BF frustrated with my dog. UPDATE

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I moved in a couple of months ago w/ the bf and my dog recently started peeing in the house, which he never does. The first time was during a big storm and the next time, maybe two weeks later, BF had just taken him out and he peed on the floor after coming back in. I took him (the dog, not the bf ha ha) to the vet and he has a UTI.

BF still thinks dog it is just the dog misbehaving and that he just doesn't like it there.

BF is frustrated, as am I, and wants me to move out if it continues and no I refuse to give up the dog, nor has bf asked me to. I love them both dearly and I don't want to give up either.

How do I get BF to understand the dog is sick not acting out? I think he's overreacting, but I understand he's upset because my dog is ruining his carpet and he's frustrated. BF has no patience.

Solutions Please!
 
Is that your doggie in the photo? How old is he/she? He/she looks like an older dog.

Seriously your BF wants you to move????:confused: How long have you known each other before moving in? What does that say about his committment level?

Personally, I would not want a man without patience.

TC:cool1:
 
Does your boyfriend understand that the dog has a UTI and is not doing it on purpose? The poor dog. He can probably feel the tension that your BF has towards him.
 
I would move out. Sounds like your dog is anxious and BF is likely the cause. If your BF decided the way to resolve the issue is for you to move out, I would be GONE!:mad: Sorry I don't have a solution but your BF needs some patience.
 

If it were me, and the bf didn't have the patience for the dog and the going to the bathroom in the house.....I'd dump the boyfriend.
 
Is that your doggie in the photo? How old is he/she? He/she looks like an older dog.

Seriously your BF wants you to move????:confused: How long have you known each other before moving in? What does that say about his committment level?

Personally, I would not want a man without patience.

TC:cool1:

He's 12! BF known each other for 5 years, dated serious 7 months. Believe me I'm completely questioning how anyone who tells me he loves me can do this? He doesn't love me nearly enough to put me through this. I want to walk better yet run, but my emotions are heavily tied in. How can anyone do this to someone? It's so unfair. If you want out have the kahuna's to just say so.
 
I would take your BF and the dog to the vet together. That way the vet can explain what is going on and maybe discuss any fears that he might have about having a dog in the first place.

If that doesn't work I think you might need to rethink this boyfriend.
 
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I would take your BF and the dog to the vet together. That way the vet can explain what is going on and maybe discuss any fears that he might have about having a dog in the first place.

If that doesn't work I think you might need to rethink this boyfriend.

Thanks, I was thinking that. I'm not really thinking too clearly though...pretty hurt right now.
 
Wow - like the Carrie Underwood song... "the more boys I meet, the more I love my dog!" Honestly, I wouldn't hesitate to pick my dog over a guy. :)
 
OP, He's 12? He's adorable!!!

:hug: to you. I hope your BF was not really serious and only said that in the heat of the moment.

If he is, it is better you found out now. Long after the dog is gone, there will be other issues that will come up. Will that always be the #1 answer to the problem?:confused:

TC:cool1:
 
I also see this as a red flag with the boyfriend. If you have known each other for 5 years then certainly the dog has had more than enough time to get to know the bf and the bf the dog.

If your bf wants you to move out over such a little thing, I think I would take it as a strong sign to HIT THE ROAD.

Did you ever read "He's Just Not That In To You"? I believe this is such an occasion.

My opinion is that you need to listen to bf and MOVE OUT.
 
Okay, I know you asked how you can make him understand that this is a medical issue. Hopefully you can make him understand that, especially if he sees that the dog is on medication for the problem or he talks to the vet. However, what about next time? I had an older dog who started having accidents in the house, but was otherwise healthy. It was an age-related issue and there was not much that could be done for it. It was inevitable that she would occasionally have accidents, though I could do things to try to minimize them. If my husband had felt the way your boyfriend does, we would have had a serious problem. I certainly wasn't willing to put her down, turn her into an outside dog or give her away over something like that.

What if your dog develops a permanent problem that could result in accidents? What if the two of you get another pet someday who develops a similar sort of problem? If the two of you are too far apart on how you would deal with those situations then you might not be able to find common ground that you could both live with.

All that aside, I think this might be enough to make me break up with someone. If a small issue like this was enough for my boyfriend to ask me to move out, there's no way I could contemplate a long term relationship with him. I don't know that there's a "right" and "wrong" way to feel about this (well actually I think you are right and he is wrong, but I suppose he is entitled to his feelings) but it doesn't really matter, anyway. The real question for me would be whether the two of you are compatible enough to live together. The fact that he would even suggest that you move out would make me very uncomfortable about the relationship.
 
I would give him a chance to go to the vet with me as well. If he didn't seem interested in what the vet said or in the dog's health, then I would move out. Not being a dog lover is a deal breaker for me, though.
 
Your dog is nervous because of new situation.....he is at the point that it is afraid to do anything. Overly praise him when he does what you want and the behavior should change. Be patient and invest in a carpet cleaner.
 
how is he going to treat a child that may have a problem?
 
I seriously would rethink my relation.
What about kids?
They are also very demanding and will never go away.:rotfl:

And may God forbid but what if one of your children would be handicapped or you would become ill and needed care?
 
If anything your BF is showing that he lacks compassion and being married 18yrs., you NEED ALOT of that to survive.:)

It is obvious he is not a dog person and probably living together while you have this dog is just going to lead to situations that will hurt you over and over again.

Plus the wear and tear on your dog in his older yrs., living with someone who does not like him will not be good for his health. :guilty:
 
AT 12, your dog is elderly. A move is very stressful for him in and of itself. To then have BF be mad, that adds fuel to the fire. The dog is saying "Uncle".

Look up submissive urination if you don't know what it is. Here you go: http://www.usask.ca/wcvm/herdmed/applied-ethology/behaviourproblems/suburine.html

If you are a dog lover, it is very difficult to be with someone who's insensitive to matters related to your dog.

Good luck with this situation. :flower3:
 
No offense but it sounds like your BF didn't really want the dog in the house to start with but said yes for your benefit. If you love the dog more than him do him you probably shouldn't be living with him in the first place.
 

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