Bridal registry

[java]

You know the baby shower registery is one that I really try to stick to. I actually got into a fight with my Mom in a babiesrus because she wanted to get my SIL a "better" carseat than she asked for. Now I knew that my SIL had researched and had specifically wanted that one! So I told Mom I think she should stick to the registry. Her response"If she doesn't like it she can return it" Which she did by the way. I bought something straight from the list...
Now on wedding ones- around here we give $$$ at weddings. I would never bring a gift to a wedding. Is that just an east coast thing? And for the bride being made people are buying other things off the registry.... well lucky groom sounds like she is going to be a doozie to be married to.

 

[wendy46001]

We had a color theme going on and wanted to add to that theme!

Just a question
am i the only one who's towels and sheets dont match?
I have a theme in my bathroom but a towel is a towel

also as a recent bride, i can say all those random gifts didnt give me a headache....Do i need a plate with ceramic shrimp stuck to it ...No, but it gave me a good laugh ....and while i dont need two toasters my little brother sure did need one so he go the extra.... I just cant imagine anyone turning there nose up at a gift...

 

[Mono~rail]

Just a question
am i the only one who's towels and sheets dont match?
I have a theme in my bathroom but a towel is a towel

Our sheets and towels don't match, and I really don't give a rat's patootie about the matter either. Somehow we've managed to survive with mismatched sheets and towels. Perhaps you and I should start a support group.

 

[wendy46001]

Our sheets and towels don't match, and I really don't give a rat's patootie about the matter either. Somehow we've managed to survive with mismatched sheets and towels. Perhaps you and I should start a support group.

Sign me up

 

[offwegotoneverland]

The one off registry issue that drove me batty was people purchasing items at other places us not knowing and then having a bunch of one thing. (and guessing tht the others that did buy it their might have chosen something else if they had known).

We had a very middle of the road registry (highest price point was less then 125.00 and that was for a pot set I think added for a group gift option).

We had 6-25 towels etc and our china was 39.00 a 5 peice place setting. I had a very hard time returning (and in fact didn't) the unique gifts. So while I never said anything it was a downside. However the gifts not given did give dh almost a 5 year list of ideas so he was thrilled!!

 

[Hannathy]

Wow I guess I'm old but the first 2 words that came to my mind was "Spoiled Brat" I'm from the era before gift registries and we were just grateful for any gifts! The towels don't match my bathroom! Geeze when I was first married I was glad to have towels and guess what over 20 yrs later they still don't match my bathroom nor each other actually! I always though it was the thought that counted and a wedding was a celebration not a how many of the gifts that I listed did I get event. I guess it really is the me, me, me generation.

I'm also curious about the baby showers- why are people having showers for the 4th or 5th kid? I thought unless there was a huge space you only had a shower for the first. Close friends and family gave baby gifts but not showers. Boy do I feel gypped.

 

[okeydokey]

I also know someone who is registered at their travel agent to pay for their honeymoon.

 

[shirleyb]

Wow I guess I'm old but the first 2 words that came to my mind was "Spoiled Brat" I'm from the era before gift registries and we were just grateful for any gifts! The towels don't match my bathroom! Geeze when I was first married I was glad to have towels and guess what over 20 yrs later they still don't match my bathroom nor each other actually! I always though it was the thought that counted and a wedding was a celebration not a how many of the gifts that I listed did I get event. I guess it really is the me, me, me generation.

I'm also curious about the baby showers- why are people having showers for the 4th or 5th kid? I thought unless there was a huge space you only had a shower for the first. Close friends and family gave baby gifts but not showers. Boy do I feel gypped.

I totally agree!!!

I'm also of the era that bridal and baby showers are for 10 - 15 people and that they are held in someone's home. If you have to rent a hall for it, you're inviting too many people and just looking for gifts, but that's only my opinion.

 

[MareQ]

I totally agree!!!

I'm also of the era that bridal and baby showers are for 10 - 15 people and that they are held in someone's home. If you have to rent a hall for it, you're inviting too many people and just looking for gifts, but that's only my opinion.

Oh please! I had over 40 women at my shower and it had to be held in a restaurant. NONE were friends - that's was all my sisters, SIL's, My mom, DH's mom, Grandmothers,GREAT GrandmotherS, Aunts and female FIRST cousins. Trust me - I wasn't "just looking for gifts" - I was looking to have a great time with my family but according to your rules I was money hungry.

 

[shirleyb]

Oh please! I had over 40 women at my shower and it had to be held in a restaurant. NONE were friends - that's was all my sisters, SIL's, My mom, DH's mom, Grandmothers,GREAT GrandmotherS, Aunts and female FIRST cousins. Trust me - I wasn't "just looking for gifts" - I was looking to have a great time with my family but according to your rules I was money hungry.

But that's my point, they weren't your friends, why were they there?????

And I guess I mis-typed a little, I didn't mean it was always the guest of honor looking for gifts. At showers I've been to recently, held by the MOB, it seemed like Mama was looking for gifts for her DD and inviting everyone they've ever know.

ETA: Sorry, I didn't read your post carefully, I thought you wrote they were your sister's friends and relatives.

I guess maybe because most of my family lived hours away, I only ever went to small showers until recently. Didn't think EVERY family member had to be invited. Until the last few years, I only ever went to showers with definitely less than 20 people, but it seems like recently, every shower has like 50 people there.

 

[MareQ]

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I'm also curious about the baby showers- why are people having showers for the 4th or 5th kid? I thought unless there was a huge space you only had a shower for the first. Close friends and family gave baby gifts but not showers. Boy do I feel gypped.

I think it's new- 1 shower in my family - unless of course you are DH's cousin who has 4 kids with 4 different guys and her mother throws her a brand new baby shower each and every time with the rotating "other side" If they throw her a 5th I am going to wrap up all my old baby stuff and just start recycling.

 

[leighe]

I always buy from the registry but I would have never, never criticized anyone for buying me a gift not on the registry. That is just tacky and rude, IMO. All gifts are special and thoughtful and should be appreciated.

 

[MareQ]

But that's my point, they weren't your friends, why were they there?????

And I guess I mis-typed a little, I didn't mean it was always the guest of honor looking for gifts. At showers I've been to recently, held by the MOB, it seemed like Mama was looking for gifts for her DD and inviting everyone they've ever know.

When I said none were friends- that meant out of the 40 people there - none of them were people that I was just friends with - they were all my very close relatives - and that's how I wanted it.

 

[Chicago526]

I had the oposit problem. I didn't want to register, but so many people got upset about it ("We won't know what to get yoooooou" they whined) that I wound up registering at Kohl's just to get them to shut up. Then no one bought anything that I registered for anyway! (and I registerd for in a wide range of prices, nothing over $60 so that wasn't it!) It was a total waste of my time.

 

[DaisyD]

I refused to register when we got married. If anyone asked my mom what we needed she told them presents were not necessary but they could get whatever they thought we would like if they insisted. I really think registries are just a grab bag for presents.

 

[Crankyshank]

I think registries are a great way to gauge what a couple needs, what their color scheme is, and what their taste is. It sure as heck beats walking up and down the aisles of crate &barrel (or wherever) trying to figure out what the couple would like. I definitely don't consider them a requirement or feel obligated to shop exclusively from it.

Baby registries can be a bit harder, except with the big items. Babies R Us especially has a constant rotation of items and if you don't act quickly, it seems like a good portion of the registry is no longer available online. So I utilize it only if going in on a gift, like a stroller or car seat, and to check what the nursery theme is. I have pretty standard gifts I buy ( a book, onesies, socks, a plushy, and an osh kosh outfit in a larger size). I worked at a layette dept for years at a very large children's clothing store so I got to hear from new Moms across the economic classes what they wanted for gifts.

 

[mickeyfan2]

She is a very greedy bride. I am the type that would intentionally not buy off the registry for her.

 

[mickeyfan2]

On a side note, what's the rule about using the stuff you get at a shower before you are married. Do you put it away or use it right away?

It should not be used until you are married. If the couple breaks up before the wedding then all the gift should be returned.

 

[mickeyfan2]

Shower gifts generally range between $25 - $50, depending upon how close you are. I would MUCH rather receive an exersaucer that a few people chipped in to buy, than more onsies. My oldest dd is 10, and I think I STILL have quite a supply of baby wash and powder! If you don't have much to spend, diapers are really appreciated. Please no stuffed animals - 5 kids later, and I probably have 500 in my home now.

Seems a little excessive to have a baby show for 5 kids. Maybe that should be eliminated.

 

[mickeyfan2]

You know the baby shower registery is one that I really try to stick to. I actually got into a fight with my Mom in a babiesrus because she wanted to get my SIL a "better" carseat than she asked for. Now I knew that my SIL had researched and had specifically wanted that one! So I told Mom I think she should stick to the registry. Her response"If she doesn't like it she can return it" Which she did by the way. I bought something straight from the list...

When my niece was being born I told my SIL that I would buy the carseat. I researched it and I picked it out. She loved it and used it.