BIL/SIL Vent. At the least...RUDE!

[DawnCt1]

DH is being deployed on Sunday. He leaves for Ft. Bliss and then onto Iraq. Two weeks ago, we made Friday night (tonight) dinner plans with his brother and wife. We turned down two invitations to accommodate their schedule, he works nights. We spoke earlier in the week, the plans were still on. I called at 4 pm because I didn't hear from her. No answer. I called at 5:30 and SIL answers. She said; "B*** didn't get to sleep until 11:00 am because he went to get the taxes done and he has to go into work tonight so we won't be able to go to dinner afterall, I hope you don't mind". I replied in a very terse voice, "no, its fine", rather than the tone I would use if it were really fine. She said; "are you sure?" (like it would have made a difference), I said, again tersely, "no its fine, we will go out next summer". Actually I was very happy to go out to dinner with DH and myself and we had a fine time, BUT that isn't the point. Tomorrow, we will all go out (just DH, myself and DSs) and then if there isn't a huge blizzard, he leaves very early on Sunday. Just a vent. I will get over it.

 

[vivilasvegas]

Yes, it's rude, but hey, people suck!!

Good luck with everything you have facing you guys.

 

[tiggersmom2]

VERY RUDE!!

Keeping your hubby and you in my prayers.

 

[DawnCt1]

Wow! No sooner did I hit "submit" when the phone rang and it was BIL! He said, "weren't we supposed to go out to dinner tonight?" I said, "yes but SIL cancelled, she said that you had to go into work at 8 pm and didn't sleep all day". He said that he didn't have to go in early and he was really upset about it. He asked about tomorrow night but I told him that tomorrow night was for DH and DSs. I can't believe that she actually cancelled without discussing it with him. If it were MY brother, I would be incredibly upset.

 

[RadioFanatic]

somebody's in TROUBLE!!!! (and I mean SIL) Is this the type of thing she normally does? Lies like this? and how dare she do that to her husband when his brother is going to be in Iraq? What a witch!

 

[simba928]

That was very rude of her! Not only to you and your DH, but to her DH, too. I would be very upset!

 

[DawnCt1]

No kidding! It makes me think that she "had a better offer", perhaps with one of her friends. Otherwise, why would he call here to find out what happened to the plans? She usually isn't a ***** but certainly self centered. If she says anything to me, I will say, "gee too bad you didn't talk to B*** before you cancelled.

 

[Alicnwondrln]

Yes, it's rude, but hey, people suck!!

Good luck with everything you have facing you guys.

ita !!hope things will go well for you and your family while you DH is away serving our country

 

[DawnCt1]

ita !!hope things will go well for you and your family while you DH is away serving our country

Thank you. OT. DH picked up his fatigue shirt at the seamstress this morning. He had to have a couple of patches sewn on. He went to pay and the seamstress said; "No charge, we are at war!, thank you for serving".

 

[Alicnwondrln]

not to change the subject but any update on your sons truck ?

 

[DawnCt1]

not to change the subject but any update on your sons truck ?

Won't hear anything until Wednesday. Thanks for asking.

 

[RitaZ.]

Dawn, that's a shame. I hope all goes well for your DH and your family.

 

[LindsayDunn228]

Wow, totally beyond rude!!!

I don't have anyone close to me in the military but I would be breaking my back (again, LOL) trying to spend time with them before they were deployed- to Iraq or anywhere else. I think your SIL is in trouble with her hubby now, as well she should be.

Here's sending some good wishes to you and yours. I have nothing but respect for our soldiers and pray for them daily

 

[Kimberle]

Wow, I would think they would want the opportunity to see your dh before he leaves. He is going to a dangerous place, not sunny Florida. I would understand if they want an early evening, but to cancel all together....

 

[DawnCt1]

Wow, I would think they would want the opportunity to see your dh before he leaves. He is going to a dangerous place, not sunny Florida. I would understand if they want an early evening, but to cancel all together....

Now DH's Delta flight has been delayed a day, which means he may be delayed a week returning. That's the Army for ya! If you miss the Monday orientation, you have to do it the following week.. I am not going to tell them. We will have a nice dinner with just our family and relax and dig out from the snow tomorrow.

 

[lyeag]

Enjoy the extra family time and try not to worry about the extra time at the end. They do get to come home early sometimes, and many times that outprocess doesn't take as long as they schedule it for. Remember that there are lots of us here who have gone though it and are ready to listen!

 

[DawnCt1]

Enjoy the extra family time and try not to worry about the extra time at the end. They do get to come home early sometimes, and many times that outprocess doesn't take as long as they schedule it for. Remember that there are lots of us here who have gone though it and are ready to listen!

Thanks! Delta called again! He is flying out tomorrow afternoon. That is better for him.

 

[BibbidiBobbidiBOO]

Wow, I just read this. Has he left yet?
That was very tacky of your SIL. I feel bad for her DH though.

I imagine your DH is going to mobilize and deploy rather rapidly, as my DH did? I still flew to see DH alone for a weekend before he left. He took a week long class on some legal junk he would be dealing with, then 2 weeks to Mob. at Ft. Dix by himself (LOTS of wasted time). Right after he did this they started using Ft Bliss for single soldiers and small groups that were deploying. It was much faster for his replacement to mobilize and deploy through Bliss. DH only took 3 days to demob at least.

Good luck to you all during this time. You will feel better once he is settled in Iraq (sounds strange, but true!) and you know more. Not sure where your DH deployed to a few years ago, but I think Iraq is tougher to swallow for the family. We are here for you.

ETA-I misread, you said he flies tomorrow and you posted that today! Enjoy your evening!

 

[DawnCt1]

Wow, I just read this. Has he left yet?
That was very tacky of your SIL. I feel bad for her DH though.

I imagine your DH is going to mobilize and deploy rather rapidly, as my DH did? I still flew to see DH alone for a weekend before he left. He took a week long class on some legal junk he would be dealing with, then 2 weeks to Mob. at Ft. Dix by himself (LOTS of wasted time). Right after he did this they started using Ft Bliss for single soldiers and small groups that were deploying. It was much faster for his replacement to mobilize and deploy through Bliss. DH only took 3 days to demob at least.

Good luck to you all during this time. You will feel better once he is settled in Iraq (sounds strange, but true!) and you know more. Not sure where your DH deployed to a few years ago, but I think Iraq is tougher to swallow for the family. We are here for you.

ETA-I misread, you said he flies tomorrow and you posted that today! Enjoy your evening!

Here I am again...from snowy Ct. His 2 pm flight to Ft. Bliss was cancelled again. The early morning flight out is over booked so he is on the 2 pm tomorrow as well. He was going to see if he could change to the early flight anyway but, with the northeast being affected, the airport could be opened, which it is, but if they don't have "equipment on the ground" it won't matter. I think sticking with the 2 pm is more of a sure thing. Thank you for all of your good thoughts. SIL and BIL and two of their kids came over yesterday afternoon. Now the details of the missed dinner come out. SIL went to wake BIL up. He said that he couldn't go, he had to sleep and would go another time. He doesn't remember any of that. I guess he sleeps soundly. Anyway, its a believable story because one of my DSs (the oldest) sleeps like that. All is forgiven. DH is taking his cell phone so we can talk a lot while he is stateside. He will mail it home before he leaves. He bought a prepaid mailer.

 

[BibbidiBobbidiBOO]

Wow, I know you are anxious! I could not stand the delays at this point!! I was ready for DH to "go and get it over with!". Of course it took him about a WEEK to get to Iraq due to broken planes etc.! We had said our second "goodbyes" but I was ready for him to get there and let "his time" begin. (kind of sounds like he was in prison doesn't it! He said it was probably not much different ) I brought DH's cell home with me after our second goodbye. You will be glad he has it while mobilizing. Hopefully your DH will get one when he gets to Iraq.

I did think of you when I turned on the news this morning and saw all that snow, heard about delays!! What a mess.

Now the details of the missed dinner come out. SIL went to wake BIL up. He said that he couldn't go, he had to sleep and would go another time. He doesn't remember any of that. I guess he sleeps soundly. Anyway, its a believable story because one of my DSs (the oldest) sleeps like that. All is forgiven.

Glad to hear it all worked out and they were not as rude as we thought! My kids are the SAME way when asleep. Drives me insane if I have to wake them up.

Let us know if he is able to fly!