Anyone have a daughter that has matured to fast?

[LuvOrlando]

I started at an early 10, my cousin was 9. My husband's family started much later, the girls were all around 16/17 so when I warned my DH about our kids he kind of ignore me. That is until I told him about DD and his jaw hit the floor Our son is almost 13 and is already shaving his little mustache... that's just how my side rolls

That said, I can totally understand how Mom with DH's genetics would be confused to end up with a kid who has my genetics and might think something is wrong and needs to be fixed, like the opposite of growth hormone.

Best advice is try your best to make her feel comfortable in her own skin. Your surprise makes me think you have probably been putting off on matter of fact conversations you should have been having if you knew this was on its way. No harm done just do the basics, my biggest thing was for DD, now nearly 12, to keep track on a calendar and wear protection the whole week before, just in case, and make sure she always has some products with her in her schoolbag & in her sleepover bag. Bathrooms in her grade will not have supplies available in vending machines like they do for older grades. These days I can spot her PMS a mile away and I spend a lot of time trying to get her to be aware. No-one likes a grumpy bug.

Good luck

 

[Debbie7452]

There are also real risks to being on the pill. I know everyone thinks it is harmless, but I was one of the "unlucky" people to get a blood clot from the pill (as an adult). There was no warning and I did not have any of the known risk factors. I had a serious bout of ischemic colitis from the blood clot. I was actually lucky I did not get a stroke or heart attack instead!

 

[golfgal]

Just because she had her first period, doesn't always mean she is going to get them regularly yet. I know a lot of the girls in my family had their first one around 11 then not another one for at least a year or so, including myself. I would wait and she what happens. Unless she has an extremely heavy period, I wouldn’t mess with birth control. They will probably be pretty light for a while even if they do come regularly. She will be okay, she is just growing up!

Lucky you, the only periods I have ever missed were when I was pregnant .

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I am sorry if this is to much information, but i am in need of some opinions. My 10yo daughter has matured way to early. I have been expecting her period for about a year now praying and hoping i was wrong. Well today it happened she woke me up saying mom i think i have started my period. I think this is just wrong she still plays with dolls for heaven sakes. I have been gradually explaining stuff to her so whe would at least know what was happening. However she does not know more than she should know. I have thought really hard about this today and i am thinking about possibly getting her put on the pill that will stop her from having them at least until she matures a little more. What do you think? Would you do something like that if it was your daughter? I personally hate messing with it and I just don't think a 10yo should have to.

No way would I put my child on the pill unless medically necessary. As pp said, the risks for the pill are real and should not be taken lightly.

I would certainly make an appointment with her doctor and have a talk about with them.

As a former GS leader I had many girls starting at that age so it is not out of the ordinary.

 

[golfgal]

I didn't realize that 10 was considered normal age, i just thought it was like 13 or something.

I suggest, like someone else said, get the American Girl book "The Care and Keeping of You" and read it, then give it to your DD to read. You can get it at any bookstore. I still see my DD15 checking things in that book.

 

[rascalmom]

I started when I was 11 (and I'm nearly 50) and both of my daughters started at that age as well. At the time my girls were that age, I was a Girl Scout leader.....at least 2 of the girls in my troop had started before the age of ten.

I wouldn't put my daughters on the pill unless there was a medical or birth control need.

 

[nmmom95]

I started when I was 10. It is hard, at first, in school, but you get used to it. I went through menopause at 39, due to a medical condition, and I can say I don't miss it!

 

[disfan07]

I was 10 when I started mine. I went on the pill at 12 ONLY because we discovered that I had PCOS (we went to the ER thinking I had appendicitis...ended up having a baseball sized cyst instead)

I would NOT put a 10 year old on the pill to stop her periods. IMO, I think that is crazy.

 

[Angelhalo]

Actually, 10 is NOT outside the realm of normal. I'm assuming that she's in 5th grade? I'd guess that she's probably not the only one in her class.

Agrred. Mine started when I was 10 and a half

I don't understand what the OP means by, she doesn't know more than she is supposed to know. What shouldn't she be privy to???

 

[mckinley]

Thanks for the replys, they have helped me out alot. I am not going to put her on the pill i guess i just worry to much. I have had many talks with her for about a year now so she knew what to expect. We even bought some sanitary products about 3 months ago. I honestly really don't know much about birthcontrol. I wasn't able to take birthcontrol and still to this day don't. I just sit down with her now that dh is gone to work & we talked. She said to me that it was okay its just life mom. So that makes me feel alot better. But thanks again for the replys.

 

[southern_redhead]

Um... wow. You are being REALLY ridiculous about this. It's natural for a woman to have a period. I've known girls who've started at 8... I started at 11, myself. There's nothing "wrong" about it. And it's WAY out there to consider putting her on the pill to suppress her period just because you think she's too young to have one. Her body IS mature if she has begun menstruating. This is a fact of life and she (and you) needs to get used to it.

Wow. You're being a bit ridiculous yourself. Her DD is 10 and she's hit puberty, it is a tad on the early side and she can be a bit freaked if she wants. Good grief!

I'm assuming OP didn't mean THE pill but rather, A pill. I know there is one that will slow down hormone production until the body matures. I know of at least one girl, locally, who used it. Hers was because she was very small and the doctor wanted to delay puberty to give her more time to grow. I don't know if it worked or if it is still done.

OP - my DD is 8 and she is sooo tall. I mean she is one of the youngest in her class and probably one of the 3 tallest girls. My SIL had "b**bs and a period" according to MIL by 4th grade. DD isn't developed so I'm hoping that's not going to be her but I do think she will hit puberty earlier than I did (14). I understand about being concerned that she has matured in this area while still being a "little girl". I would concentrate on making sure she understands how all this works and that she could now become pregnant. I know when I was in school older boys preyed on the younger girls who were already developed - the body they wanted along with an innocent trust they could manipulate. I have 2 friends who had babies young because of this. Talk to her doctor and see what they have to say

 

[tlbwriter]

I don't understand what the OP means by, she doesn't know more than she is supposed to know. What shouldn't she be privy to???

Good question.

 

[mckinley]

Good question.

I just meant i didn't go into detail about ovaries & eggs and that kind of stuff. She basically just knows that its just something all girls/women have.


Can anyone tell me were they sell those books at the other posters mentioned?

 

[KimR]

I just meant i didn't go into detail about ovaries & eggs and that kind of stuff. She basically just knows that its just something all girls/women have.


Can anyone tell me were they sell those books at the other posters mentioned?

Barnes and Noble, Borders, Amazon

 

[bluesaturn]

Thanks for the replys, they have helped me out alot. I am not going to put her on the pill i guess i just worry to much. I have had many talks with her for about a year now so she knew what to expect. We even bought some sanitary products about 3 months ago. I honestly really don't know much about birthcontrol. I wasn't able to take birthcontrol and still to this day don't. I just sit down with her now that dh is gone to work & we talked. She said to me that it was okay its just life mom. So that makes me feel alot better. But thanks again for the replys.

You'll have to try your best to control your anxiety about this stuff, because you might make your daughter think this is something to freak out about (which it isn't). You need to be the calm and solid one, so she can come and get reassurance from you that these changes are okay. If she is the first of her friends to develop, she needs you there to say that everything is fine and she is normal. And if you aren't sure if it's normal, you need to find out from medical or scientific source before you worry.

I don't mean to sound snarky or demeaning, so I hope you don't take it that way. I just think that your daughter's take on her development could be strongly affected by your attitude. You might have to fake having it all together, but it may really help her adjust.

 

[mjkacmom]

Well, you could take her to the doctor, but she sounds on the early side of being very normal! Dd14 has some friends who've had AF since 4th grade, she got it at the end of 6th (and she's a skinny minny), and her bff just got it last week - there's a long range of normal.

As for her knowing what she needs to know, it's a great idea to give them information regarding her body, sexuality, intercourse, etc., at this age. Open up the dialogue now, let her ask questions without the older embarrassment, let her know you are always available. We have the book It's So Amazing, and around this age, my kids read it, and we discuss anything they want to discuss, or want me to clarify.

I would absolutely NOT even consider putting her on hormones to counteract what her body is doing naturally. What message does that give? Sounds almosts as creepy as the mom in Carrie. And this is coming from a mom who is considering putting her dd on bcp, because of extreme pain and bleeding.

 

[hellokitty86]

I got mine at 9 years old. I think that is pretty common.

 

[mdsoccermom]

I just meant i didn't go into detail about ovaries & eggs and that kind of stuff. She basically just knows that its just something all girls/women have.


Can anyone tell me were they sell those books at the other posters mentioned?

Is there something about ovaries and eggs that a 10 year old shouldn't know?

 

[Buckalew11]

There are also real risks to being on the pill. I know everyone thinks it is harmless, but I was one of the "unlucky" people to get a blood clot from the pill (as an adult). There was no warning and I did not have any of the known risk factors. I had a serious bout of ischemic colitis from the blood clot. I was actually lucky I did not get a stroke or heart attack instead!

I t is a real danger and we've had 2 DISers this past year that had blood clots from bcp. Glad you are OK.

I just meant i didn't go into detail about ovaries & eggs and that kind of stuff. She basically just knows that its just something all girls/women have.


Can anyone tell me were they sell those books at the other posters mentioned?

By all means, tell her about eggs and ovaries and what her body is doing. It is a whole lot easier to accept when you know why your body is shedding the lining and what it is and why. My opinion is that it is much better to know and understand than just "having a period and thinking you are truly bleeding."

 

[mjkacmom]

Is there something about ovaries and eggs that a 10 year old shouldn't know?

Gosh, I hope not - all of my kids have had this information for YEARS, and after they point-blank asked me, dd9, ds8, and dd8 can tell you how that pesky sperm gets to the egg (and found out more than a year ago).