Arghh! Family is doing it again.

[Flyerfan]

OK. So my DBIL is not canceling on us for our November trip but.....he's taken a last minute trip this week with his friend's family and they are staying at OKW. First and last time he was in the World was 6 yrs ago and stayed wayyy off property. Just when we think we're going to take someone with us and show 'em how "we do Disney", something happens to screw it up.

You have to understand...we have no kids and for the 4 yrs we've been members we've not taken anyone with us. A couple times family said they would go, then pull out. We just want to share the magic with someone.

DH is disappointed but I keep telling him when his brother goes with us, we'll be staying at 2 totally different resorts and we will be eating at restaurants he won't be this trip. Also, we are going to tour some resorts with him, too. Something I know he won't be doing this trip.

Just had to vent.

 

[castleri]

You can still show him how you do Disney - it will probably be quite different from this trip for him. Just be glad he isn't bailing on you. I have had that happen a few times and it is a real bummer. Still haven't gotten DGS to WDW although it was in the works twice. Pretty soon he should be old enough to go without the parents but I would really like the whole family to make it so don't push to hard. Their reasons for not going were very valid but it was still a downer. Have a wonderful trip.

 

[Sandisw]

What is going to make your trip with him so special is you and no one can make up for that!!!

 

[Flyerfan]

You guys are right. DH is actually more down about it than I am. I keep telling him it will be different. The group DBIL is with is a group of 30, so can't wait to hear about it. Regardless, I cannot wait for our trip.

 

[Dizny Dad]

But this is the place to vent! We understand the magic, the dream, we "get it". Welcome Home.

 

[TravelingJen24]

I totally understand. You have your heart set on a certain set of events and when it is changed beyond your control it is frustrating. I can appreciate your husband's concerns. You are trying to do a nice thing and are now wondering if it will pan out how you wanted. A couple of years ago we took some family on our DVC dime. Without our knowledge this group invited some grandparents, not related to us, to help with their babysitting. We were really upset, but there is not much you can do without causing a problem. It definitely changed our trip and I would be careful to do it again. Like the other poster mentioned, just make your trip different and you will probably still have a wonderful time.

 

[amypetecar]

I can understand your frustration. We are taking my parents to disney for their first trip ever next year and I can't wait!

That said, there could be a silver lining to it. Many times when you take family, extended family, or friends on their first wdw trip, it is easy to set unrealistic expectations of how perfect everything will be. Many times the invited guests either have completely different ideas of what they want to do, different touring schedules, or simply don't enjoy wdw as much as the host family. I know this would be the case with both of my sister-in-laws.

The silver lining is that by your BIL already having gone to disney, you can plan your trip around what both of you enjoy most based on experience, thus avoiding the almost inevitable let down of your guests first trip to disney not being perfect.

I have no idea if any of this is applicable to you, and your husband has every right to be dissapointed, but knowing the situation going in will only help you enjoy your trip together!!

 

[ajf1007]

OK. So my DBIL is not canceling on us for our November trip but.....he's taken a last minute trip this week with his friend's family and they are staying at OKW. First and last time he was in the World was 6 yrs ago and stayed wayyy off property. Just when we think we're going to take someone with us and show 'em how "we do Disney", something happens to screw it up.

You have to understand...we have no kids and for the 4 yrs we've been members we've not taken anyone with us. A couple times family said they would go, then pull out. We just want to share the magic with someone.

DH is disappointed but I keep telling him when his brother goes with us, we'll be staying at 2 totally different resorts and we will be eating at restaurants he won't be this trip. Also, we are going to tour some resorts with him, too. Something I know he won't be doing this trip.

Just had to vent.

I understand how frustrating this is and how disappointing it is when someone rains on your parade. But you have the right attitude as your trip will be different and on top of it all, it will be with you guys and those memories can't be replaced. Family memories are usually

Just like you, we don't have kids and don't take people with us, usually. Next year we have a big trip for the family (on us - with our points) so I'm looking forward to that. But...I already have someone (who will remain nameless) Ok, it's my mom who is trying to steer the ship and she's never even been to WDW!! So, like I said, I can relate to the frustration!

Hey - we're neighbors! Fellow Pennsylvanian's! Keep your chin up and try to stay positive like you are! Plus - they released the Flyers schedule for this season! Maybe you'll be able to watch a game or two at the ESPN zone! Woo Hoo! It's gonna be a great season!

 

[dianeschlicht]

We have had many trips with invited guests. Sometimes family and sometimes friends. Some work into our schedule easily...others not so much. We have learned to roll with the punches. If things get tight, we let the guests go off and do their own thing. If they don't see as much because of it....their loss. I do remember that happening once when we had a large group of friends in a 3 bedroom GV at OKW. It consisted of 3 family groups plus one single mother and her DD. The single mom and DD just couldn't get with the program. They didn't really know how to enjoy Disney, and they didn't want to follow the rest of us by going to the parks early in the morning. The result was that they saw and did much less than everyone else. The point is....We didn't let that bother us. It was their choice, and thus they had to suffer the concequences. The rest of us had a GREAT time!

 

[ajf1007]

We have had many trips with invited guests. Sometimes family and sometimes friends. Some work into our schedule easily...others not so much. We have learned to roll with the punches. If things get tight, we let the guests go off and do their own thing. If they don't see as much because of it....their loss. I do remember that happening once when we had a large group of friends in a 3 bedroom GV at OKW. It consisted of 3 family groups plus one single mother and her DD. The single mom and DD just couldn't get with the program. They didn't really know how to enjoy Disney, and they didn't want to follow the rest of us by going to the parks early in the morning. The result was that they saw and did much less than everyone else. The point is....We didn't let that bother us. It was their choice, and thus they had to suffer the concequences. The rest of us had a GREAT time!

I love that attitude Diane! Great advice! Plus, for those who don't work into the schedule easily...you make that mental note for going forward!

 

[DenLo]

I can commiserate with you. Two times we have invited guests and twice people have bailed. At least part of the group came this last trip. I've decided that most of my DH's family just are not Disney fans and are not interested in becoming Disney fans.

It is really nice to introduce someone to a DVC villa for the first time. I guess you'll just need to show your brother the other side of being a DVC member. Find out what he does on his OKW trip and do something different when he's with you.

No matter what at least he's joining you next trip.

 

[disneychic]

At least he didn't bail....my biggest fear is that my cousin and his family will change their mind and cancel for some reason.....after I've booked cabins on the Dream and rooms at AKV for our Feb. trip I don't forsee this happening, but with the amount of points I've put towards this vacation I'll freak!

 

[Dean]

At least he didn't bail....

At least not yet!

 

[BBG-BLT]

Take me Take me!!!

 

[dianeschlicht]

At least not yet!

Yeah, that was my thought too. He might decide he's already 'done' Disney, so he MIGHT bail yet.