I had the same question? Is she expecting people to buy other gifts that are more expensive than the one's she put on the registry?

 

[wendy46001]

Sadly some people have a big weddings for the gifts...and it says a lot about the bride if she has the nerve to complain...and while i always get a registry gift (i'm lazy like that)...i would never do it for someone so spoiled.....I'd forget the registry and make a donation in her name...

 

[okeydokey]

Let me get this straight, shes mad people are buying gifts she requested

No, she is annoyed that people are buying things not "on" her registry.

 

[L107ANGEL]

No, she is annoyed that people are buying things not "on" her registry.

Ok, got it now. I think her attitude needs to improve and she should be gratefull for any gift she receives!

 

[bananiem]

I can understand if people are buying her red towels when her bathroom is pink, for instance. Or if they are buying her plates that aren't what she likes or registered for. We had people get us stuff from a store we didn't have so we couldn't return it.
It's also a pain in the neck to get a bunch of one thing when you only wanted one. Then you have the hassle of finding a gift receipt and taking them all back. If they used the registry they'd have known she already had it.

 

[bananiem]

No, she is annoyed that people are buying things not "on" her registry.

I can understand this too, depending on how long she and the fiancee have been on their own. Maybe they already have most of the household stuff and don't need another toaster.

 

[DMickey28]

Seriously?? I mean, I feel, how DARE someone buy something adorable for my DS that is not on my Babies R Us registry ....

 

[ilovejack02]

I would never be mad or complain outloud, BUT yes it is a pain when you get purple stiped sheets, and your bedroom colors are navy. I always buy off of a registry for wedding and baby showers. If I see something i think they might like,I will add it in if it is small, but the main gift always come from the registry. The bride needs to quit being a brat though and keep her mouth shut. It never fails to amaze me when people act like this.I think she forgot her manners.

 

[ilovejack02]

Seriously?? I mean, I feel, how DARE someone buy something adorable for my DS that is not on my Babies R Us registry ....

LOL ! Someone bought me a Winnie the Pooh lamp for my DS's room for a shower gift. I got lots of stuff that was not on my registry and it was all great, but come on a random spinning lamp. I couldnt find the store they bought it at so I gave it to Good Will. I have a feeling it was a regift lol.

 

[Stitchfans]

My oldest DD is getting married at the end of June. She recently filled out two registries. I would be so disappointed with her if she ever said anything like that. Knowing DD though I know she wouldn't. She would be happy with little thing someone bought her. I've always stressed to both DD that it is the thought that counts. The fact that someone acknowledges you is special.

 

[dcgrumpy]

I can understand it. My sister's MIL did that. She bought a different set of posts than the ones on her registry. meanwhile my SIL and I bought them the posts they wanted. So they ended up with two sets of pots. One of the MIL's friends bought a different flatware set.

 

[okeydokey]

I have seen some registries that were doozies, $80 pillowcases, $500 pots and pans. I expect couples would be grateful for any toaster oven and not upset it wasn't the $150 model they had their eye on. Many people just can't afford to buy the high end stuff many couples are expecting. I think a pretty picture frame or candles not on the registry would be appreciated as well, but it seems not to be the case.

 

[Mrs.Toad]

I would never be mad or complain outloud, BUT yes it is a pain when you get purple stiped sheets, and your bedroom colors are navy. I always buy off of a registry for wedding and baby showers. If I see something i think they might like,I will add it in if it is small, but the main gift always come from the registry. The bride needs to quit being a brat though and keep her mouth shut. It never fails to amaze me when people act like this.I think she forgot her manners.

My thoughts exactly.

 

[MareQ]

I would never be mad or complain outloud, BUT yes it is a pain when you get purple stiped sheets, and your bedroom colors are navy. I always buy off of a registry for wedding and baby showers. If I see something i think they might like,I will add it in if it is small, but the main gift always come from the registry. The bride needs to quit being a brat though and keep her mouth shut. It never fails to amaze me when people act like this.I think she forgot her manners.

Yup - My MIL didn't like some of the items I had registered for so she went and bought sheets and towels and bathroom accessories in colors SHE liked then called the store to take my choices off the registry.... @@

BUT - I didn't complain - I thanked her for the gifts - rolled my eyes in private over her EXTREME nerve - then just went and returned what she bought and picked up the same items in colors I had wanted.

Bride needs to get overherself - regardles sof what you get - you need to be gracious.

 

[disykat]

I would never be mad or complain outloud, BUT yes it is a pain when you get purple stiped sheets, and your bedroom colors are navy. I always buy off of a registry for wedding and baby showers. If I see something i think they might like,I will add it in if it is small, but the main gift always come from the registry. The bride needs to quit being a brat though and keep her mouth shut. It never fails to amaze me when people act like this.I think she forgot her manners.

ITA. She can be irritated. She can talk about it to her fiance, annonymously on line, or to a fellow bride in the same position. However, she shouldn't complain about it to another guest at her wedding

 

[Mono~rail]

I absolutely hate registries with a purple passion! I get so irritated by the people running around stores scanning every barcode in sight with those dang blasted scanning guns! They'd knock over their grandma to get to a barcode!

If I encounter a registry that is filled with expensive items, I find another friend or two or three to split the cost of one gift, and we give it as a group.

 

[barkley]

sometimes i buy from the registry, sometimes not-most times if i'm buying something with colors (linens and such) i use the registry for a guide to the preferences of the b/g.

i have to say-in some cases not sticking to the registry can be a blessing to the bride and groom. as an example we had a wedding invite this past summer, when i went to the websites for the stores i initialy thought the first one had been miscoded because the couple had no kitchen items at all-and the only plates, cups and such were all coded as only wanting 2 each (as in 2 dinner plates, 2 cereal bowl, 2 spoons, 2 forks, 2 knives...)-but this was the case with the entire registry.. now we knew both the b/g and thier immediate family realy well-and both were 'kids' ( from our perspective) who had never lived away from home, had no household items at all, were not being handed down any. these were also kids who loved to entertain with all their couple friends over for dinners and brunches...and had preexisting plans for family and friends to come stay with them for visits in what would be their future home. all i could wonder was if people would have to take turns or eat in shifts after those 2 items in each category was used and re-washed (and then what would they prepare food in-they had no pots, pans, bowls-no utensils they commonly used 'at home' to prepare food with).

found out after the fact that the 'happy couple' had 'spaced' on the fact that mom would'nt live with them and clean utensils/plates and such would always be washed and at the ready that mom/dad 'would'nt need' all their kitchen 'stuff' and would just pass it off to them (so who needs to register for it) and that 'that stuffs cheap, we'll just pick it up at the store when we need it' (these are kids who are going to be on a majorly crimped one income budget while the dh finishes school-and the dw has to start re-paying student loans).

apparantly the registry choices did'nt come to light until the gifts started arriving-and the parents began to see that it was largly little chachkies, decorater items (accent pillows, vases and such the couple thought were 'so cute')-with no kitchen items (or linens for that matter) and only 2 settings of dishes (not china-standard daily dinner wear and stainless steel utensils). the parents were ultimatly thrilled to see more practical items arrive from folks who went 'off' the registry (and while the b/g were'nt thrilled at the time-when they moved into their own place and found they could'nt prepare the basic dishes they had 'at home'-and that buying all that 'stuff' was'nt as cheap as they thought/or remotely in their budget-they were appreciate of the minimal 'practical' items they received as well).