Asking for some opinions.

[DizBelle]

Maybe not in the greatest taste but I think even Patrick Swayze would have chuckled. It doesn't disparage Patrick Swayze at all and is more of a comment on what a classless idiot Kanye is (as PP have said). But, I suppose it might sting some with Swayze's death being so recent.

Your SIL does seem kind of like a twit and really not worth your time to fret about it.

 

[Stitchfans]

The only thing I can say to you, is that you have no control over others. You can't tell them how to act, how to think, or how to keep their FB page. The only think you have control over is how you react to things. Remember that.

Well aware. I am not trying to control any one. Where did you get that? If anything my SIL is the control freak. She tries to dictate to everyone what she wants so on.
Her way or no way.

Sometimes people need to back away from their computer when something they read upsets them so that they don't post anything in the heat of the moment. Plus it gives them time to reflect on what the real issue is that is causing the hurt/angry feelings.

To answer the question, yes, I think it is funny.

You are correct. Again , I admit I over reacted. I was wrong. So I'm not perfect. Sorry.

 

[DisneyMom81]

Your opinion. Like you never discuss family problems with your parents or other family members. Yeah right.


The only thing I agree with you is yeah, its her facebook and her business. So what?

So what... What???? What does that mean? If it were really "so what" then it wouldn't have upset you so much that you A. posted something back onher FB. B. then got into a huge fight with her C. Been discussing her with your father D. Brought it up here on the Disboards.

If after doing all that is a "so what" to you, then what is a "big deal"???

 

[Stitchfans]

Maybe not in the greatest taste but I think even Patrick Swayze would have chuckled. It doesn't disparage Patrick Swayze at all and is more of a comment on what a classless idiot Kanye is (as PP have said). But, I suppose it might sting some with Swayze's death being so recent.

Your SIL does seem kind of like a twit and really not worth your time to fret about it.

After all the comments I see that now. Thank you.

 

[JessicaR]

Thanks. yes you hit the nail on the head. Yes we do get each others goats. She has been playing my youngest brother off me for all these years. The two of us have always been very close. She doesn't like that. She finds it hard to believe that we have never ever fought or argued even when we were little. It is like she is in competition with me over everything. She has to have the bigger and nicer house. Which she does. So what? When my wedding ring had the bigger diamond my brother had to buy her a bigger and better one.
She is the type that always has to up something, and I am the type who doesn't care. She goes out of her way to hurt me or get me angry, and yes I am embarrassed to say is often successful.

I'm too old and too tired to go on with this, so as immature as it may sound I let her get the better of me, and I over reacted over a stupid comment she made. I guess my first reaction was here we go again. Her family all these years always took preference over my side. When she felt like letting my brother and their kids spend time with our side than they could, which isn't that often. I hardly know my brother's kids and they live 45 minutes away.

She plans things for times she knows isn't good for our side, like when my mom was in the hospital, but her mom and dad wanted to return to Florida right away before it got chilly. Well she calls me two days before the twins christening and said it was that Sunday. Knowing mom couldn't be there, and knowing I already had plans. Don't know why I am pouring my heart out on this board like this. Lets forget it and move on.

I wonder if my SIL and your SIL are related? They come from the same mold. I tolerated her competitive crap for 20 years. The difference with me is that it is my husbands brothers wife. There isn't an element of her life that isn't better. I know deep down its a confidence issue and she has no self esteem. It just got so old and draining. At the end I would reply it must be so wonderful to be you, to everything she said!

I just want you to know I feel for you and I'm comforted that I'm not the only one.

 

[RitaE]

Your opinion. Like you never discuss family problems with your parents or other family members. Yeah right.

Do I sit around with my family members advocating the break-up of a marriage with 4 children because I'm not able to get along with an in-law throwing around phrases like "It's cheaper to keep her?" No sweetie, I don't.

As to your question. Joke isn't that funny IMHO but I certainly don't find it offensive and out of respect for my Sister's I would never in a zillion years try to embarrass one of their spouses in such a public manner over something so mundane.

 

[Stitchfans]

So what... What???? What does that mean? If it were really "so what" then it wouldn't have upset you so much that you A. posted something back onher FB. B. then got into a huge fight with her C. Been discussing her with your father D. Brought it up here on the Disboards.

If after doing all that is a "so what" to you, then what is a "big deal"???

Calm down. Its over. For the record, the conversations with my dad was way in the past over other problems she started. He is unaware of this facebook nonsense.

 

[Stitchfans]

Do I sit around with my family members advocating the break-up of a marriage with 4 children because I'm not able to get along with an in-law throwing around phrases like "It's cheaper to keep her?" No sweetie, I don't.

As to your question. Joke isn't that funny IMHO but I certainly don't find it offensive and out of respect for my Sister's I would never in a zillion years try to embarrass one of their spouses in such a public manner over something so mundane.

won't even respond to this. again to you too. Calm down. It's over with. No one is plotting a break up.

 

[jrmasm]

Sounds like someone needs a nap.

 

[JessicaR]

Sounds like someone needs a nap.

What time shall we call and wake you?

 

[edandcolleen1995]

Joke was fine. Nothing over the top and many other posters agree.


OP overreacted.. Just take a break, walk away.

 

[ckay87]

That's a funny joke. Not the best ever, but funny. I don't even find it tasteless. I ask myself, if you replace Patrick Swayze's name with mine in that joke, would I be offended?....the answer is a strong "no way." If that joke were about ME, I would laugh (well, if I were alive).

 

[wvjules]

Ahhh the classic "If you don't agree with me I'm going to paint the other person as being as evil as Hitler so you will be on my side" thread.

I'm indifferent about the joke. You way overreacted.

 

[Stitchfans]

Joke was fine. Nothing over the top and many other posters agree.


OP overreacted.. Just take a break, walk away.

OP admit she overreacted. So yes taking a break and walking away.

 

[Stitchfans]

Ahhh the classic "If you don't agree with me I'm going to paint the other person as being as evil as Hitler so you will be on my side" thread.

I'm indifferent about the joke. You way overreacted.

Ahhh the classic judgmental oh so wrong post. Only posted facts, if you feel she is evil as Hitler that is your opinion. Again said I overreacted no other comments are needed except for whether you think the joke is funny. Thank you. Now you can go join the nap rug.

 

[DisneyMom81]

Ahhh the classic judgmental oh so wrong post. Only posted facts, if you feel she is evil as Hitler that is your opinion. Again said I overreacted no other comments are needed except for whether you think the joke is funny. Thank you. Now you can go join the nap rug.

And she was oh so close to walking away......

 

[Stitchfans]

And she was oh so close to walking away......

Take your own advice.

 

[Freyja]

One of my friends posted that same joke on FB and I thought it was hillarious. I would probably have told you to lighten up too, whether I knew you or not.

 

[justhat]

I think something to keep in mind is that Facebook is, essentially, a public forum. Just as you posted your opinion on the joke, someone else then posted their opinion on your opinion. If you don't want to hear the comments from others, then you shouldn't post anything on someone else's Facebook page. I've replied to many status updates, comments, etc. and often gotten comments from people I've never met nor heard of (though they've always been people who found what I said amusing or were agreeing with me as I keep the "I don't like this" stuff to myself).

 

[jrmasm]

What time shall we call and wake you?

Oh, I always need a nap. I just noticed that today I had company.