Bad Parent VENT!!!

[icebrat001]

I am a pre-school teacher and I am shocked that so many parents send their children to school sick.

Today, we had a little boy, he's 3 years old and he came in to school today sick as a dog, I checked his temp and it said 102.3. I called his mother and she didn't even come pick him up until school was out (4 hours later). I had to hold and care for the poor child the entire day. This woman is a stay at home mom and her other child is in first grade, why couldn't she come pick up her sick child?

Don't parents care enough for their children to not send them to school sick? A sick child is a miserable child.

 

[Planogirl]

I agree particularly if she's a stay at home Mom. Just curious, but did you actually speak to her or did you leave a message?

Once, DS got hurt at preschool and I was running errands. The director apparently called our home and left a message and then never called any further or even my cell. Luckily, I got home quickly and heard the message. Plus I had a bad habit of letting my cell run out of power.

 

[lilostitch]

Ugh, I hate that! It is so selfish, for several reasons: 1) the poor child needs rest at home and 2) the teachers and other students don't need the exposure to the germs!! That is what keeps the sickies going around the room over and over!!!

 

[Rex Rules]

Oh, the poor little dear! Makes you wonder why the heck some people even bother to have children in the first place. Guess the mother had something better going on that day and couldn't be bothered. And no doubt germs will be spread to other children. How sad.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

I work child care at my church---egads....the parents who bring in kids and then get offended when we turn them away. Most are pretty good. But some don't understand that we know their kid is usually not lethargic and sleepy on a regular day so something is wrong. And it's like they don't even hear.

I've gotten doctors notes to confirm my daughters conditions were not contagoius (allergy and one time-a stye).

I don't pretend to understand.

 

[Planogirl]

I feel sad for these kids too. These little ones need to be in bed!

 

[Blondy876]

I also teach preschool. I had a child with a fever and an obvious ear infection as well as pink eye. This child rides the bus but as soon as he arrived in my class I sent him off to the nurse. The parent was called at 9:30 am and when I left for lunch at 1:30 pm the child was still waiting in the sick room. The mother was called and spoken to 4 times and never came. She was eventually told that if she did not arrive with the 1/2 hour DYFS would be called. She got to the school in 5 minutes. This is a women who didn't work, didn't have any other kids and wasn't a student. Why she couldn't come I have no idea. She sent him in the next day but he was sent home before I even came in.

 

[icebrat001]

I spoke to her on the phone. I told her that her son was sick, running a temperature, wanted to be held the entire day, wasn't eating, that he said his body was hurting him really badly. The mother said, well he has been sick since Friday, he's better now.

Our kids only come M,W or T, TH or M-TH. I guess she didn't want to miss out one her son's day of school? The poor kid just turned 3 last month, he's still a baby, he needs mommy when he is sick.

 

[mom2riceboys]

I don't understand parents like that. If I even think my toddler is feeling bad, I keep him home from pre-k. Better safe than sorry.

 

[luvmy2sams]

I spoke to her on the phone. I told her that her son was sick, running a temperature, wanted to be held the entire day, wasn't eating, that he said his body was hurting him really badly. The mother said, well he has been sick since Friday, he's better now.

Our kids only come M,W or T, TH or M-TH. I guess she didn't want to miss out one her son's day of school? The poor kid just turned 3 last month, he's still a baby, he needs mommy when he is sick.

I have two "friends" who are notorious for pulling stunts like this. Both are SAHMs (as I am), and they can't wait to get rid of their kids each morning. You wouldn't believe how annoyed they become if one of their kids is ill, and it screws up their plans. Silly me always thought that taking care of your kids, especially when sick, was part of the job requirements. They've outright told me that there's something wrong with me because I've kept DD home from school when she had a fever. After all, isn't that what Tylenol is for?

 

[mommyintn]

My 3 year old goes to a Mothers Day Out on T, Th and honestly has been home more than there in the last 2 months. Even if he's not sprawled out on the floor with a fever I'll keep him home if he just doesn't seem right or has too much of a runny nose. I can't expect his teacher to wipe his nose every 5 minutes, that's my job! That stinks, her child is lucky you are their teacher.

 

[mommyintn]

I have two "friends" who are notorious for pulling stunts like this. Both are SAHMs (as I am), and they can't wait to get rid of their kids each morning. You wouldn't believe how annoyed they become if one of their kids is ill, and it screws up their plans. Silly me always thought that taking care of your kids, especially when sick, was part of the job requirements. They've outright told me that there's something wrong with me because I've kept DD home from school when she had a fever. After all, isn't that what Tylenol is for?

Sounds like my DSIL early in her mom years (much improved now). I look forward to my days when both of my sons are at school/mothers day out too. So I can clean or grocery shop or just have lunch with a friend, but would never send my kid to school when they are sick just to get it, ugh!

 

[FreshTressa]

I have two "friends" who are notorious for pulling stunts like this. Both are SAHMs (as I am), and they can't wait to get rid of their kids each morning. You wouldn't believe how annoyed they become if one of their kids is ill, and it screws up their plans. Silly me always thought that taking care of your kids, especially when sick, was part of the job requirements. They've outright told me that there's something wrong with me because I've kept DD home from school when she had a fever. After all, isn't that what Tylenol is for?

Is it bad that I sometimes look forward to my kids having a little "cold" that lets me keep them home with me to snuggle??

I love being home alone all day with just one, while the other is at school....we snuggle, watch movies, color and do quiet things.

 

[MoniqueU]

I will tell you why I send my kid in sick. If you miss more then 10 days here in our district for ANYTHING, doesn't matter what it is they can and will turn you into the DA for prosecution. If I know my particular child, I have 3 has gotten "the note" stating they are coming up on their 10 absences I will send them in for attendence purposes only. They know they are to call me to come get them after roll call. I would not send a vomiting child but I would send one with a fever just to avoid an appt with the DA. I would never leave my child at school sick and not come get them though. Thats just crazy.

 

[Stacerita]

I dont get parents like that. If your kid is sick keep them home. For their own good and the good of the other kids in class. If we keep sending the sickies to school...how is anyone ever gonna get well? They will just keep passing it to one another.

 

[debaudrn]

I'm a school nurse (grades 5-12) and it isn't just the preschool set that does this. Today at 8:30 (school starts at 8) I had a 5th grader sent over after vomiting. He then tells me he didn't feel good all day yesterday and threw up this morning at home before school. I called mom who by now is an hour away from school at work and she says "well he felt better after he vomited"! Of course he did his stomach was now empty. He was with me until 11:30 when someone else could pick him up. He and I had a conversation about how staying at home and missing a day of the 5th grade won't affect his college career choices!!! Please keep your kids home when they don't feel well. Thank you to all that do.

 

[icebrat001]

I will tell you why I send my kid in sick. If you miss more then 10 days here in our district for ANYTHING, doesn't matter what it is they can and will turn you into the DA for prosecution. If I know my particular child, I have 3 has gotten "the note" stating they are coming up on their 10 absences I will send them in for attendence purposes only. They know they are to call me to come get them after roll call. I would not send a vomiting child but I would send one with a fever just to avoid an appt with the DA. I would never leave my child at school sick and not come get them though. Thats just crazy.

This is a private pre-school. We have 5 teachers including the director and a max of 25 kids total, so a 5 to 5 ratio. We aren't going to call anyone. These kids are 3 and 4 years old.

Do you really get in trouble where you live? Wow.

 

[daisyduck123]

1st grade teacher here....

I had one mom send her little girl in last year with a fever....just so she wouldn't miss our field trip that day....well, mom got a call & had to come pick her up.

All of us at school, the nurse too, knew she was sick because we'd sent her home the previous afternoon with 102 temp. The girl showed up the next morning & said mom had given her some Tylenol.

 

[MoniqueU]

This is a private pre-school. We have 5 teachers including the director and a max of 25 kids total, so a 5 to 5 ratio. We aren't going to call anyone. These kids are 3 and 4 years old.

Do you really get in trouble where you live? Wow.

Yes you do. I have had one neighbor that has mentioned to me she got in trouble at the last district she was in. She now homeschools one of her sons because he likes to go to motorcycle racing things and he was missing too much school.

With 10 days as long as I don't do any week long vacations I am not sending my kids in for attendance often just to be clear. I think I have done it twice in my childrens school careers and I have a 2nd, 3rd and 7th grader. We don't usually pull out for vacation days anymore because it's hard for my son to make up work.
I never sent my kids to their private preschool sick.
I also know people that don't work and wouldnt answer their phones on multiple occasions leaving me as the person to pick up their kids from school sick and they were HOME. I always have my cell on me when I leave the house and have my cell number on my answering machine so that no matter what the school knows how to contact me or my husband no matter what. I would never want my kids to be waiting in the health office wondering if I am coming to get them.

 

[Disney Hot Mama]

I am a SAHM. I would never send my child to school sick. I am the mom, if they are sick they want me not the teacher to hold them. Mommy makes it feel better not the teacher. I can't believe some parents who go this route especially SAHM. Now if I worked it might be a different story (I have never worked since my oldest was born) if I had to call into work sick and take sick days for this but I honestly still would. My kids are more important to me.

I can't believe any school district would want a sick child in school vs. staying home in fear of the DA being called in. Some kids do get sick often and need a day or two to get better. How dare a school tell me to sent my child in sick or if I didn't call the DA on me. Truancy is one thing, but really sick is another,