As a first born sibling are you accused of having false memories

[citruscurtis]

CBS morning news did a tiny segment on false memories and one of the anchors said we all have false memories...of which I am always accused by younger siblings ... but I was there and have that memory of a family that they couldn't remember... even at my mom's memorial I was told to be quiet and no corrections...in front of the gathering

 

[Marrila]

Do we all have false recollections?
Very likely. But we may think our memories are accurate. People have testified under oath to things they firmly believe are true but are eventually proven as a falsehood.

Other times the truth is just as we recall.

That said, have you considered addressing this issue in therapy? You might gain some insight.

 

[brockash]

I'm not accused of having false memories, however there are def. memories I have that my younger siblings don't (especially my youngest sister)...when that happens we just say welp different childhoods lol.

My kids (pretty spread out; 2nd is 5 yrs younger than oldest and my youngest is 12 yrs younger than oldest,) will probably not really have any of the same memories lol.

 

[tvguy]

Can't speak to siblings, but the explosion in security cameras and dash cams have proven that what people see isn't what happened, let alone what they will remember years from now . I know a man who was involved in an auto accident and four independent witnesses said HE ran a red light. HIS dash cam video showed HE had had the green light for 11 seconds before he entered the intersection. Didn't stop the other driver from suing, and alleging the VIDEO was wrong and the WITNESSES were correct.
Throw in the passage of time, and memories fail us, or folklore becomes fact. If you have done any genealogy research you will find family stories often either different than reality, or down right wrong. Obituaries can be largely works of fiction.
Resumes can be the same works of fiction.....good old resume inflation hoping that nobody that was around you at the time sees the resume.

 

[disykat]

Being asked to stop correcting people when they share memories does not mean you are being accused of having false memories. You're being "accused" of not allowing them to have THEIR memories.

 

[barkley]

I'm not accused of having false memories, however there are def. memories I have that my younger siblings don't (especially my youngest sister)...when that happens we just say welp different childhoods lol.

My kids (pretty spread out; 2nd is 5 yrs younger than oldest and my youngest is 12 yrs younger than oldest,) will probably not really have any of the same memories lol.

this is/was (two have passed) absolutely the case among me and my siblings. 4 kids in the family-

1st and 2nd-3 years apart
2nd and 3rd-5 years apart
3rd and 4th (me)-7 years apart.

having a minimum of 7 years let alone up to 15 between us has our memories/perceptions of family events very different let alone very different memories of our parents (the parents who raised me in their 50's and 60's provide a much different memory basis for me vs. my oldest sibs who were raised by my much younger parents).

this difference in memories was driven home for one of my sibs (child #3) when he did a cross country car trip with my oldest sib. the two started talking of childhood memories and I guess it got pretty heated b/c they had very different memories of identical events. my oldest sib was of the mindset that the younger was just plain wrong, the younger decided just not to argue and just decided that apparantly they grew up perception and memory wise-in different 'homes'.

 

[_19disnA]

Everyone's memory fades over time. I would imagine if 4 of your relatives were all present at some event many years ago, they likely would each have different memories of that event.