Are Strip Clubs Normal/Acceptable?

[ZephyrHawk]

I wouldn't much care, a business is a business.

I also agree with commentors that strip clubs are boring, for girls anyways. They better have good drinks if the boys want to drag me along. Notably, men's strip clubs are equally boring, but they don't bother trying to have good drinks. Worst rum and coke I ever had was at my friend's bachelorette party. Seriously, how do you screw up a rum and coke?

Here's an interesting question, how would Peg feel if the ex was opening a club catering to women's interests? Would she be equally or less concerned about the effect on her daughter?

 

[Pigeon]

Just because one has a right to do something doesn't make it a good idea.

I'd be livid. People will know who owns it, and it will be awkward for the children. There are stories in our local newspaper every so often about the ones in our town.

 

[ilisao]

I always feel like people think I'm a prude too..I'm really not I just disagree with all those kinds of businesses..especially when my children are involved.

How would your children be involved? Are they working there?

 

[disneyjunkie]

Here's an interesting question, how would Peg feel if the ex was opening a club catering to women's interests? Would she be equally or less concerned about the effect on her daughter?

Good question.

I'm wondering how Peg would feel if the club was in a poor area.

Is she upset that he's opening a club, or that their friends will know about it?
It wouldn’t bother me if my son’s dad opened a club.
I’d would just request that he hire a few male dancers. That way my friends and I would have a reason to visit.

 

[Pigeon]

I would also agree that it doesn't matter if it's an expensive "gentlemen's club," which is an oxymoron in any event. Dirtbags are dirtbags, whether or not they have a big bank account.

 

[mom2boys77]

Maybe if you bothered to read what I had written about the adult toy store, you would know what I meant instead of just being sarcastic.

How would your children be involved? Are they working there?

 

[KirstenB]

Richmond is such a conservative city, it'd be awful to be that child here. Unfortunately, the ex can do whatever tasteless indiscreet thing he wants with his money. I guess the best news is that he's an "ex". I'm already feeling sorry for the mom and kid.

 

[Barbossa]

Though I have nothing against strip clubs and have patronized them a few times in my life, I wouldn't expose my daughter to one in a million years. Your ex is completely out of line in this case, IMO.

 

[ilisao]

Maybe if you bothered to read what I had written about the adult toy store, you would know what I meant instead of just being a wise you know what.

And I don't get the big deal about the adult toy store. If it bothers you so much you either 1) go to another Chinese restaurant; 2) don't bring your kids; or 3) just not make a big deal about it. According to you, your children can see inside on warm nights when they open the doors. Just walk quickly by it. It's not as if they really are shoving smut down your throat and making you look like it. Your children aren't involved.

 

[mom2boys77]

It's not at night, it was 2 in the afternoon and my kids were with me. Unfortunately there is no where else to park and you need to walk past the door to get to the restaurant. Maybe I should have left my 6 year old in the car alone .That is being shoved in my face.

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And I don't get the big deal about the adult toy store. If it bothers you so much you either 1) go to another Chinese restaurant; 2) don't bring your kids; or 3) just not make a big deal about it. According to you, your children can see inside on warm nights when they open the doors. Just walk quickly by it. It's not as if they really are shoving smut down your throat and making you look like it. Your children aren't involved.

 

[PghLybrt]

We frequent a few ,often. I would love to own one someday. I think some people have ideas about them that are obtained through TV and movies. One that we go to has the best bartenders, great pool tables and huge flat screen to watch the games. You could probably go in and never even know that there were women in there.

Yes there are those out there that are kind of dirty and raunchy but they all do not have to be.

Growing up a classmates step dad owned one. She often worked there in the offices. You can imagine how many of the guys offered to drive her to work after school.

 

[DISUNC]

Male or Female Strip Club?

 

[KyraS]

I don't mind strip clubs but when I was 11 the thought of my daddy owning one would have embarassed me to no end.

Now adult toy stores I love!!!!! I wish my daddy owned one of those now that I'm an adult, ROTFLOL! FREE TOYS SOUND GOOD!

 

[Mouse House Mama]

I don't mind strip clubs but when I was 11 the thought of my daddy owning one would have embarassed me to no end.

Yeah- not my cup of tea and to each their own but I too would have been mortified if my Dad owned one. Also- keep in mind that there will be parents who will not want their children to socialize with the child because of the family business being what it is.

 

[Papa Deuce]

I find that really unacceptable and disgusting. I think those places are trashy and would be very upset if it were near my kids' school.

I don't think "few miles" away is near the school. That said, I don't really have a problem with thses types of clubs. I used to go all the time, 15 - 20 years ago... haven't been in one in about 10 years....

 

[Michelle67]

Honestly, no matter how upscale the school or the neighborhood is, I'll bet there are drug houses closer than the strip club will be, and you don't have to mark those or check ID at the door, kwim? There will always be bad influences around your child. You can't protect them completely. The best you can do is teach them well and pray (or hope, if you prefer) a lot. And yeah, I do understand that it is different when your dad owns the place. But sadly neither the ex wife nor the daughter can control dear old dad. He's going to do what he's going to do. The best you can do is to do your best not to trash talk dad, but still teach your values, and support the child when she is confused or embarrassed. I have some experience with this since my ex is basically a 45 year old 15 year old who actively stares (and comments) at women's breasts while on lunch dates with his teenage daughter. The idiot.

 

[Cindy B]

I don't see what the big deal is. It's a business.

 

[Michelle67]

Oh, I guess I didn't answer the actual question, which is are they normal or acceptable. Apparently so. Not my thing, but they thrive so they must be normal and acceptable enough to stay legal. I live in an area where there are several military bases within about a 50 mile radius, so there are certainly lots of them here.

Then again, we have "Natte Latte" drive through espresso places where they hire buxom young women and encourage them to dress scantily.

 

[Handbag Lady]

Strip clubs are boring.
I have gone w/ dh a few times and the first few times were kinda fun as we went w/ a group of friends. (husbands and wives) You would be suprised to see how many women go.
Many of the strippers are just girls trying to put themselves through college. I really see nothing wrong with it.
They are not going to come outside and strip! In fact they will probably not see much of anything.

I truly wonder if the women here up in arms have actually been to a strip club. I have and I've already posted my opinion.

I also went to school with strippers who needed to pay tuition. The stories they told of the poor pathetic men there made me feel like they were actually doing a service for society.

 

[declansdad]

It doesn't seem like it would be near the school, you said it was a few miles away. Seems like the ex is over-reacting to me.

These are legal buisnesses and no one is being forced to work there. Also, they are not against everyone's morals.