Bachelor parties and Adult Entertainment...

[tiffsix]

It could be worse ladies, my friends and I went to Vegas for my bachelor party last year and spent 4 days in strip clubs. Nothing goes on, it's just like a bunch of you have said, they are just after our money. I was the first of my friends to get married but now it is becoming tradition that every time one of them gets married we are going to Vegas- 13 guys came for mine so it looks like i have 13 to go to in the future. Needless to say the wife is thrilled.

John

 

[Nik's Mom]

IMHO, bachelor parties are for bachelors. Not married men. Same goes for bachelorette parties.

 

[declansdad]

I personally feel it's not only disrespectful to the marraige, but also disrespectful to the "performers" and objectifies them.

Not for me, thanks.

I just came across this thread and wanted to make a couple of comments fronm the male perspective.

First,as to objectifying the performers, that is your opinion and one that you are entitled to. However if the performers, male or female, are agreeing to do this then they are not being objectified. If you don't agree with what they do, just ignore it.

My second comment is about bachelorette parties/male strip clubs, which haven't been discussed much in this thread. Most instances that I have seen, women are much more physical with the performers than men at these type of events.

 

[Pam]

I just came across this thread and wanted to make a couple of comments fronm the male perspective.

First,as to objectifying the performers, that is your opinion and one that you are entitled to. However if the performers, male or female, are agreeing to do this then they are not being objectified. If you don't agree with what they do, just ignore it.

My second comment is about bachelorette parties/male strip clubs, which haven't been discussed much in this thread. Most instances that I have seen, women are much more physical with the performers than men at these type of events.

I just found this thread, too and had to say you are correct!

Last year my friend turned 40 and her sister hired a male stripper (albeit a very *bad* male stripper) to come to her house and entertain the unaware guests. There were 10 of us there ranging in age from 39 to 43. (And yeah, I was the oldest at 43.)

The "ladies", and I use that term loosely, were out of control. They had their hands all over him, were putting baby oil on him, grabbing his privates, practically clawing his chest and back with their fingernails.

Only 2 women refused to touch the dude, truthfully I can say that I was one of them and my BF was the other. It grossed us out. 8 out of the 10 of us were married, but it seems the women forgot that little fact. The guy was also not that attractive, couldn't dance for toffee, left his white lowrider socks on (and his tightie-whities, but one lady got them half off!).

My BF and I left the party early. We had to go back and ask the stripper to get out of the hot tub and move his car because he had us blocked!

 

[JenDaveBrendan]

I have been to both male and female strip clubs, and the women at the male strip clubs are WAY more rowdy/touchy than the men at the female clubs. Actually, the times I have been to the female dancer clubs, the men are basically just drinking and watching the strippers and hanging out. - the club doesn't let anything happen, you can't go near those girls. But at the male club, they would give you lap dances and actually take your hands and put them all over their body. They let things happen that would never happen at a female dancer club. Totally different.
However, (and I know this is really hypocritical), it bothers me if my husband goes to a strip club and I am not there. Realistically, I know nothing happens, but it bothers me. Maybe I am just a bit insecure.

Jen

 

[princesspumpkin]

Just wanted to add that not all strip clubs are innocent (and not all men are either). In one instance, the bachelor/groom was offered the "services" of the stripper (paid for by one of the groom's men). In another, the men made a pact to not tell the wives/girlfriends what happened. One man told the truth (nekked women in back room and such) to one wife. That wife asked the other gals what they heard - all repeated one same story which did not include nekked/back room stuff. Men cover for each other, ya know.

 

[Planogirl]

True, not all strip clubs are innocent. That's why trust is so important. A man who wants to fool around doesn't need a strip club to do so.

 

[Texan Mouseketeer]

My brother's wife goes with him quite a bit. I read through these posts where women have said they go along. I'm dying of curiosity to know that if you went were you looked at funny like you were the only woman there or were there a lot of women there?
And on a funny note - one night when my brother, his wife, and her best friend were there, out comes a dancer right to their part of the stage and they all say, 'hey, isn't that _____?' one of their friends! She and her husband had just been over to their house for dinner. Well, the dancer didn't cover well, she got upset and ran off. Sad for her, but funny story!

 

[ChrisnSteph]

It doesn't really bother me. However, I have heard stories from guy friends of some pretty raunchy, x-rated parties that had gotten beyond out of control with the strippers. Those are the ones that stay in the back of my mind whenever I hear the words "bachelor party". But personally, not only do I trust my dh completely, but I don't think he'd know what to do with "it" if "it" was literally in his face anyway!

 

[hugsquared]

True, not all strip clubs are innocent. That's why trust is so important. A man who wants to fool around doesn't need a strip club to do so.

Amen. My husband travels for work quite a bit. If I didn't trust him, I'd go nuts. He's been with a bunch of guys to a strip club a few times, has always told me before hand and I'm cool with it mainly because I honestly trust him. If he's gonna cheat on me, I think it would not be with some over priced pole dancer but someone he met at a more "tame" location. Of course, if I thought he'd do that anyway, I'd go nuts. He works 10-12 hour days EVERY DAY while he's away, his checks come straight to me so I know where the money is and how much he's taking out at a time, he has to get a good 8 hours sleep every day and then he's on the phone with me for a good hour or more daily. It doesn't leave much time for trolling and besides, I've told him he would have to sit down to tinkle for the rest of his life if I ever found out he did anything.
He wants me to go to one with him and for the first time in a really long time, we live somewhere, where it may be a possibility. I'm curious.

 

[epcotfan]

I just came across this thread and wanted to make a couple of comments fronm the male perspective.

First,as to objectifying the performers, that is your opinion and one that you are entitled to. However if the performers, male or female, are agreeing to do this then they are not being objectified. If you don't agree with what they do, just ignore it.

My second comment is about bachelorette parties/male strip clubs, which haven't been discussed much in this thread. Most instances that I have seen, women are much more physical with the performers than men at these type of events.

I agree with you 100%
Women's strip clubs are nuts. Its like watching a bunch of squawking Hens trying to peck each other's eyes out as they clamour with their dollar bills to get to the stripper.
I have no problem with a boyfriend or husband going to strip clubs occasionally. There isn't much difference between going to a strip club and looking at a dirty magazine or an adult internet site. I'd rather my significant other being open about xxx related endeavors than having them hide it from me.