OP Here
I have to say...I have made significant progress in my fear of annoying others by reclining! On the way home from our cross-country trip I reclined! But...It was an overnight flight. And everyone else was also reclined. And my DH was behind me. And, before I reclined I asked him if he would mind. And, OK, I didn't recline ALL the way. Just half way. Very courageous of me, huh?!?
In all seriousness, I just don't think I could bring myself to do it on a daytime flight. I like what the previous poster said about making myself 5% happier while the person behind me would be 50% unhappier.
I think the annoyance on my initial flight all boils down to one thing: courtesy. The woman in front of me reclined fully for the entire cross-country flight. Whether she was sitting upright (back not against her seat) or using the bathroom...that seat stayed fully reclined. So, I never had a break from it. Many times she did lean back in her reclined seat, but she also had her hands gripping the top of her seat on many occasions. Her fingertips were actually hooked over the top portion of my TV. Ugh. Also, her toddler son had his seat fully reclined as well. (Yes, Yes, I know it's his right to do so

) But, at one point he decided to take a nap...sideways across his mom's lap. His back didn't touch his fully reclined seat for almost an hour! At that point I gave my teenage daughter (who was right behind him) permission to prop her knees on the back of his seat just so she could stretch out a little.
I notice that a lot of people keep saying that the seats recline, therefore I have a right to recline. I totally get that argument...believe me I do. But, there are a lot of things I have a right to do that I just wouldn't do because I know it's making someone else uncomfortable. For example, I would not eat a smelly fish or egg sandwich on a plane. I would not burp loudly on a plane. I would not hum along to my music on a plane. I have a right to do all those things on a plane, but I just wouldn't do them. Take for example the teenage girls sitting 3 rows behind us on the plane. They laughed and talked at full VOLUME for most of the flight. The pre-school teacher in me wanted to turn around and say, "Please use your inside voices." Did they have a right to talk like that? I guess so. But was it still annoying? Yup.
I wonder if some on my annoyance also has to do with the TVs on JetBlue. One of the big reasons I booked JB was because it was a long flight and I knew the TV would be nice. Right before the lady in front of me reclined I was happily watching a movie. I was so comfortable. As soon as she reclined the TV just felt so close to my face. It was something about the angle of it. It wasn't nearly as comfortable.
Thanks for all the entertainment this thread has given me. I got back from our trip last week and was laughing that the thread was still alive and kicking. I've enjoyed the discourse!
