Behaviours That Should Possibly Be Banned?

[sleepymouse]

Sometimes I wish there was a dislike button. (Not referring to comment directly above mine. I like that one.)

 

[mummabear]

So I'm curious. Suppose you have a child who is too big to hold on your shoulders. You find a good spot and your child has a nice view. Then at the last minute someone right in front of your child hoists their child up in front blocking your child's view, you're good with that?

As I have said we already would have had our child on our shoulders, if I got to a spot where there was a young kid I would have moved to another spot already assuming that this child would need to go up to see anything.
I don't expect an unobstructed view if I havent done something like the dessert party (and even then there can be a couple of rows of people at the railing), there are plenty of things (tress etc) that will obstruct a persons view.

Frankly we are just going to have to agree to disagree, you think i'm selfish because I think my kids have as much of a right to see the show as you (as I have pointed out if we are front of you more then you because we waited longer) and I think you are selfish because you expect others who have also paid to be there and waited longer than you to sacrifice their ability view for you and rather than just having an obstructed view they would have no view at all.

 

[Jarmo]

The reasonable solution is to ban children from Disney World. Actually, just ban everybody.

 

[Mkrop]

It is a very common practice.


Yes all that matter to me is my kids, its up to other people to look after their own kids, usually in the hub everyone is sitting so I havent had that problem.
But, as I have pointed out once we are behind standing people it is my place to make sure the kids can see, and we were waiting before you if we are in front f you so...yes my kids have more of a right than you because they waited longer.
We do though normally have them on our shoulders already because it is easier than loosing them in the crowd.

It is not a common practice thank goodness...I have only had to deal with it a couple of times, still annoying.

And the difference is that I dont care just about my kids, if that was the case they would have been up on my shoulders or DH's shoulder's when they were those ages. I care about my kids and those around me so we held our kids on our hips or at chest level. COMMON courtesy.

I dont know how old your children are but maybe once your kids are past the shoulder sitting stage you will get it when that parent stands in front of your prince or princess and now you all cant see, until then you probably wont get it

 

[mummabear]

I care about my kids and those around me so we held our kids on our hips or at chest level.

And frankly that is not possible when you have 3 kids.
It is not my job to make sure your kids can see, just like it is not some other adults job to let my kids in front of them at a parade so that they can see. It is up to me to look after my kids, and as I have stated if we were not able to get a spot where they can see without being on my shoulders then they will go up, they would have already been on my shoulders while we wait as it is the easiest way to contain them in the crowd so if you end up behind me (which would be because you arrived after I did) then I am not taking them down and making them miss it because you want to show up later and expect an unobstructed view.

There is no point in going around in circles anymore on this.

 

[mom2rtk]

Well, at least I have solved one of life's mysteries. I used to see people put their kids on their shoulders right in front of others and wonder "why would someone think that's OK?". I guess I know now.

 

[mummabear]

Well, at least I have solved one of life's mysteries. I used to see people put their kids on their shoulders right in front of others and wonder "why would someone think that's OK?". I guess I know now.

And I have solved the mystery of the people who will ask someone to taken their kids down when what they really mean is "I arrived after you and expect your kid to miss out so that I can see"

 

[maxiesmom]

And I have solved the mystery of the people who will ask someone to taken their kids down when what they really mean is "I arrived after you and expect your kid to miss out so that I can see"

Nope. It often means, "I arrived before you, and you decided to toss your kids up onto your shoulders at the last minute, and now I have nowhere else to move to". Or it means "I arrived at the last minute, shoved in front of you, and then put my kids up on my shoulders". I've had that happen too.

 

[Jennasis]

And frankly that is not possible when you have 3 kids.
It is not my job to make sure your kids can see, just like it is not some other adults job to let my kids in front of them at a parade so that they can see. It is up to me to look after my kids, and as I have stated if we were not able to get a spot where they can see without being on my shoulders then they will go up, they would have already been on my shoulders while we wait as it is the easiest way to contain them in the crowd so if you end up behind me (which would be because you arrived after I did) then I am not taking them down and making them miss it because you want to show up later and expect an unobstructed view.

There is no point in going around in circles anymore on this.

So how do you Sophie's Choice your kids as far as who gets the shoulder sitting and who gets bupkiss?

 

[mom2rtk]

And I have solved the mystery of the people who will ask someone to taken their kids down when what they really mean is "I arrived after you and expect your kid to miss out so that I can see"

Do you ever warn the people behind you that you will be putting your child up when the show starts? I have zero issue if someone does that. In that case, you were there first, and if I know, I can get another spot while there are still other spots open.

If I'm sitting near the front for a parade or show and plan to stand to take photos, I actually do tell anyone choosing a spot behind me that I will be standing.

 

[mummabear]

So how do you Sophie's Choice your kids as far as who gets the shoulder sitting and who gets bupkiss?

Two are held hip height and one up on DH shoulders. That way all 3 can see.

Do you ever warn the people behind you that you will be putting your child up when the show starts?

As I said they would be up on DH shoulders already.

 

[mom2rtk]

Two are held hip height and one up on DH shoulders. That way all 3 can see.


As I said they would be up on DH shoulders already.

Then I apologize. If he's putting the child up when you arrive, then it's on me if I choose to stand behind you. I have no issue with that. I have just never seen anyone put the child up until the show actually starts, and by then it's too late to find a new spot.

 

[Mkrop]

And frankly that is not possible when you have 3 kids.
It is not my job to make sure your kids can see, just like it is not some other adults job to let my kids in front of them at a parade so that they can see. It is up to me to look after my kids, and as I have stated if we were not able to get a spot where they can see without being on my shoulders then they will go up, they would have already been on my shoulders while we wait as it is the easiest way to contain them in the crowd so if you end up behind me (which would be because you arrived after I did) then I am not taking them down and making them miss it because you want to show up later and expect an unobstructed view.

There is no point in going around in circles anymore on this.

And how do you fit 3 kids on 2 sets of parents shoulders? Once again arent you concerned for the child who is now not on your shoulders getting stuck behind the parent who has their child up on their shoulder, dont you care if their view is now obstructed??

It is our jobs as courteous citizens in a public place to make sure that we are not being rude to others.

 

[Mkrop]

Two are held hip height and one up on DH shoulders. That way all 3 can see.


As I said they would be up on DH shoulders already.

why cant child #3 be held on the hip as well?????

 

[mummabear]

And how do you fit 3 kids on 2 sets of parents shoulders? Once again arent you concerned for the child who is now not on your shoulders getting stuck behind the parent who has their child up on their shoulder, dont you care if their view is now obstructed??

It is our jobs as courteous citizens in a public place to make sure that we are not being rude to others.

As I have said all 3 of our kids can see, it is up to you to look after yourself and your kids.
Let's look at this differently, we are in line for a Mickey Bar and you are behind us there are 7 Mickey Bars left but 2 are broken, is it rude of me to buy the 5 unbroken Mickey Bars leaving you with only the broken ones?

why cant child #3 be held on the hip as well?????

Because I can't hold 25kgs with one arm for 20+minutes. It isnt practical.

 

[mummabear]

Then I apologize. If he's putting the child up when you arrive, then it's on me if I choose to stand behind you. I have no issue with that. I have just never seen anyone put the child up until the show actually starts, and by then it's too late to find a new spot.

We walk through the crowd with them on shoulders as it is the easiest way to get around, the youngest up until this point has been in a frontpack, the oldest (and heaviest) one goes down until the show when DH or I put her on one of our hips allowing her to see again.

 

[mummabear]

It is our jobs as courteous citizens in a public place to make sure that we are not being rude to others.

I am just pointing out your hypocrisy that you expect others to miss out on viewing so that you don't miss out on viewing.
In reality life is a first come first serve.

 

[BuckeyeBama]

I am not sure why the shoulder thing is such a big deal. We have had a number of parents hoist their kids onto their shoulders in front of us at the last minute and we have been able to look "around" them pretty easily. It is not a perfectly clear view, but good enough to enjoy the fireworks with no problems.

 

[BuckeyeBama]

Sometimes I wish there was a dislike button. (Not referring to comment directly above mine. I like that one.)

I have found that "Liking" opposing posts makes the same statement, but in a more positive way.

 

[Mkrop]

I am just pointing out your hypocrisy that you expect others to miss out on viewing so that you don't miss out on viewing.
In reality life is a first come first serve.

I have pointed out ways for everyone to see...there is no hypocrisy. Once again you will see how it is when your little ones are no longer those young ages, when they are old enough to stand and cant be on someone's hip or shoulder and someone suddenly gets in front of them with a child on their shoulders, until it affects you and yours you wont get it. And having a chunky kiddo in my youngest it was easier to hold him on my hip then on my shoulders. I have also had that disappointed 7, 8 or 10 year old CHILD that now cant see bc parents have their kids up there...that is when I finally got it although I never had them up there in the first place.