"Driving while black" is a real problem in many areas. I know most of us white folks aren't aware of it because it doesn't happen to us, but it does happen.
Thank you.
In 13 pages of posts, it's sad that all the anti-police posting, not one of the anti-police posters has not mentioned the poor 5 Dallas officers that were assassinated 2 days ago. Doesn't seem like that is a big deal, only mentioned is the other shootings, let's not forget about the assassination of the 2 NYPD officers last year also and the attempted assassination of a Minnesota police officer today. Guess their lives don't matter as much to be mentioned.
Huh?
Okay, I get it. You must not see some of us as anti-police. Insert sarcasm.
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Not to mention your inability to know that a discussion of one issue does not rule out compassion and horror for another.
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I came on this thread not to support Black Lives Matter, but to fully support why it exists and speak against those comments that acted like there is not a problem to work on. And to point out that one can carry multiple thoughts/compassion/emotions at once. And honestly, |I wanted to have a discussion that people need to look at themselves and our private thoughts about racial issues, first and foremost. |I have some issues with the Black Lives Matter. My friend, who is black, goes beyond crazy over some of their choices. In Toronto, they were asked to start our LGBT parade. They started the parade by not letting the parade start. Insert smile.
They sat down and demanded that the police not have a float in future parades or they were simply not letting it go forward. My friend was up in arms about it, discussing it today. "NOPE. The police are going to be in each and every parade. Do they even know the history of the police and the gay community?" (our police have openly apologized about bathhouse raids here, decades earlier). She was livid. I asked her how she thought people should get their point across, when so many are not listening or not believing some of the ongoing issues for years on end, in general - her thoughts. She replied, "I don't know but this is not their parade and they will not stop the police from being in it." |So once again, thoughts are not fluid across racial lines.
But I continue to want to address comments here, despite issues with their choices as an organization. Because the issue at hand is completely valid.
--- To the comment about why can't people just follow procedure and not talk about their rights. ----
Because they are worn down. Because sometimes it's very hard to think straight in a moment of stress. Because all of our rights are important. Because they did the first twenty times they were pulled over, although innocent. Can you not understand that? If you're married - can you imagine your husband being interrogated by the police fifty times -for simply living his everyday life? Can you imagine? Can you imagine what this does to any human BUT to a man? A man's self worth? Of having to be compliant over and over.
Personally I don't know how people stay so calm and cordial over time. They are better humans than I. Truly. After so many times, I would get mouthy and sarcastic. I know I shouldn't, but I might. Heck, I have to work hard to watch myself at your border. There are hard working, wonderful border guards but I've had a few abuse their power, and try to bait. Verging on abusive for no reason. Nothing to do with their job at hand. I know I have to remain calm because they have all the power, they can flag me for life. I cross the border and often feel violated by such an exchange. And it's nothing in the scheme of life.
Can you imagine how what goes on for some minorities wears a person down? How it makes them feel? Beyond the police of course. The man in the article I posted ran for office and like all our potential politicians went door to door. At one house a teenage girl saw him and went screaming down the hall. Her mother apologized.
But can you imagine facing all of that?
For some of you, I guess not.
-----To the comment about black police officers being involved in a high percentage of shootings etc. and therefore there goes the prejudice theory -----
You're all fooling yourself if you take from that that there is no chance that these cops could not be prejudice against their own race (not all of them of course). Or even think that some practices are okay. |Heck, our black Chief of|Police fully supported carding (Carding is the practice of gathering information in a database on a myriad of citizens, many of which are innocent citizens living their lives
http://torontolife.com/city/life/skin-im-ive-interrogated-police-50-times-im-black/ It has never been proven that it lowers crime.)
I said earlier that I had three distinct awful experiences that I believe only occurred because one of us was black. Well a fourth came to me. We were on strike. |It was cold as hell. Nothing like walking a picket line in general, but in frigid temperatures with snow falling - the worst.
We were very early. I suggested we stay in the car but just around the corner for a bit, so no one would try to pull us out early on such a horrid day. Let me preface, upper middle class area. It's around 9 am.
A siren came. What? I honestly thought that there was an emergency at a home.
Nope.
A police officer was all over us. Asked every question under the sun. We explained to him immediately we worked right there, we just didn't want to join our picket before our time because it was freezing.
He would not let up. It went on and on. He was convinced we were up to no good. The interrogation went on and on. Every answer to him was questioned over and over. He was black, and I truly believe he was the worst of all my experiences. And I don't believe it would have happened or gone so far without a black person in the car, I just don't.
Funny, all these instances never happened with my white friends - being in their cars, all those years with my white family. But with black friends - well it's a special magnetic force.
---- To the comment about all these incidents being completely racist or about white police officers only ----
I know that are many of us on here that don't even think white police officers only when we talk about these issues. You think we do, but the thought isn't there for some of us. We are only discussing the issues that happen to non-whites in our society. And who does that is not as big as the issue that it exists, well in my opinion.
Many of us know that some police officers are not trained properly, some are scared on the job - which leads to irrational choices at times, some think that they are God- like to anyone and everyone around them and some make horrendous mistakes. |So not everyone is thinking racist - racist - racist on every single issue. Just that there are issues that need to be fixed. Some of them racial for sure, some of them not.
So that cloaked argument doesn't work. Hang it up.
Heck, one of my biggest concerns is budget cuts. I think it is outrageous to have some police officers alone on patrol.
I know many of us think what the hell happened to de-escalation of a situation? I know I do. All the time.
Heck, maybe I'm ignorant but I'm forever thinking "is there not some other place to shoot, if you feel your life in danger, other than directly for someone's heart?"
Or does every petty criminal -or those without any crime - when you have their identification/license/address etc, need to be always chased? Do they? No sarcasm. Could this
sometimes be about bravado, ego or feeling that you had no control?
---- And to comment about relatives making out the victims as angels or well he was this or that - he had a record ----
Well, I often feel alone with this thought but criminals do not deserve to die at the hands of police or be beaten either, if they are not putting the officer's life in danger. So often I cringe for the families having to prove that their loved ones were worthy enough not to be roughed up or not to die.
Even when they were law abiding well-respected men and women. Why should they have to explain that? So we all believe an injustice happened. Sigh.