Worfiedoodles
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Maria I'm hoping that by just sharing your feelings that you are beginning to process this. We all have bad days...Heck I haven't been "good" since before vacation. Eventually we will find what we need internally to do it. Don't beat yourself up. You're still in the game, your still here with us![]()
You know, I told my dh I was giving up last night. And I meant it, sort of. But then I thought some more, and I realized I just couldn't. I lost 20 lbs last year, and part of me really thinks that should be enough -- but I have a long way to go. Speaking of still being in the game, that's one of the things that inspired me. My beloved Patriots were down 20-10 yesterday, and they could have easily given up. They didn't give up and phone it in, they didn't panic, they just followed their game plan calmly and in the end they won.

Maria--you didn't bring anything down. I'm sorry it's hard right now.No advice, but I have had to use the "fake it to til you make it" method of getting through things on many occasion.
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It's a new day, and I feel much more like doing and less like "faking". I have my healthy breakfast and lunch, and my dh has promised to actually make the vegetables to go with dinner (he often just skips them, even when I ask), so I won't be so hungry and hit the snacks. I also have a better "just home from work plan", that I'm determined to follow. This is embarrassing, but I often come home, put on my pjs, and don't move from the bed until morning. I know this is not helping anyone. I'm going to commit to staying up and eating dinner in the dining room as a family, and then I will start the relaxing part of the evening.

I did my race today, finished in around 42 min, about a minute better than my last race, so I was happy with that. Had some foot pain earlier in the week, better now after a few days of rest. Eating not so great, but maintained this week, so gotta get back on the stick. Will start journalling tomorrow.
Hugs to lots of you, Taryn, Julie, Maria, Connie and dd, dvccruiser and ds, rose and your ds, and anyone else who is in need of hugs.
So many of you inspire me. I miss catching up with you every day. I was so upset when I lost my post. I felt like i had caught up with you all, and was a part of the group again. I know I'm a part of the group, but I miss being able to give back some of the support I get from all of you.
Thank you to all of you for being here for each other. I feel so blessed to have found such a nice group of friends.![]()
Kathy -- We miss you, too! Congratulations on your race, you did a great job!

Maria:Like Deb said, youre here and thats huge.
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Yeah, I needed to come back here. It is really hard to do nothing with all the encouragement, you guys are the BEST!

We have all been there maria. Its ok and you made the first step by talking about it. I too still see myself in pictures and realize that even after loosing 32lbs I still think I look big. I dont picture myself like this at all. Its a hard thing to deal with. Hang in there!![]()
I know I distort my body image, but it was really hard because I think of myself as an athlete, and I just don't look like one...and I not only still look big, I am still big, so that's another tough one. I just have to keep putting it in perspective. My dh told me I would be twice as big as I am now if I hadn't been losing for the last 2 years, and he's right. It's just hard to realize I can't seem to do it in one Challenge or even 4...

I really don't want to but I AM going to weigh-in tomorrow.
I have actually been skipping it the last couple weeks and the week before that, I was up about 5 pounds. I have probably gained about 10 pounds (or more) over the past 3 weeks. I haven't run since last Saturday. I'll give myself a bit of a pass on that because I have been sick for the past few days - trying to kick a sinus infection. And, not only have I been skipping my weigh-ins, but I couldn't even make myself do measurements today. I'll try to do it in the morning, but I know that I'm way up in pounds and inches and I'm dreading it.
I know that I can lose this (AGAIN) if I go all out. The problem with that is that I know I can't do "all out" forever. It's a short term solution. I want so bad to find the balance that can work for me over the long term. But I keep leaning toward the WRONG end of the balance.
There is a part of me that just wants to wait and "start" with the NEXT challenge in January so I don't have to post a big gain. Like, somehow it doesn't count if it happens "off the books". Stupid mind games. Stupid, counter-productive, self-defeating mind games.
Connie -- Were we separated at birth?! I am adopted...but I am also quite a bit older than you, I think! Reading your post has made me decide to do the things tomorrow morning I have been avoiding -- I will do my WIN! measurements, and I will weigh in. I am late on all accounts and I know my numbers are not going to be pretty, but I'm going to face it and move on.

I remember a time just like that. I thought I looked good after I lost 30, then I saw a picture, and it sent me for a tailspin. I hated it. Do what you need to do to feel better, hope you crashed with the book last night. Today is a new day!![]()
Today is a new day! I told dh this morning that it seemed to me (and I'm sorry if I have this wrong, it's just my perception) that all the people who have really lost a lot are able to manipulate their schedules so they work -- they get enough sleep, they find time to exercise, they eat right 90% of the time. I do not get enough sleep, and getting up to work out at 4:30 is not working for me -- then I'm too tired or hungry late in the day, and I don't eat right. I have created a situation in which I have a very hard time succeeding. So, he suggested I aim to get on the TM by 6:30 (much more feasible), and we will leave for work later (we've been getting in much earlier than we need to, because he really likes to be at work for the extra hours -- but it's making me miserable).
So, much like Connie, my new schedule is:
Up at 6 and on the TM by 6:30
Leave for work by 8:30
Breakfast of Vitamuffin and yogurt at work
AM snack of apple slices and 2 tbsp. raw cashews
Lunch of LC, raw veggies and sugar-free jello
PM snack of wasa crisps and laughing cow
Get home and do Flylady chores (it's been a long time since I did these, and I'm excited to get ready to FLY through the holidays!)
Dinner of salmon, rice and steamed veggies, w/WW ice cream treat for dessert
TV/down time
Bed by 10 pm
I missed the workout this morning, but I can follow it other than that.
For anyone who's wondering -- FLY through the holidays means there's a Holiday Journal (I start cleaning in Oct., but the planning can start anytime), you can download from FlyLady's website which will help you get ready for the holidays. I love using it, it has all space to keep track of meal plans, recipes, gift plans -- what you want to buy, budget, and marking off when you have it and have wrapped it, sizes, holiday travel plans, holiday cards, everything you can think of! This is a great time to get me enthused about doing a better job of taking care of my home and getting ready for all the fun of Halloween, Thanksgiving and Christmas -- I enjoy it all so much more when I know I've done everything I want to and I can relax and enjoy the time with my family! if you google "FlyLady Holiday Control Journal" it should come up, I encourage everyone to just give it a look and see if there are parts that will be useful for you. It seems we have twice the responsibilities around the holidays, and being really organized can be a lifesaver!
Maria
