Beth's WW Journey. (Comments Welcome)

[AmyBeth68]

Sending some good wishes and big old hug for your job interviews!!!!

Great news about Jon too.... . It's time...you need to get rid of the negative energy there. I'm super impressed with you Beth. Please do let us know how the interviews went!!!

 

[toystoryduo]

That is great news, Beth!

Sending lots of your way for your interviews....

Hope you have a great day today!

 

[larry's girl]

Hi, Beth. Thanks so much for the support on my journal - I appreciate it!

Just catching up - awesome job on the painting. Don't ever forget that you are WAY stronger than you give yourself credit for. You can do ANYTHING that you need to do and you are proving that over and over again. My hat is off to you for putting up with your husband and his shenanigans all this time so he won't be homeless. I don't know that I would be that generous of heart if I was in your shoes. I am glad he will be moving out soon and you will have that constant source of stress gone from your home.

I am VERY proud of you for continuing to exercise through all this. Don't stress about the eating - you will come through this patch and be fine. I am just now feeling well enough to do my "new" exercise routine, and I was surprised at how much I missed the feeling of getting moving. It's so good for us in so many ways, including as a stress reliever, so it's very inspirational to see someone like you who could make tons of valid excuses to put off exercising and yet you still make it happen. Way to go!

Hope you have a good one - take care of yourself!

Susan

 

[traceycooper]

Great news Jon will finally be out of your hair

Good luck with the interviews tomorrow

 

[momof2minnies]

Hi Beth,
Thanks for the support over on my journal, Lord knows I need to get back to them.
Great news about Jon.
Good luck on the job interviews.
Sounds like you continue to persevere and keep the focus on you and Kate.Good for you!
Linda

 

[MIdanceMom]

Hi All,

I am so sorry that I haven't been able to make it to your journals. I haven't even had time to turn on my laptop the last few days. I will be able to do the rounds tomorrow. Our doc leaves at 2pm, and I am stuck at work until 330.

Well, the interviews are over. I got 2 job offers. One was insulting. They were serious about their offer that is $8.50/hr. less than what I make now. Plus I would work every other Saturday. The second offer is interesting. I would be working in a surgeons office. They are all very nice. I would be making just about the same pay, but at 40 hrs a week. It would be a challenge, and I could make some positive changes in the practice. Now the negatives. I would have a 50 minute commute each way. I don't get out until 430, so I would have to rely on MIL to get Kate to dance. I would pick kate up from dance do the dinner and homework thing, and then clean/bed. No time for me in there.

My current job has offered me 32 hr/week with full benifits. I am used to the routine, and the hours are perfect. Having the extra day off a week gives me time to workout and get my errands done, so I don't drag kate everywhere. I like my coworkers. The negatives are that my boss is psycho, and I would make $10,000 less a year by not working that 5th day. Of course Jon will have to pay more in child support.

I need to decide if I take an interesting job for an extra 10000 a year,but not have as much time with my daughter. Opinions are appreciated.

I am a mess with my food. I know it will come, but I am feeling out of control again. I hate feeling that way. That is my project for the next week. I have been exercising. I went to pilates this week and actually felt like I knew what I was doing.

Ok, I need to get Kate to bed, fold some laundry, and get lunches together.

See you tomorrow.
Beth

 

[Amy&Dan]

Wow Beth, that is a toughie!

Lets see, having Jon pay more child support is tempting . But do you think he will be good with that? If you can count on that then that might be the way to go. Also if you for sure can count on mil to pick up Kate and get her to dance?

In some ways I can see that staying at the same place, psycho boss and all might be good. Less change when you already have so many changes to adjust to. On the other hand, a fresh start with a job that sounds more to your liking might be just the thing. Lord, I am no help at all....

Also, when the house sells, can you move closer to the new job?

Last but not least, you can stay at current job and keep looking for something that is better nearer to home.

This is all stuff you have no doubt thought of! I just worry about that commute, that's a long one, esp. in the winter. Whatever you decide will be the right thing for you, you are a smart lady!

I hope you get some Beth Time this weekend, you have really earned it. Just keep hanging in there, one way or the other, you will be more settled in your life in the near future. You are getting there Beth, and you did it yourself!

 

[momof2minnies]

Yeah that is a tough one but I tend to agree with previous poster,if you can get it from Jon do it.Now may not be the time for such a change.Your current coworkers at this point must be a source of support for you and to leave that may be tough.We have all had psycho bosses as long as you are not getting hurt ignore him.

Take the food and exercise one day at a time but don't give up completely.

Hang in there,
Linda

 

[Blueeyes101817]

Im going to agree with the previous posters as well

Glad there is a light at the end of the tunnel as far as Jon moving out--tahts excellent!

have a great sunday

 

[traceycooper]

oh Beth i dont envy having to make such a tough decision!
If you can mange money wise staying where you are i would tend to go for that,
kids grow up so quick it would be a shame to miss any of it !!
And you dont want to get run down doing too many hours & not having any you time!!
Like the others have said - you can keep looking in the mean time.
Good luck whatever you decide.

 

[MIdanceMom]

Hi All,

Well, I've made my decision. I am staying put. The money I would pay a sitter counteracts my pay increase, and the commute would get to me after a bit. I will keep looking but there is no rush. Thanks for the advice. It did help.

This has been a weekend of decisions. We had the house appraised by 2 realtors yesterday. If we sell now, we stand to lose $25000. We can make it with both of us working, so Kate and I will be staying in the house for at least the next 2 years. She is excited. Jon is in no rush to get divorced, just to move out. I took a look at his job offer. He doesn't know I have seen it. If we stay married for 2 more years, I could have a much more significant settlement. My lawyer agrees. She says, if I can handle being married in name only, it makes sense. She is going to draw up a temporary support agreeement, and I will sit tight. I can always change my mind and file next week. My mom thinks this is mean and underhanded. I look at it as taking care of myself and my daughter. He is the one who is leaving. He is the one not looking at the long term consequences of his actions. If I change my mind, I can change what I ask for. I still don't want this to turn ugly, but I am now looking at the separation/divorce as a business deal. Sad but true.

On to my healthy lifestyle. Yep, I can say I am back on track. I exercise both Friday and Saturday. I also stayed in WW guidelines and points. Plenty of water, and I am feeling a bit more in control. I have laundry to fold and cleaning to do. I am making chicken soup and salad for dinner. I hope to hit journals tonight. Hope everyone is doing okay.

Take care
Beth

 

[postesf]

Hey Beth!!! I just wanted to check in on ya.

Staying put...I have to say, I commute about 50 min each way and it does get old...fast! I think you are smart to stay put and stay close. I would give anything for extra day off work and be able to maintain my benefits!!!

Glad to hear you are back on track! I hope to be getting back on track tomorrow...vacation...you know!

Just my opinion, but I do not think it is wrong to look at your seperation/divorce as a business deal. It is sad, but true. You do need to look after yourself and your daughter. I hope all goes as you need it too!

Take care Beth!!!
Stacie

 

[toystoryduo]

Beth,

I think staying put will be a good thing. That way, you have full benefits and a day off. Plus, like you said, you won't have to pay a sitter and you'll still get to spend time with Kate and not have to commute.

I'm sorry that you have to make decisions like these under the circumstances. I think you are a strong woman who is doing an amazing job, Beth.

I hope you have a wonderful week ahead! Take good care of you!

 

[traceycooper]

Hi Beth
glad you managed to come to a decision, i think you made the right one about both the move & the divorce, i know many people who got ''duped'' into settling for less & regreted it down the line!

 

[kimwim8]

1I'm sorry that you have to make decisions like these under the circumstances. I think you are a strong woman who is doing an amazing job, Beth.

I couldn't agree more. You're one of the strongest women I know.

I think you'll be happier with staying where you are. I'm glad you made that decision. I think the time with Kate is so precious. They grow up so darn fast.

Take care, and stay strong. You're doing great!

 

[AmyBeth68]

Hi Beth...

I will echo what the other girls have said...I think you made a really good decision. I know it wasn't easy though...you truly amaze me!

Life has thrown you far more than your share of heartache and pain..but what it has revealed is one of the strongest women I've ever seen.

 

[MIdanceMom]

Hi All,

I am doing ok. I am just very busy as usual. Let's see, what have I been up to? I have hit the gym a few times, and I am feeling that I am getting a routine again. Food has been ok, I still have flex points available, so i am doing better than the last few weeks. My weight is up because TOM has reared its ugly head, but the bloat will pass. Kate doesn't have school for the next 2 days r/t parent teacher conferences. I go tonight. My mom comes tonight, so she can watch Katie. I told Jon he needed to go to a hotel for tonight. My mom needs the guest room. Well, he is shacking up with his high school girlfriend. I do hope he grows up sometime. I called my car dealer. I have a gm lease. They are doing a pull ahead program, and I want to buy. He is trying to figure out a way I can pull ahead and use my dad's a-plan. I am now putting too many miles on my car for a lease. How is that for a stream of concsiousness post?

I need to run, next patient is here.

Take care,
Beth

 

[Amy&Dan]

Beth, tell your mom if you were in the mood to be mean, Jon would wake up with a steak knife embedded in his forehead. I think you have been incredibly nice. Taking care of you, is taking care of Kate. That's been your emphasis from day one. Mom's are from a different generation and see things differently. I am glad you are staying in the house, no sense losing money in this crazy real estate market. And staying legally married to Jon sounds like good sense for now. One day at a time, you are thinking things through and acting like a mature, responsible adult. Too bad Jon can't too!

So glad you are back on track, I knew you would be. Hang in there honey, you are really getting through this!

 

[toystoryduo]

Beth,

I hope you have a great weekend ahead.

 

[traceycooper]

Hi Beth
hope your doing well!!
Have a super weekend