Bad bus behavior - today - on 2 rides

[Jennasis]

For us , 2 adults and 4 children..i will always make sure my children have a seat (13,12,9,4) there are times when the bus stops short or makes a tight turn. I WILL not have my kids getting injured because someone thinks they deserve a seat more then them. Normally though the 4 of them will squish in two spots instead of four.
Now for my husband and I we will only sit if the bus only has a few people on it, and always give up our seats for young children, elderly etc.
We have seen some pretty pathetic behavior from adults though and it pisses me off. One time, crowded bus, very pregnant woman by herself 2 young kids..not one person asked if she wanted to sit. My daughter got up for her and my other daughter ended up holding one of her little ones. lol Now maybe she should have waited for the next bus, but maybe she couldn't ..we didn't know her story and i wasn't going to judge.

I'm not sure how to take the first bolded sentence. How do you accomplish this? Do you ask others to get up so your kids can sit? Do you wait for a less crowded bus? And why are your kids are more deserving of a seat than others?

To the second part, you won't judge the pregnant lady, but you'll judge everyone else on the bus whose stories you also don't know?

 

[smjj]

And why are your kids are more deserving of a seat than others?

For the same reason mine are more important to me and yours are more important to you and so on and so on!!!...smjj

 

[Ariel8676]

I'm not sure how to take the first bolded sentence. How do you accomplish this? Do you ask others to get up so your kids can sit? Do you wait for a less crowded bus? And why are your kids are more deserving of a seat than others?

To the second part, you won't judge the pregnant lady, but you'll judge everyone else on the bus whose stories you also don't know?

Very simple, I would not get on a crowded bus with my family of six if my children will have to stand. And I never said my kids are more deserving than anyone else, what I meant was that I would not have my young children get up out of a seat where they are safe to allow someone else to sit there. So the safety of my children is very important to me and that is why they deserve to sit.
I also have never said anything judgmental about anyone on a bus so I don't know where you got that from. I told a story about a very crowded bus.. Which we were first in line for by the way ( oh yeah because we waited for the next bus) and nobody would allow a very pregnant woman to sit. Would I have waited for another bus, yes, but maybe she was feeling ill or maybe she was having contractions and couldn't wait... That's why I said I wouldn't judge her.
Don't know why you felt the need to be pisssy towards my post , hopefully you feel better now. Enjoy you day

 

[smidgy]

Very simple, I would not get on a crowded bus with my family of six if my children will have to stand. And I never said my kids are more deserving than anyone else, what I meant was that I would not have my young children get up out of a seat where they are safe to allow someone else to sit there. So the safety of my children is very important to me and that is why they deserve to sit.
I also have never said anything judgmental about anyone on a bus so I don't know where you got that from. I told a story about a very crowded bus.. Which we were first in line for by the way ( oh yeah because we waited for the next bus) and nobody would allow a very pregnant woman to sit. Would I have waited for another bus, yes, but maybe she was feeling ill or maybe she was having contractions and couldn't wait... That's why I said I wouldn't judge her.
Don't know why you felt the need to be pisssy towards my post , hopefully you feel better now. Enjoy you day

you took responsibility for your own family's safety and waited for the next bus to ensure having seats. that is exactly what people should do if having seats is important to them.. kudos to you.

you are correct that, in doing so your kids do not have to give up their seats.

 

[Sammie]

I think if anyone wishes to give up a seat and are comfortable doing that, then they should. However I think to then judge others for not doing what they did, to me kinda cancels out the kindness of the act.

I don't judge and if I don't want to stand, then I sit in the park on a comfortable bench until I am pretty sure I will get a seat on a bus.

I do however really hate getting hit with a stroller on the bus that is the size of a small car. My knees took a beating the last trip.

 

[Jennasis]

Very simple, I would not get on a crowded bus with my family of six if my children will have to stand. And I never said my kids are more deserving than anyone else, what I meant was that I would not have my young children get up out of a seat where they are safe to allow someone else to sit there. So the safety of my children is very important to me and that is why they deserve to sit.
I also have never said anything judgmental about anyone on a bus so I don't know where you got that from. I told a story about a very crowded bus.. Which we were first in line for by the way ( oh yeah because we waited for the next bus) and nobody would allow a very pregnant woman to sit. Would I have waited for another bus, yes, but maybe she was feeling ill or maybe she was having contractions and couldn't wait... That's why I said I wouldn't judge her.
Don't know why you felt the need to be pisssy towards my post , hopefully you feel better now. Enjoy you day

Thanks for explaining...and yes it makes sense that you wouldn't have your children give up their seats for someone else. Like I said, I wasn't quite sure how you meant that statement.

The other thing I had bolded...you called other bus riders behavior "pretty pathetic" for not giving up their seats to the pregnant woman. Sounds like judgement to me. As you said, not knowing the pregnant woman's story you couldn't judge her for choosing to get on an crowded bus...but you clearly judged those who didn't give up their seats to her as pathetic, even though you don't know their stories either.

You really did all any one can do, and the only thing that makes a difference. You pitched in if you were able. I'm sure the mom was appreciative.

Just another reason I'm glad we drive...don't need to be thought of as being pathetic for not giving up our seat (because both DH and I look completely fit and healthy but have medical issues that would make standing painful or dangerous on a moving vehicle). Though, to be honest, we rarely paid attention to who else was on the bus when we did ride back in the day...we were engrossed in our own vacation, looking at pictures, planning what was next, or just talking to each other.

 

[Ariel8676]

Thanks for explaining...and yes it makes sense that you wouldn't have your children give up their seats for someone else. Like I said, I wasn't quite sure how you meant that statement.

The other thing I had bolded...you called other bus riders behavior "pretty pathetic" for not giving up their seats to the pregnant woman. Sounds like judgement to me. As you said, not knowing the pregnant woman's story you couldn't judge her for choosing to get on an crowded bus...but you clearly judged those who didn't give up their seats to her as pathetic, even though you don't know their stories either.

You really did all any one can do, and the only thing that makes a difference. You pitched in if you were able. I'm sure the mom was appreciative.

Just another reason I'm glad we drive...don't need to be thought of as being pathetic for not giving up our seat (because both DH and I look completely fit and healthy but have medical issues that would make standing painful or dangerous on a moving vehicle). Though, to be honest, we rarely paid attention to who else was on the bus when we did ride back in the day...we were engrossed in our own vacation, looking at pictures, planning what was next, or just talking to each other.

Actually i never said anything about bus riders being pathetic for not giving up their seats for a pregnant woman..I did say that we have seen some pretty pathetic behavior (spitting on the floor, drunks, people arguing loudly for all to hear, screaming at their children etc. although i didn't think i would have to include this in my post, guess i was wrong) and then went on to talk about a pregnant woman. Again I don't know why on a thread with 7 pages of posts you chose to call me out, but it's all good. Hopefully you feel better now and have a good day.

 

[Jennasis]

Actually i never said anything about bus riders being pathetic for not giving up their seats for a pregnant woman..I did say that we have seen some pretty pathetic behavior (spitting on the floor, drunks, people arguing loudly for all to hear, screaming at their children etc. although i didn't think i would have to include this in my post, guess i was wrong) and then went on to talk about a pregnant woman. Again I don't know why on a thread with 7 pages of posts you chose to call me out, but it's all good. Hopefully you feel better now and have a good day.

I felt great before, and I still feel great. How you doin'?

 

[keishashadow]

you took responsibility for your own family's safety and waited for the next bus to ensure having seats. that is exactly what people should do if having seats is important to them.. kudos to you.

you are correct that, in doing so your kids do not have to give up their seats.

appears many people rely on the kindness of strangers in obtaining a seat on WDW buses. sadly, the 'me-first' mentality often seems to be amped up at WDW.

a member of my family is unable to safely stand on a moving bus due to medical issues. upon casual glance they would be deemed 'healthy' by many, until the bus starts to move. For safety sake we rent a car or make sure to plan our arrival/departure from the parks carefully when using the public transportation.

You do what you have to do to make things work and plan accordingly. Rent a car, travel off-peak, wait for the next bus, grab a cab. It doesn't take a genius to observe if a bus is packed and realize it might be an issue for their particular set of circumstances.

 

[DopeyforDonald]

I am one of these 'twenty-something' year old 'able bodied' people that many of you seem to think should hop out of their seat and offer it up. And yet I have a hip problem that after hours walking in the park can cause great pain when standing, so i will not be offering my seat, however many looks it gets me, especially when there are people who are using seats to put there shopping on, or rest their strollers against.

 

[ILoveMyDVC]

That would irk me to no end!! We are a family of six - four kids who took a double stroller last Fall. Yep it was loaded with stuff, but as bus gets close we unload everything necessary. We carry every bag - DH folds the stroller and holds what he can, I usually have the littlest in my arms and bags on shoulders and our girls (6, 8, 10 last trip) held their items as well as any extra bags. It's a team effort - oh how nice it'd be just to leave it all in the stroller...you've got to be kidding me!

It's actually a challenge. There should be a contest for rapid stroller folding. In fact, back in the days of the toddlers, I considered it a must-have feature when purchasing a (Disney) stroller - easy collapse-ability

 

[ILoveMyDVC]

To quickly return to the original post: Babies and toddlers are little people. And they make noise. Sometimes loud, annoying, hair raising noise and that is hard. But they are not things parents control, they are humans with little bitty minds of their own. Little people who are just learning how to live in this big bad world. And their parents are probably doing the best they can. Most likely, no one on a bus is more miserable with a screaming baby than his or her parents. And that smiling or benign look you see on their faces is them trying not to make it worse, trying to calm their baby, and like that mother profusely claiming her baby is "loved", just looking for some kind of empathy since she is mortified by the screams of her most likely very loved little child.

Yes. I have two children. They make noise - particularly when their parents are on a crazed mission to see all of Disney World from rope drop to fireworks. Naps? Naps are for sissies. Sunburn gives 'em character. The 8-10 week old infants definitely seemed charmed by the pixie dust. Think of the memories they will have of MOM and then, DAD...going on Space Mountain.