Belly Buttons!

[SLK1]

Part of the reason I won't wear mine again is because my mom got her navel pierced. It doesn't seem right to wear mine if my mother has one! So maybe if you got yours pierced she'd find it "uncool" and change her mind.

Now THAT is an excellent idea!!!

And I guess "the big deal" is that it's not a necessity (I know, I know, earrings aren't either and people even pierce baby earrs), and is a "sexy thang" and with all the short shorts, tight tops, make-up, and trash talk I see and hear, the last thing we need is a "sexy thang" on her navel. Maybe it's irrational on my part, but I can't budge on this one.

 

[jennyleettu]

Every family has their own rules and their own list of non-negotiables...for our house (right now at least) I don't see this being a big issue.

Like a PP said as long as it was discussed before hand, and she went with a parent to a shop that was clean then I wouldn't make an issue out of it. But like I said that's just for our family.

 

[pjacobi]

Have the child pick out piercing/tattoo.

Wait one year.

If they still want exact same piercing/tattoo, let them get it.

If the child changes mind and wants something different, reset the one year clock.

It will all be forgotten in a few weeks or months.


-Paul

 

[weswife]

Like I said no right or wrong answer. Whatever works for you and your family. Life brings out stuff we have no choice on.

 

[pixiewings71]

I have my belly button pierced, DD22 does too, she also has her tongue pierced. BUT I was well over 18 and DD22 was 18 when she has hers done. I told her for her 18th bday I would give her a body piercing of her choice, she went with her tongue, I took her where I had mine done (I had 2 piercings done in one place and 1 at another) and I paid for it. She was 18 but they still had me sign a consent form. A couple weeks later she came home with her belly button done, she paid for it herself.

I have two girls at home still, 14 & 10, they both know the house rule is nothing pierced but ears until you're 18 and at 18 if you still want it done Mom will gift you one piercing on your 18th bday.

Personally I have my ears (2 holes) pierced, I also have my tragus and my cartiledge in my right ear and my belly button done. I also have 1 tattoo and would love to get 2 more. Our house rule is accepted and works fine but I will say that if the girls wanted to get more holes in their ears (they each have their ears pierced once) I would let them and I honestly do feel that belly buttons are "just jewelry" but since we have that family rule already in place that's what it is. I honestly would not let my 14 y.o. get her belly button done, I could see maybe 16 or even 17 but not 14. I hope my girls don't see this post....DD14 will start bugging me in 2 years. LOL

 

[MarriedToAPrince]

I almost died from getting my belly button pierced. I got it done at 18 against my parents wishes. It never got infected so that wasn't the issue. I developed a blood disease called ITP, basically low platelet levels. My oncologist told me that the body sees the bar from the piercing as the same as a metal rod inserted into your bone. The body can reject it and this is what happened with me. A normal platelet level is 120,000 to 440,000. Anything below 10,000 you are at risk for a spontaneous brain bleed and dying. The day I was diagnosed my level was 4,000. After this happened I did some research and found out that it is happening more frequently then you think.

 

[burnurcomputer]

Here are my answers, but they are also questions.

Would she care for it? 14 year old girls are different then boys so if you feel that she can care for it, then yes.

Do you think that she would change her wardrobe for it? If so then, no. You shouldn't change something like that about yourself to make others happy.

Are you afraid that this will change her behavior? If she is reasonable and modest now do you think that this will make her flash it off or show it to random people? If yes, then no. If no, then yes.

Are you willing to let her do some research with you on the best places to get it done (lisenced places with an autoclave that patrons can check out, and good clean establishment, happy customers, good rep, ect.)? If she is not willing to find the best place (NOT the best price, as the price can be higher - for the cost of the autoclave and staff training) then no.

Its really about what you personally think as you are the parents and I am a random stranger on the internet. "Because I said so" is always a valid reason for why not

 

[sunnyday123]

I have mine pierced. It was the most God awful pain I've ever experienced in my life-including child birth and having a nail go straight through the bottom of my foot. It was a tattoo parlor and they told me they'd never heard the words I was saying before and asked if I was a sailor.

DD thinks it's disgusting, uncool and is embarrassed by it. I'm keeping it till she's 30. I'm pretty sure she'll never get hers done. *fingers crossed*

 

[cassandrap83]

I had mine done when I was 19. I wanted it earlier, but my parents said 'No!' After getting pregnant & having kids, I totally regret it. I had to take it out when my belly grew & now I have this little hole/extra skin thingy which SUCKS b/c I am still skinny & like to wear a bikini. Blah I hate it.

 

[brenalexacamp]

we let my daughter do it when she was 15. The deal was no belly shirts- we were not buying new clothes to show it off. The only time it would be visible is when she wears a bathing suit. We live in NH! She has 3 holes in her ears and the cartilage- she never wears more than 2 earrings. Most of the time is one. she wanted her nose done- we said NO-she tried to do it on her own- we made her take it out! My rule is nothing on your face! No eyebrows, lips, cheeks- no more hole in your ears. Done! Someday you are not going to want the face piercings and you will have droopy holes(I am sure there is a procedure to fix that but I am not telling her that).

it is a personal choice and your rules are your own- no need to justify to anyone or feel bad about it-go with your gut!


My son was in middle school and wanted his ear pierced sooo bad- we let him wear a magnetic one for a week- he decided he didn't want it anymore. he finally did it the next year- he's 21 now and the hole is closed.

 

[3happydancers]

I almost died from getting my belly button pierced. I got it done at 18 against my parents wishes. It never got infected so that wasn't the issue. I developed a blood disease called ITP, basically low platelet levels. My oncologist told me that the body sees the bar from the piercing as the same as a metal rod inserted into your bone. The body can reject it and this is what happened with me. A normal platelet level is 120,000 to 440,000. Anything below 10,000 you are at risk for a spontaneous brain bleed and dying. The day I was diagnosed my level was 4,000. After this happened I did some research and found out that it is happening more frequently then you think.

As a parent, this would get me to stop and really think. For our family, the answer is simply "no" for several reasons, including the medical risks.

 

[bama-mom]

To each his own, but no way, no how in this house
Nothing but ears allowed to be pierced here and that goes for the girls only! Even if mine are 20, in college and I am footing the bills, they still have to abide by our rules. Just do what is best for you and your family and stick to your rules and beliefs. Raising teens is rough

 

[Tollesysgirl]

I totally agree with you. NO!

 

[MSSANDRA]

Well...I would really want to just say no...and I might BUT..I try to have good reasons for saying no. I have boys so this one is not an issue but the reality is that most of the teen girls here, do have belly rings and these are the really good, smart kids that DS hangs with. We go to a local pool club with many of our church members and most all the teens girls there do have rings. SO...I just am glad I have boys but if I had a daughter I might give in. Of course as someone said it would have to be at a place I trusted and I would have to know my child would care for it.

 

[Leajess99]

I am so with you on this. No way would my 14 year old be getting any piercings (ears are already done) or tattoos. My son is 17 and knows he is not getting a tattoo until he is out of my house. His friend got one with the mom's permission (she signed paper and left not even waiting to make sure he was okay) and now he wants one. I told him when he graduates and moves out he can do whatever he wants with his body.

There are too many people letting these young kids get piercings and tattoos and while it is their choice, I don't agree with it.

 

[Mrs. Charming]

I'm probably the lone dissenter again, it's just a hole and it'll close, and the novelty will wear off.

 

[bwilcox]

I don't see the point of getting a belly-button ring unless it is to show it off. IMO, 14-year-old girls are too young to be showing off their stomachs. I don't mean to offend anyone-this is just my opinion-but I think that young girls are way too "sexualized" at too young of an age these days.

 

[bwilcox]

I'm probably the lone dissenter again, it's just a hole and it'll close, and the novelty will wear off.

Just FYI: I got my belly button pierced when I was 19, and then took the piercing out after a year and haven't worn it since. At 30, the holes still haven't closed up. Didn't look too attractive while I was pregnant!

 

[Mrs. Charming]

Just FYI: I got my belly button pierced when I was 19, and then took the piercing out after a year and haven't worn it since. At 30, the holes still haven't closed up. Didn't look too attractive while I was pregnant!

I had my navel pierced among many other body parts in my late teens also (I'm 29 currently), and had my son a week ago, and I didn't notice the hole.

 

[Vijoge]

I'm a grandma raising two granddaughters, ages 11 and 13.

I have double pierced ears. The first holes I did myself with a sewing needle and ice cubes at 15. My mother had a fit but she didn't make me let them close up. The second holes I got at 32 as a divorce gift to myself.
I also have a tat on my right upper back. This was a 50th birthday gift from my husband, and I can't say I regret it.

My granddaughter, 11, as well as her two younger sisters, ages 5 and 2 1/2, have pierced ears.

My 13 y/o granddaughter has no ear piercings, mostly due to a congenital ear lobe defect in one ear. Due to the location of this defect, a piercing/earring would look awkward so she has decided not to pierce her ears until she can have this surgically corrected.

Should she come home next year and want her belly button pierced I would say no, not at 14. At 14, to my mind she's still a little girl. However, at 16 I might consider it. I say might. . .

She also wants to highlight her hair and I have told her she is not going to start coloring her hair at 13. Her mother thinks I am being unreasonable but if her mother had good sense the kid wouldn't be living with me LOL. (For the record, I started coloring my hair at 15, without mom's permission, of course. I finally stopped coloring it about 8 years ago, but I'm considering highlights again. )