Anyone recognise this feeling?

[dis-me]

BF and I usually keep in touch throughout the day or at least on our lunch breaks. Today i hadnt heard from him at all and it is way past lunchtime here.
Then i started to get strange phone calls from an unknown number....
so of course i panicked until i had myself convinced BF had been murdered for his phone and the phone was now being used by the people who were calling me.

I could hardly sit still and work...I was getting really upset. I text him about a million times to see if he was ok and to ask him to get in touch. It's not as stalker-ish as it sounds, we generally text at least once during the day to touch base and see how each others day is going. So no text by the end of this working day was really strange. And the strange phone calls to top it all off didn;t help.

Then (of course) BF texts to say he's fine and work has just been really busy.

I should feel relieved but I can't seem to calm down! Is that normal after a brief panic? I still feel like bursting into tears at my desk and my hands are shaking! Am I crazy or is that normal?


-I've just re-read this post - the bit about thinking he'd been murdered for his phone was supposed to be taken partly tongue-in-cheek. That being said it did actually cross my mind and I was worried for his safety.

 

[lulugirl]

I think you should see a doctor.

 

[dis-me]

For my panicking? probably. It was only the strange phone calls that made me panic, although not hearing from him all day never happens. And maybe a bit of PMT???

I meant was it normal to still feel panicked even though it had been resolved!

 

[The Mystery Machine]

No, not normal. You are having an anxiety attack. Or do you have some OCD tendencies? Could be that.

Either way it is anxiety.

 

[apirateslifeforme]

Sounds fairly normal to me. I do it, too. Then again, I'm not exactly what you'd call "normal"...

I felt the same way on 9/11 when my (now-ex) husband had a job interview in NYC. It's like, you're all tensed up and you can't help but think the worst, and then when you finally hear from the person and they're fine, you release all that stress and emotion in the form of tears and shakes.

 

[dis-me]

Thanks mystery machine (and lulu-girl) - i do suffer from them but havent had one for a while so it didnt occur to be it might be that. That's what it is - its passing now thankfully

 

[Carrieannew]

I guess I read way into this. I took that he was not interested in responding and maybe wants to end things. But I have had this happen before everything was great.. then things just stopped. Sorry if I am way off base.

 

[ZipaDeeDooDah]

Panic/anxiety attacks are the worst! Hope you are feeling better now.

 

[dis-me]

haha! carrieann - I hope not i posted a while ago that he had ended things but then we got back together and meant to post an update today because i overheard him telling a friend yesterday that the years he's spent with me have been (and I quote) 'the best!'

So I hope it wasn't the brush off! he was pretty apologetic when he did eventually text

 

[Miss Jasmine]

New user name, same stuff. Go see a doc, this isn't normal.

 

[dis-me]

I don't get it??? but i have seen a doctor - several in fact - still get the occasional panic though

 

[SamIAm21]

Well, something tells me you are pretty young too. Most people don't quite panic like that over not getting texted or called within five minutes. Sounds like you are little unsteady in your relationship given that you panicked so quickly. You might want to explore why you are prone to this type of behavior.

 

[dis-me]

woah - people have taken this very far. The strange calls caused me to panic, not the lack of text, and i didnt receive a reply after 12 hours, not 5 minutes. The calls caused me concern because he walks a dangerous route at 6am every morning and muggings are very common in that area.

But i didnt for one minute worry he wasnt replying because he didnt want to talk to me. I was worried about his safety - thats all, read into it what you like.

I only posted because I found it odd that i was still shaky afterwards. Haven;t had a panic attack for so long I'd forgotten what it was like!

 

[Miss Jasmine]

I don't get it??? but i have seen a doctor - several in fact - still get the occasional panic though

Well then perhaps some therapy.

 

[Cantw8]

Have a shot and a joint...you'll feel better

 

[ducklite]

I don't get it??? but i have seen a doctor - several in fact - still get the occasional panic though

It is NOT normal or healthy to be that obsessed with a boyfriend, let alone having panic attacks over imaginary and frankly rather absurd thoughts. In fact that type of behaviour will probably send the average boyfriend running--hard and fast--if it continues.

Not sure what type of doctor you've been seeing, but one that has M.D. Psychiatry at the end is where you should be.

Not trying to be rude, just real.

Anne

 

[azgal81]

I'm glad that your BF is okay! It's normal to worry like that I do the same if I haven't heard from mine throughout the day. Now that you know he's safe you just need to calm down! I think you just got yourself worked up over the thought of what could have happened.

I don't see why everyone else is being so mean to you. Could someone fill me in??

 

[Pop Daddy]

Have a shot and and a joint...you'll feel better

maybe two , actually, I feel your pain, my imagination runs away with me often.

 

[GoodFairies]

You're definitely crazy.

 

[dis-me]

Cant8W - cool reply! it made me laugh.

Thanks everyone for your concern - think i just panicked uneccesarily. I probably wouldn't have given it too much thought were it not for the very odd calls and the nature of the person on the other end of the phone. My mind just wandered...

Not sure if I should feel like a very bad person or a very good one that i didnt even think that he might not want to talk to me, i was just worried for his safety!

Never mind, all sorted now