BFF? I think not

[SoccerDogWithEars]

Okay, so here's what happened:

My bff, who I haven't seen in months, had a party last night. She goes to a different school than me and I was gonna be the only person there from my school. But at the same time all my school/band friends were getting together at this guy's house, including the guy I have a crush on. But since she was my bff and I hadn't seen her, I ditched my fellow band geeks and went to her party. Her friends were the complete opposite of me, and she didn't really pay that much attention to me, but I didn't care since I had made a friend and knew that she was the hostess. What bothered me was this. I broke up with a guy in July, and it was a pretty nasty breakup considering we were pretty much in love at first. I still talk to him, and her. So we're talking at her party, and I find out that in NOVEMBER she took him to homecoming with her. Neither of them told me this. I was really upset and hurt, not because she took him, but because I just found out. So my question is this:

Am I completely overreacting by getting upset at her?
OR
Did she break the unwritten code of friendship?

 

[polysisterchick]

see if I were you I'd totally be po'ed and would prolly never talk to that person again.
I think that they should have told you despite the awkwardness of the situation so in my opinion i don't think you are over-reacting.

 

[MuNkY]

I think your over-reacting. It was four months later.

 

[Sparx]

It was four months ago, but I can see your point. Does this friend mean more to you than that guy? if so, then you are over reacting. if not, then no, you're not.

 

[MuNkY]

It was four months ago, but I can see your point. Does this friend mean more to you than that guy? if so, then you are over reacting. if not, then no, you're not.

If they broke up I would think that her friend means more to her than that guy.

 

[Sparx]

If they broke up I would think that her friend means more to her than that guy.

yeah. I thought so too.its kindof a confusing post though.

 

[MuNkY]

yeah. I thought so too.its kindof a confusing post though.

You can say that again.

 

[Pocahontas_6]

This friend probably did it on pourpose to get u away from her. Soooo i would be really mad at her.

 

[MuNkY]

This friend probably did it on pourpose to get u away from her. Soooo i would be really mad at her.

Yeah, but that's just taking a guess. I would rather have her cool down and try to sort things out with her friend, other than get all mad about it and possibly lose a good friend forever.

 

[SoccerDogWithEars]

I'm not mad. And I'm not upset at the fact that she took him to homecoming (well, I kinda am, but not much). It's more the fact that she didn't tell me until Saturday night, and even then it was accidental. We're best friends, and we've always been really open with each other. I talk to her if I know something might upset her. It just bothered me that she went and did it without ever mentioning it to me. There's kind of this unwritten rule that you don't go out with your best friend's ex.

 

[Lil_Tink]

I don't know..At my school I swear some of the girls simply pass around the guys....


Maybe..Try to slowly distance the relationship with her and if she really wants to be your friend she'll come back.

 

[Tiinkerbelle]

I disagree with most people who posted, it is a written law in friendship to not date/go out with left overs. If my best friend went out with one of my ex-boyfriends I would be histaricle since all my break-ups are nasty and we never speak again. So I would be enraged if I new my best friend was dating the enimy. Gladly I don't have to deal with dating anymore.

 

[Maleficent909TL]

I don't know, I'm not all that experienced in that field... but I wouldn't say your overreacting. I think she should have told you. Being mad is understandable, completely.

 

[wdwprincess]

if i were you i would explain to her that not telling you about that it made you feel however you felt. if she gets mad, just tell her you were mad (if you were mad at her) when you found out about her going out with your ex.