Attention all!

[LaraK]

OP...I'm going with the praise vs rolled up newspaper approach.

Maybe invest in a spray bottle and every time you're busting butt and he's laying around...squirt him!

I swear I'm going to go on strike at some point.

 

[SaraJayne]

Kaytie, she quoted my post and then was sarcastic about putting words in my mouth about how I implied that the OP was headed for divorce court(?!?!). While I may have been mistaken about whom she said was headed for divorce court, I wasn't mistaken about the personal attack asking me if I was for real.

Now, if y'all will excuse me...

Yes, you did imply the OP was headed for divorce court, since she didn't properly praise her DH for his actions.

Personal attack? Really?

Last post to you, Carly, I promise. I find your attitude outdated (like I already said) but it seems to me you have a very negative view of women in general. Some people man-bash, you seem to women-bash (is that even a term? It is now, I just made it up!). That I don't understand.

 

[MIGrandma]

Husbands and dishwashers. They just don't seem to grasp the concept, do they?

Mine kept fussing at me because I don't have a "dirty/clean" magnet on the front. He said "I have no idea if they're clean or dirty", so he always just puts his dishes in the sink, for me to deal with later. Even though I told him to simply open the dishwasher door and check, he just wouldn't.

So, I bought a magnet and faithfully turn it so he can see if they are clean or dirty. Do you think it helped? Nope.

 

[cm8]

Yep, he'll get the same award my DH gets when he does his own laundry.

I swear, he'll meet me at the door and announce "I did my own laundry today!" like he wants a sticker or something LOL

nope, he wants a cookie,


MEN, CAN'T LIVE WITH THEM, CAN'T LIVE WITHOUT THEM

 

[plutotek]

Kindly stop attacking me.

Darn, I lost the bet; I said it would be 6 posts before she was 'attacked' this time.

As for the topic, DW and I have certain areas that are our 'sole' responsibilities. She doesn't WANT me doing laundry, and I don't want her messing w/mowing the grass. As for the other household chores, we both work, cook, do dishes, I vacuum the house, she does the bathrooms. On occasion, she'll do one of mine or I'll do one of hers, which will garner a thank you and we move on. Almost 28 years, we must be doing something that at least resembles the right way.

 

[ZachnElli]

Boy, what would us women do if we needed a pat on the back or gold star every time we cleaned a toilet or folded a pair of clean underwear!

"Honey! You're home! I washed my bras today! Aren't you proud of me!"

I clean all 2000 sq. ft. of this house every damn week and don't seek out praise. Somebody's got to do it. Why is it so "impressive" when a man helps? Its his house too... SHOULDN'T he help?

I'm married to the same type of man. I blew a gasket just last weekend over the same thing, the dishwasher! He emptied it and I didn't give out the appropriate praise apparently. I was too busy doing, 4 loads of clothes,2 loads of towels, a load of sheets, scrubbing 3 bathrooms (and I was definitely not the one who got pee on the seats and floors), vacuuming, windexing, meal planning and getting the groceries to praise him! I also work full-time, am still getting over the shingles and have a head cold and did I mention we have 3 kids and 4 pets?! I rarely blow a gasket and I have certainly figured out I will always do the lion's share of the housework, but sometimes it gets to be too much!

 

[Kat77]

OP...I'm going with the praise vs rolled up newspaper approach.

Maybe invest in a spray bottle and every time you're busting butt and he's laying around...squirt him!

I swear I'm going to go on strike at some point.

Squirt bottle sounds perfect for the next time I walk into the study and my husband asks me to bring him a drink! It was such a cliche I thought it was funny the first few times and brought him one... now I'm not quite so amused.

 

[FlyingDumbo]

Wait- OP here! I am headed for divorce court? Whaaaaat?

Anyway, I did properly thank him when I saw they were done. But he just keeps bringing it up like as if (like the previous poster suggested) he wants a sticker or something. And I might add, this was while I was washing the million loads of laundry and cleaning the bathrooms.

We both work full time. I appreciate my husband plenty, but if there is no special party or thank you when I do the dishes, or the bulk of the housework, then there will equally and equitably be no celebration for him when he does it. I did thank him, which is more than I get when I do it. Perhaps he is the one that should be showing some appreciation and praise. I think that we are all responsible for cleaning up after ourselves.

I don't buy into that June Cleaver crap either. This is 2011. My husband, thankfully, knows this.

 

[SaraJayne]

Wait- OP here! I am headed for divorce court? Whaaaaat?

Anyway, I did properly thank him when I saw they were done. But he just keeps bringing it up like as if (like the previous poster suggested) he wants a sticker or something. And I might add, this was while I was washing the million loads of laundry and cleaning the bathrooms.

We both work full time. I appreciate my husband plenty, but if there is no special party or thank you when I do the dishes, or the bulk of the housework, then there will equally and equitably be no celebration for him when he does it. I did thank him, which is more than I get when I do it. Perhaps he is the one that should be showing some appreciation and praise. I think that we are all responsible for cleaning up after ourselves.

I don't buy into that June Cleaver crap either. This is 2011. My husband, thankfully, knows this.

 

[FlyingDumbo]

We also disagree about pizza toppings. Does this indicate a divorce as well?

 

[LaraK]

We also disagree about pizza toppings. Does this indicate a divorce as well?

Well than I'm in deep trouble! Plus, I just put garlic on the pork roast I'm making for dinner. He's not a garlic fan...guess when he cooks dinner he can do so with no garlic....I'm a heartless wife.

 

[Mermaid02]

Well than I'm in deep trouble! Plus, I just put garlic on the pork roast I'm making for dinner. He's not a garlic fan...guess when he cooks dinner he can do so with no garlic....I'm a heartless wife.

How can you stay married to such a beast???

 

[LaraK]

How can you stay married to such a beast???

He doesn't like onion either.

 

[nuttylawprofessor]

He doesn't like onion either.

Give him a boiled potato and call it a night.

 

[LaraK]

Give him a boiled potato and call it a night.

I often do, and he's happy with that. Then I cook something with flavor for me.

 

[Mkrop]

Who knew we had the couple of the year on the DIS that I guess the rest of should model our marriages after...gee aint they just perfect

I am a SAHM and I do a lot around here. DH does a lot too on top of his work. There are days I do more there are days he does a lot more. And I greatly appreciate all he does for our family but...

I too have a DH who would like a sticker or a cookie if he does something out of the norm.

 

[brockash]

My husband would like an award for loading and turning on the dishwasher. I am trying not to punch him. Please keep in mind I do this task every single day of my life. He said I don't seem to appreciate his help. I do appreciate that he did it, and I did thank him as soon as I saw it had been done. What am I supposed to do throw a party?

Alert the presses!!!! The dishes were done, today March 6, 2011.

Too funny!

 

[clh2]

It's hilarious that men are like that, but my advice is to throw a party. Yay! He helped. Woo hoo! If you give him lots of kudos for it, maybe he'll do it again.

But the bigger question is - who is going to help clean up after the party???

 

[nuttylawprofessor]

But the bigger question is - who is going to help clean up after the party???

The maid they hire to avoid this problem in the future.

My spouse views the $100 we spend every other week for our cleaning lady as one of the best investments in our marriage that we've made.

 

[LaraK]

The maid they hire to avoid this problem in the future.

My spouse views the $100 we spend every other week for our cleaning lady as one of the best investments in our marriage that we've made.

Yeah, we're getting ready to give in and hire someone to help me with the heavy cleaning...I just have to get the house to a point where I'm not embarrassed to bring someone in.