Belly Buttons!

[RMulieri]

I don't see the point of getting a belly-button ring unless it is to show it off. IMO, 14-year-old girls are too young to be showing off their stomachs. I don't mean to offend anyone-this is just my opinion-but I think that young girls are way too "sexualized" at too young of an age these days.

I agree.

 

[tinkerpea]

I am a mother to 3 boys , I had my tummy pierced when i was nearly 15 up till then my mum told me NO WAY i had my ears done when i was 2 or 3 , I have to say that the novelty wore off after I had my 1st sone as i put on weight and i have never really put it bk in as I had twins 2 yrs after .
I would allow my child at 15 to have it done so that it can be seen when she is on the beach etc ( not in normal clothes) . as I feel their are worse things in life to do

 

[quasar4legs]

I think if you are going to allow ears then I don't think it makes sense to say no to belly buttons.

A hole is a hole................isn't it

 

[superme80]

The rule in my house is if you can afford the tat or piercing then you can afford to have them in your own apartment. I wanted mine when I was 14 and my parents told me no. I considered ti after I turned 18 and I decided against it. Very glad I did. And I agree with the PP who was discussing the sexualization of our young girls. Completely agree!

 

[PEANUT1]

My vote is a big NO.
I agree with some others that navel rings are more sexual in nature than an ear piercing..to compare the two is just silly in my opinion. 14 years old seems way too young for this. I wouldn't care if all of her friends parents allowed it. I think a belly ring at 14, by 16 she will want her tongue pierced. How can you say no to that after allowing this?

 

[RMulieri]

I think if you are going to allow ears then I don't think it makes sense to say no to belly buttons.

A hole is a hole................isn't it

There is nothing sexual about an ear, a belly can be considered sexual.I would ask..Why does she want it pierced? I know when I did it it was because I wanted to show it off, and I wore clothes that did that, and bathing suits when in season also showcased it.

 

[burnurcomputer]

My vote is a big NO.
I agree with some others that navel rings are more sexual in nature than an ear piercing..to compare the two is just silly in my opinion. 14 years old seems way too young for this. I wouldn't care if all of her friends parents allowed it. I think a belly ring at 14, by 16 she will want her tongue pierced. How can you say no to that after allowing this?

One could argue that a belly is usually covered up in polite society while a tongue is used daily and is not in a place that can be covered up. Just sayin'

 

[sweetdana]

1) I agree with poster that the reasons may be sexual in nature on the belly; and it also could be all my friends have them.

If you think it is the 1st.. NOOOOOOOOOOOOO WAYYYYYYYYYYY!

If you think is it just the band wagon.. Tell her for her 15th bithday if she still wants it, pick a goal for her like good grades, or getting up for school on time, or keeping her room clean (you win and you let her win). But no asking before then. I get the too much fight and you have to pick your battles. If you win a few instead and let it go for the right reasons.. I would do it.

 

[Mrs. Charming]

1) I agree with poster that the reasons may be sexual in nature on the belly; and it also could be all my friends have them.

If you think it is the 1st.. NOOOOOOOOOOOOO WAYYYYYYYYYYY!

If you think is it just the band wagon.. Tell her for her 15th bithday if she still wants it, pick a goal for her like good grades, or getting up for school on time, or keeping her room clean (you win and you let her win). But no asking before then. I get the too much fight and you have to pick your battles. If you win a few instead and let it go for the right reasons.. I would do it.

 

[princessmom29]

There is nothing sexual about an ear, a belly can be considered sexual.I would ask..Why does she want it pierced? I know when I did it it was because I wanted to show it off, and I wore clothes that did that, and bathing suits when in season also showcased it.

there is nothing sexual about a belly button either, unless you choose to make it that way. I would have never even considered it if you hadn't said it.

 

[gracie1]

First I want to make it very clear each parent must decide what is right for their child!!!!!!! Being a parent is the most important job out there! I love my 3 children! That said, here is what we decided!

My DD was 14 when she had her belly button done! She asked and we talked it over! We decided it was not a life changing decision so it was ok! One condition was she had to go with a parent it was her Dad that went with her! My DH checked out the shop and made sure it was 100% safe! He was present the entire time! We all thought she would chicken out but nope! Today she is 22 and has upper and lower done! Also her upper ear and targus. No tatts. we discussed this over the years and I feel thats life changing because you have a tatt. forever! She now agrees tatts. are forever! Its funny to hear her repeat "the talk" to soemone! As a side not a piercing can be removed and forgotten! My DD is a special education teacher now! I am very proud of her!

In the end its your decision as a parent!

Just my thoughts! Different choices for each family! No right or wrong!!!!!

I agree, it is not life changing. There is always the possibility of her just getting it pierced without you as well. Even if not going to a professional, her or her friends could do it. However, you need to set your own boundaries and if you feel that strongly against it, then stand your ground.
But remember, if she doesn't do it herself now, she can get it done once she is 16. (atleast you can here)

 

[pixiewings71]

I'm a grandma raising two granddaughters, ages 11 and 13.

I have double pierced ears. The first holes I did myself with a sewing needle and ice cubes at 15. My mother had a fit but she didn't make me let them close up. The second holes I got at 32 as a divorce gift to myself.
I also have a tat on my right upper back. This was a 50th birthday gift from my husband, and I can't say I regret it.

My granddaughter, 11, as well as her two younger sisters, ages 5 and 2 1/2, have pierced ears.

My 13 y/o granddaughter has no ear piercings, mostly due to a congenital ear lobe defect in one ear. Due to the location of this defect, a piercing/earring would look awkward so she has decided not to pierce her ears until she can have this surgically corrected.

Should she come home next year and want her belly button pierced I would say no, not at 14. At 14, to my mind she's still a little girl. However, at 16 I might consider it. I say might. . .

She also wants to highlight her hair and I have told her she is not going to start coloring her hair at 13. Her mother thinks I am being unreasonable but if her mother had good sense the kid wouldn't be living with me LOL. (For the record, I started coloring my hair at 15, without mom's permission, of course. I finally stopped coloring it about 8 years ago, but I'm considering highlights again. )

My girls both have colored streaks in their hair. DD10 has teal blue in her hair, it's faded so it looks mostly green but it started with more blue. When it's gone she will pick another color and we will add that. DD14 had a blue-purple in her hair but it washed out. We are going to add just purple next but we haven't done it just yet. I have no issues with colors like that because they do wash out but I wouldn't let them do an all over color change just yet. That is another thing that waits until they are at least 16 and can pay for it themselves.

 

[bwilcox]

I had my navel pierced among many other body parts in my late teens also (I'm 29 currently), and had my son a week ago, and I didn't notice the hole.

That's weird. My top hole is very noticeable, although not the bottom one since it is IN the bellybutton. Maybe my piercing artist was not as skilled as yours.

 

[bwilcox]

there is nothing sexual about a belly button either, unless you choose to make it that way. I would have never even considered it if you hadn't said it.

The sexualization isn't in the bellybutton itself, but in the ways girls show off the piercing, either by wearing clothes that expose their stomachs or lifting their shirt partway to show it off to others. While you may not find that sexual, I guarantee you that 14-year-old boys do.

 

[Vijoge]

My girls both have colored streaks in their hair. DD10 has teal blue in her hair, I have no issues with colors like that because they do wash out but I wouldn't let them do an all over color change just yet.

She's not asking for temporary purple streaks but all over permanent blonde highlights.

She's only in 7th grade and I think there's plenty of time for that when she's older and in high school. The colored streaks wouldn't be allowed at her school, though. They can't have hair in any color other than the colors hair naturally grows. It doesn't have to be their natural haircolor, though.

 

[Vijoge]

While you may not find that sexual, I guarantee you that 14-year-old boys do.

LOL 14 y/o boys are going to find 14 y/o girls sexy whether their belly buttons are pierced or not. It's the way teenagers have been since the beginning of time.

 

[bwilcox]

LOL 14 y/o boys are going to find 14 y/o girls sexy whether their belly buttons are pierced or not. It's the way teenagers have been since the beginning of time.

That's true, but wearing shirts that show cleavage, way-too-short skirts, or clothes that expose a girl's stomach sure don't help. IMO that is not something we should be encouraging in 14-year-old girls.

 

[vettechick99]

My parents always had this rule:

YOU WILL NOT RETURN TO THIS HOUSE WITH ANYMORE HOLES IN YOUR BODY THAN YOU LEFT WITH (as long as you are living at home...).

No need to question that.

I agree. No way in hell would I let my daughters get their belly buttons pierced. Stay strong, mom!!

 

[pixiewings71]

She's not asking for temporary purple streaks but all over permanent blonde highlights.

She's only in 7th grade and I think there's plenty of time for that when she's older and in high school. The colored streaks wouldn't be allowed at her school, though. They can't have hair in any color other than the colors hair naturally grows. It doesn't have to be their natural haircolor, though.

Well then I absolutely would say no. I don't think kids as young as ours need to color their hair permanently. Maybe that's hypocritical because I don't mind the colors but I do mind changing their natural color. LOL

 

[HDCooper]

I'm a ~No~ aswell. She is 14.... I agree with the other poster who said untill your 18, when you are legally an adult, untill then moms rules... haha Side note... some people keloid.... I keloid, and it is NOT pretty!! A Keloid is when you get a big lumpy scar! My mom Keloids as well. Keloids also Are very irritating! they itch for years. Any type of piercing can produce this effect. Which is why I will not be taking my daughter to get pierced... When she is 18 and if she decides to do it herself, then I will make sure she is fully informed.

I keloid too. I had my ears pierced at 8. I have had the keloid on my right ear removed 3 times. They have even done radiation to it.... It is coming back again this is why I am not allowing my DD to get her ears pierced.