being approached by the opposite gender

[Sparx]

It makes me uncomfortable, I think it is because of my previous problem at Taco Bell. What started out as innocent immediately became the opposite.
I wish it didn't but as of late, I seem to be shying away from the attention.

i completely understand that. have you thought about maybe trying a light counseling session? it can be really hard to work over traumatic incidents like that by yourself, sometimes. it can become self destructive to become afraid of attention in that way though, kwim?

 

[disneyworldluvr349]

I think that some light therapy would be good for me, though my parents would just think I am overreacting. They would never go for it.

 

[Sparx]

I think that some light therapy would be good for me, though my parents would just think I am overreacting. They would never go for it.

how old are you? could you speak to a school counselor?

 

[STOPxmickeytime]

When it's a guy friend flirting with me I'll pretty much always flirt back even if I'm really not that interested, because it's just some harmless fun. But as far as awkward pick-up attempts, two really stand out in my mind.

One was in my health class last year when I got paired up with a guy who I'd never even seen before in my life. Our subject was dating, and literally 2 seconds after introducing myself to him and opening my book, he was like, "So, Mickey, on the topic of dating, what would you say if I asked you on a date?"
Since he caught me off guard I was just like, "Uh, no?" and laughed. I actually felt pretty bad about that one... I didn't mean to be so harsh.

But then the funny story was when I was in the Dominican Republic with my whole family. This absolutely GORGEOUS guy (who was maybe 21 or so, a tad too old for me) comes over to me and smiled and was like, "I just had to tell you, you're the prettiest girl I've seen all day."
My dad then walked over from behind me and said, "Yep, I agree, prettiest high school student that I know!" and turned me away. The look on the guy's face was pretty hilarious, even I had to laugh about it.

I love flirting. It's such a great mood and confidence booster. But I REALLY hate when much older guys say flirty or suggestive things to me. It always makes me so skeeved out.

 

[rnrlover]

haha....I've had mostly creepy stalker people...including one that was 17 when he asked me out..the creepy part? I was 13.hes very clingly..wheni said no he was all "i'm going to kill myself" ugh...
but now that im in highschool theres been this thing haha not really. but ongoing flirting with this one guy....our last converstion went like this(at the time i was very p.o.)
Him:i can never tell if you're p***ed! You still smile, and that glint in your eye is still the same!"
Me:"Um, is that suppoed to be a compliment?? haha"
Him"um, yeah i guess..haha"

 

[Axel]

Generally, I'm flattered if somebody flirts with me, no matter what they look like because it makes me feel good about myself.

That said, I flirt. A lot. I don't do it on here because...yeah, awkward. But in real life, if I'm friends with somebody I vaguely like, I'll flirt. It just makes everything more fun. They all know I'm in a serious relationship and I know it just sounds shallow, but I can't help it. It's a natural part of who I am.

 

[disneyworldluvr349]

how old are you? could you speak to a school counselor?

I am 17 I turn 18 in June.

 

[pigletgirl]

Holy cow that just made my day! That is totally hysterical!!! Ha, I'm doing a survey..wait, there's something in your hair...uh huh right dude. Heehee.

I have other friends who are guys, and its totally fine when they approach me. They know I have boundaries, and that I am taken (). If a guy does happen to start flirting, I'll graciously smile, and walk away. It usually works. But in my social circle the other guys know better.

 

[MickeyisBeast]

Do I? No. Do others towards me? Yes. Normally I just walk away... I'm too young IMO to be flirting or whatever.

But I love some of the stories you guys have :]

 

[Kit Kat]

I usually act stupid and oblivious to the whole thing. I guess that fits my personality the best.

 

[Mrs. Chamberlain]

this is exactly what I have to deal with on monday.

I got asked to homecoming by a really overweight black guy. I was like "uhh, no, thanks" and walked away...xD

What was the reason behind specifying race? Does his race somehow change your perception of who he is?

 

[StitchfansJr]

What was the reason behind specifying race? Does his race somehow change your perception of who he is?

No, of course not. I have no problem with other races as friends. I'm just not really sure what I should do during a relationship or something like that with different races.

 

[Mrs. Chamberlain]

No, of course not. I have no problem with other races as friends. I'm just not really sure what I should do during a relationship or something like that with different races.

The same thing that you would do in a relationship with someone your own race. Race doesn't (or at least shouldn't) play a role in relationships.

 

[nk2coolol]

The same thing that you would do in a relationship with someone your own race. Race doesn't (or at least shouldn't) play a role in relationships.

it usually does tho

 

[Sparx]

it usually does tho

what? how?

i've had several bi-racial relationships, and i have bi-racial parents who have been together for years and years and years. it never played a role in mine, and it hasn't played a role in theirs.

you'd have to be seriously immature to let something so silly as that to play a role in your relationship. i mean, really.

 

[pigletgirl]

what? how?

i've had several bi-racial relationships, and i have bi-racial parents who have been together for years and years and years. it never played a role in mine, and it hasn't played a role in theirs.

you'd have to be seriously immature to let something so silly as that to play a role in your relationship. i mean, really.

The only thing I could think of was maybe some cultural issues? But even that can happen with 2 of the same race.

And I've met people where they are totally against bi-racial relationships. And the ones who do, feel strongly about it too.

For myself, it doesn't matter.

 

[Kit Kat]

First and foremost the relationship should be the priority between the two people and not the color of ones skin or even some cultural differences which if you want to make the relationship really work can be overcome easily.

One of the things I love living where I do we have none of this talk about race.

 

[MickeyisBeast]

First and foremost the relationship should be the priority between the two people and not the color of ones skin or even some cultural differences which if you want to make the relationship really work can be overcome easily.

One of the things I love living where I do we have none of this talk about race.

Where I live we do. I wish we didn't though.

 

[WDWtraveler27]

wat did i miss?

 

[Kit Kat]

Where I live we do. I wish we didn't though.

I just never understood the whole race thing. People are People. Treat them as you would want to be treated.