Asking for some opinions.

[everylastbreath]

OMG, another FB drama!! I started a thread a while back about the trouble Facebook cases.... http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=2243993, this is how it starts.....

 

[JessicaR]

The thing is you were offended so it doesn't matter if we are or aren't. You are entitled to feel the way you feel. I would have just ignored it all. I would also ignore her facebook page since you two seem to get each others goat.

I have a similar relationship with my SIL. The negative feelings that relationship evoked resulted in my not having a relationship with her any longer.

I'm thinking that since the fight has been stewing between you two for years it really wasn't the joke that caused it.

I hope you are feeling better.

 

[Cindy's Mom]

But my main question was is the joke funny to you? I see many think it is. That's fine. Whatever? As said some people find things funny while others don't. Different sense of humors.

Yes - I think the joke is funny. Just shows what a jerk off Kanye is.

 

[DisneyMom81]

To avoid future problems I already took her off my friends list. As I said this fight between her and I was long overdue.

But my main question was is the joke funny to you? I see many think it is. That's fine. Whatever? As said some people find things funny while others don't. Different sense of humors.

So first you call her out on FB, then you de-friend her...... alrighty

 

[MomNeedsVacay]

I think the joke was hilarious! I posted the pic on my FB page and not one of my 600 friends complained!!!

 

[MickeySP]

You got upset about a joke posted by her on her FB? If she had posted it on your FB, maybe - but on hers? And you want to argue with another person about a joke on her FB - one of her friends? And you think that is appropriate?

My thoughts exactly.

And I think it is hilarious.

 

[BeachGirlFLA]

To be honest, I flinched when I read it but then I thought about it. It makes fun of Kanye West more than anyone else (and he is clueless enough to think that it would be okay to be that disrespectful, IMO.) I also think from the interviews I saw with Patrick Swayze, he had enough of a sense of humor that he'd probably laugh at it himself.

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

So first you call her out on FB, then you de-friend her...... alrighty

LOL, yeah, that is gonna help...

 

[Stitchfans]

The thing is you were offended so it doesn't matter if we are or aren't. You are entitled to feel the way you feel. I would have just ignored it all. I would also ignore her facebook page since you two seem to get each others goat.

I have a similar relationship with my SIL. The negative feelings that relationship evoked resulted in my not having a relationship with her any longer.

I'm thinking that since the fight has been stewing between you two for years it really wasn't the joke that caused it.

I hope you are feeling better.

Thanks. yes you hit the nail on the head. Yes we do get each others goats. She has been playing my youngest brother off me for all these years. The two of us have always been very close. She doesn't like that. She finds it hard to believe that we have never ever fought or argued even when we were little. It is like she is in competition with me over everything. She has to have the bigger and nicer house. Which she does. So what? When my wedding ring had the bigger diamond my brother had to buy her a bigger and better one.
She is the type that always has to up something, and I am the type who doesn't care. She goes out of her way to hurt me or get me angry, and yes I am embarrassed to say is often successful.

I'm too old and too tired to go on with this, so as immature as it may sound I let her get the better of me, and I over reacted over a stupid comment she made. I guess my first reaction was here we go again. Her family all these years always took preference over my side. When she felt like letting my brother and their kids spend time with our side than they could, which isn't that often. I hardly know my brother's kids and they live 45 minutes away.

She plans things for times she knows isn't good for our side, like when my mom was in the hospital, but her mom and dad wanted to return to Florida right away before it got chilly. Well she calls me two days before the twins christening and said it was that Sunday. Knowing mom couldn't be there, and knowing I already had plans. Don't know why I am pouring my heart out on this board like this. Lets forget it and move on.

 

[Duchie]

You can "hide" peoples posts without taking them off your friends list, and for your sake, and hers, I think you should do that. If you didn't like her post, you should have just egnored it. I think I may post that joke on my FB page right now - I think its a hoot too!!!

PLEASE tell me how to do this! I've been trying to figure it out for weeks now. I have some people that just post on and on and on and on and I really don't care that much about what they're doing. I'd love to be able to filter them out, so to speak.

 

[MerMom60_94]

Thanks. yes you hit the nail on the head. Yes we do get each others goats. She has been playing my youngest brother off me for all these years. The two of us have always been very close. She doesn't like that. She finds it hard to believe that we have never ever fought or argued even when we were little. It is like she is in competition with me over everything. She has to have the bigger and nicer house. Which she does. So what? When my wedding ring had the bigger diamond my brother had to buy her a bigger and better one.
She is the type that always has to up something, and I am the type who doesn't care. She goes out of her way to hurt me or get me angry, and yes I am embarrassed to say is often successful.

I'm too old and too tired to go on with this, so as immature as it may sound I let her get the better of me, and I over reacted over a stupid comment she made. I guess my first reaction was here we go again. Her family all these years always took preference over my side. When she felt like letting my brother and their kids spend time with our side than they could, which isn't that often. I hardly know my brother's kids and they live 45 minutes away.

She plans things for times she knows isn't good for our side, like when my mom was in the hospital, but her mom and dad wanted to return to Florida right away before it got chilly. Well she calls me two days before the twins christening and said it was that Sunday. Knowing mom couldn't be there, and knowing I already had plans. Don't know why I am pouring my heart out on this board like this. Lets forget it and move on.

I must admit, my first reaction to this post is why is this all on her and not on your brother? Does he not have enough of a backbone to stand-up and advocate for his family?

 

[NMAmy]

PLEASE tell me how to do this! I've been trying to figure it out for weeks now. I have some people that just post on and on and on and on and I really don't care that much about what they're doing. I'd love to be able to filter them out, so to speak.

To the right of each post, there's a little dropdown menu that says "Hide."

 

[Stitchfans]

I must admit, my first reaction to this post is why is this all on her and not on your brother? Does he not have enough of a backbone to stand-up and advocate for his family?

Nope. Tried talking to him about it. He makes promises he doesn't keep to me and dad. (Mom passed away) Dad says it is cheaper to keep her since they have two sets of twins. I guess my brother knows how vengeful she is and just wants to keep peace in his household.

 

[DisneyMom81]

PLEASE tell me how to do this! I've been trying to figure it out for weeks now. I have some people that just post on and on and on and on and I really don't care that much about what they're doing. I'd love to be able to filter them out, so to speak.

When you put your curser over someones comment, to the right of the comment it says "Hide." Go over to it, and click it, and it will say "Hide (Persons name)" and click that. Poof - be gone!!!!

 

[shirleyb]

Back to the original question, yes, the joke is funny, and yes, you overreacted to her friend's comment.

 

[RitaE]

Nope. Tried talking to him about it. He makes promises he doesn't keep to me and dad. (Mom passed away) Dad says it is cheaper to keep her since they have two sets of twins. I guess my brother knows how vengeful she is and just wants to keep peace in his household.

I'm sorry but that is a terrible thing for you and your Father to be talking about in regards to your brother's wife. She is HIS wife. The house, the diamond, issues with the kids ... his marriage, his business.

Her facebook, her business.

I really sympathize that you feel emotional and hurt over some things. But it seems to me that you need to concentrate on your relationship with your Brother and lay off the "I hate your wife" vendetta - even if you do hate his wife.

 

[Stitchfans]

Back to the original question, yes, the joke is funny, and yes, you overreacted to her friend's comment.

Thank you for your opinion. But no the original question was just is the joke funny to you, Not did I overreact.

As I said everyone else has their own sense of humor. What I might find funny others will not, and visa versa.

 

[DisneyMom81]

The only thing I can say to you, is that you have no control over others. You can't tell them how to act, how to think, or how to keep their FB page. The only think you have control over is how you react to things. Remember that.

 

[DVC Sadie]

Sometimes people need to back away from their computer when something they read upsets them so that they don't post anything in the heat of the moment. Plus it gives them time to reflect on what the real issue is that is causing the hurt/angry feelings.

To answer the question, yes, I think it is funny.

 

[Stitchfans]

I'm sorry but that is a terrible thing for you and your Father to be talking about in regards to your brother's wife. She is HIS wife. The house, the diamond, issues with the kids ... his marriage, his business.

Her facebook, her business.

I really sympathize that you feel emotional and hurt over some things. But it seems to me that you need to concentrate on your relationship with your Brother and lay off the "I hate your wife" vendetta - even if you do hate his wife.

Your opinion. Like you never discuss family problems with your parents or other family members. Yeah right.


The only thing I agree with you is yeah, its her facebook and her business. So what?