maleficent32
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Is there a time limit on them fully supporting themselves? What if a child decided to become a life long student? Or who doesn't have much motivation? Or finds a job, but makes some poor life choices and it ends up not being enough to support themselves on and travel (even if they have a family themselves). I'm not trying to single you out, but these are thoughts floating around my head. I know some families where one sibling moved out, got married & has been self supporting their entire adult life, where another sibling hasn't made great life choices, has gotten themselves into some financial binds and can't afford the same things as sibling A. Even going as far as moving back in with the parent - and has had very few years where they could be considered self supporting. Does one get to go on a paid vacation with the family and the other have to pay their own way?
Like I said earlier, I don't know what we'll do as our kids get older, but this has definitely been an enlightening discussion.
Of course there will be a time limit, I'm not going to be funding vacations for my 35 year old slacker living in my basement

I expect, that after graduating college an AA(S) or BA(S) that my kids will be able to support themselves. As long as they are still relying on me for tuition, room & board, and food then I have no problem including family vacations in there too. Once that ends, and it will after a BA then they are on their own so to speak. It will be their choice to continue their education or go out and get a job. If my kids decide to become lifelong students, then they are going to be the ones responsible for supporting themselves while doing so, so they will be invited but it will be on their dime.
I'm not going to feel guilty "leaving behind" and adult child if I take my youngest away on vacation. (By adult I mean one who is no longer living with or being supported by me)
If certain circumstances happen, we'll just cross that bridge when and if we come to it. I'm not opposed to gifting vacations especially under certain circumstances, but I'm not going to be a personal vacation fund to my kids for the rest of their lives.