Attire - Mother of the Groom

[threeboysmom]

Admittedly, I've never paid attention to what the groom's mother usually wears at a wedding, LOL. But now it's my turn and I'm stumped.

What DO moms of the groom wear? The same color as the wedding party? Or does color not matter?

I'm hoping not to go too formal as I prefer to splurge on a dress that I will wear again.... somewhere... lol.

Also, where to shop for a nice dress?

Any opinions out there? I know it's probably not terribly important... who pays attention to the groom's mom anyways? From my own experience, I really haven't noticed what they wear, lol. But I still want to look appropriate at least for the wedding photos afterwards.

 

[lorimay]

Congratulations!!!!

Usually, the mother of the bride will choose color and whether long or not first.

Then you will follow with the same length as she chooses.

As far as color you can try to blend with bridal party but not exact.

When my daughter got married her colors were cream, gold and burgundy.

I chose champagne color and grooms mom went with black.

As yes, people will be admiring you as well.

Have a great time planning.



I actually found my dress at Macy's right after the holidays.

I was a great price and I loved it.

My shoes cost more than the dress go figure.

 

[trip]

Surely you've heard about the traditional saying for the mother of the groom.
Shut up, show up and wear beige.

Talk to the bride and her mother. Choose something that will fit in with the pictures. Have fun!!

 

[lorimay]

Surely you've heard about the traditional saying for the mother of the groom.
Shut up, show up and wear beige.

Talk to the bride and her mother. Choose something that will fit in with the pictures. Have fun!!

Oh no, guess I will follow that advise when its my sons turn.

 

[shoney]

My Mom wore a floor length black gown. My MIL wore a knee length black beaded dress. (they didn't both wear the same color on purpose)

I did not suggest anything, but let them pick out whatever they wanted to wear. I really had nothing to do with it.

 

[MrsDuck]

My MIL wore a nice top whose colors matched the wedding party (not a rule but it looks nice in pictures) and slacks. I just wanted her to be comfortable.

I think it just depends on how crazy the bride is...

 

[ilovejack02]

My plan is to talk to bride and her mother and in my case talk to DSS24's Bio Mom . I think usually the Bride has an idea of what colors she would like you to wear .

Since I am stepmom , I assume she will want me to match somewhat since we already discussed me being in some of the pictures , but I don't need to be as dressy as the two Mothers . I figure if they wear long dresses , I can go with some version of the same in short , or if they pick something sparkly , I can go with a toned down version of that .

Always ask the bride is my thought.

 

[Snowysmom]

When my older DS got married I asked the mother of bride what color and lenght of dress she was thinking of. She told me knee length and something in the pink family. I told her I was thinking of purple and she was fine with that. I wore a knee length purple dress. She wore a medium blue long gown. So much for talking about it first! My younger DS is getting married next year. I will ask the bride's mother the same question. I wanted to look at navy blue but unfortunately the bridesmaid's dresses will be navy. Well, I can look at purple again. To be honest though I don't think anyone really stresses over this. It certainly wasn't a big deal for my daughter in law nor is it for my future daughter in law. Just have fun.

 

[indimom]

I think anything is fine as long as it suits the wedding.

Examples: Mini skirts at a formal affair, seen that, looks tacky.
Sequined, beaded gown when the bridesmaids had simple, a-line flowing gowns. L-i-t-t-le bit over the top.
An overly formal dress for a casual back yard wedding where the groomsmen aren't even wearing jackets. Looks like your trying to make a statement.

Basically stick to the "style" of dress the wedding party will be wearing.
And, not necessary, but it's nice to coordinate with the colors since it creates nice pictures!

Have a wonderful time!

 

[Jaya]

For my daughter's wedding, the mother of the groom "informed" me that she was wearing blue and to "please wear something that didn't clash." That was the beginning of a short-lived and not-missed relationship with that woman.

 

[wiigirl]

For my daughter's wedding, the mother of the groom "informed" me that she was wearing blue and to "please wear something that didn't clash." That was the beginning of a short-lived and not-missed relationship with that woman.

 

[firecracker725]

Congratulations!!!!

Usually, the mother of the bride will choose color and whether long or not first.

Then you will follow with the same length as she chooses.

As far as color you can try to blend with bridal party but not exact.

When my daughter got married her colors were cream, gold and burgundy.

I chose champagne color and grooms mom went with black.

As yes, people will be admiring you as well.

Have a great time planning.

I actually found my dress at Macy's right after the holidays.

I was a great price and I loved it.

My shoes cost more than the dress go figure.

When I told my MIL this, she was incredibly offended. Pissed actually. Couldn't believe that I was "telling her what to wear". *sigh* That was nearly ten years ago.

 

[threeboysmom]

Surely you've heard about the traditional saying for the mother of the groom.
Shut up, show up and wear beige.

Oh my gosh!! This made me truly laugh out loud!!!!

Yeah.... I can do those 3 things, lol.

 

[threeboysmom]

Congratulations!!!!

Usually, the mother of the bride will choose color and whether long or not first.

Then you will follow with the same length as she chooses.

As far as color you can try to blend with bridal party but not exact.

When my daughter got married her colors were cream, gold and burgundy.

I chose champagne color and grooms mom went with black.

As yes, people will be admiring you as well.

Have a great time planning.

That is really great advice! Thanks!!

For my daughter's wedding, the mother of the groom "informed" me that she was wearing blue and to "please wear something that didn't clash." That was the beginning of a short-lived and not-missed relationship with that woman.

WOWZA!!!

 

[mjkacmom]

My mother wore a dressy suit, as did MIL, in complimentary colors. She wore it many times again! Heck, the suit my grandmother wore, she was buried in (and told me she would be at the time of my wedding, 10 years before she died). I come from practical stock.

 

[suzannen]

When my DD got married two years ago, she didn't tell either me, her step-mom or the mother-of-the-groom what color to wear, but only to try NOT to wear navy because that was the bridesmaids' colors and we might end up looking like bridesmaids if we chose that color. She also said she'd prefer us to wear either floor length or tea-length, but if we found something we loved that was a different length, that was fine too.

The mother-of-the-groom and DD's step-mom both asked me, as mother-of-the-bride, to select my dress first, let them know the color so there would be no repeat. Then mother-of-the-groom selected her gown, and lastly, the step-mom. So, we did try to coordinate in that regard, but we all found dresses we loved and that were totally us - mine was pink, new MIL's was purple, and step-mom's was a light lavender gray. Everyone was happy and there was no stressing about it.

 

[Piper]

this is what my sister wore at her son's late afternoon wedding (with her husband)

this is the bride's mother

The bridesmaids wore chocolate brown with Tiffany blue sashes

The bride and groom

and leaving the reception (can you guess his occupation?)

 

[Janepod]

Both of those photos look great - exactly how the parents should look, if you ask me! (No one ever does ....)

Congratulations on the upcoming wedding!

 

[tony111]

My MIL wore her usual black cloak and matching broom..........please destroy this post after reading.

 

[minniecarousel]

As the MOG twice, I asked what the bride's mother was wearing. For the first wedding, the bridesmaids wore black, and my DDIL wanted the moms in something similar. I wore a long black skirt and a "twin set" (sleeveless shell and unbuttoned jacket) in a sparkly black and silver. The MOB wore a very pretty black dress. We looked good!

For the second wedding, the bridesmaid wore purple, I know I asked the MOB what color she was wearing and my DDIL told me to wear whatever color I wanted. I wore the long black skirt again and a bronze-colored wrap blouse.

I'm sure I bought all the pieces at Macy's - so it didn't break the bank.

Have fun! My sons got married about 17 months apart.