Anyone ever receive an "oops" text or email?

[tuckerkeys]

So here's my short story....

Last week a friend sent a text to me by accident. She meant to send it to her husband. In it she made fun of my 8 year old son.

She is a former hairdresser. She has been telling everyone she needs the money so she is cutting hair for $10 a head, kids included, in her kitchen. I texted her asking to make an appt to get my sons mohawk cut down ( we grew it for fun over the summer ) She texted back "sorry don't do kids..." Then texted 2 minutes later thinking it was going to her husband saying " can you believe XX asked me to cut XX's hair! No way would I get involved in that ridiculous hairdo - stupid skunkhead!!!" This is a lady in her 50's btw....

I sent a text back saying "wow you just sent this to me, thanks!" and then she went off backtracking basically....

She has NOT apologized to me for sending the wrong text, nor has she apologized for the hurtful comment about my son. I'm kind of over it, I mean really, she is a gossipy person and this kind of behavior is to be expected of her, but to talk about an 8 year old?? It's weird....

SO, anyone else receive texts or emails NOT meant for their eyes to see but OOPS! Did it ruin your friendship or did you just shake your head & move on?? Thanks!

 

[mickeyboat]

So here's my short story....

Last week a friend sent a text to me by accident. She meant to send it to her husband. In it she made fun of my 8 year old son.

She is a former hairdresser. She has been telling everyone she needs the money so she is cutting hair for $10 a head, kids included, in her kitchen. I texted her asking to make an appt to get my sons mohawk cut down ( we grew it for fun over the summer ) She texted back "sorry don't do kids..." Then texted 2 minutes later thinking it was going to her husband saying " can you believe XX asked me to cut XX's hair! No way would I get involved in that ridiculous hairdo - stupid skunkhead!!!" This is a lady in her 50's btw....

I sent a text back saying "wow you just sent this to me, thanks!" and then she went off backtracking basically....

She has NOT apologized to me for sending the wrong text, nor has she apologized for the hurtful comment about my son. I'm kind of over it, I mean really, she is a gossipy person and this kind of behavior is to be expected of her, but to talk about an 8 year old?? It's weird....

SO, anyone else receive texts or emails NOT meant for their eyes to see but OOPS! Did it ruin your friendship or did you just shake your head & move on?? Thanks!

Wow, just wow! I think that this person would no longer be a friend of mine.

And yes, I have gotten emails and texts that were meant for someone else.

I got a slightly racy one from a phone number suspiciously similar to my DH's number, but I knew he did not text, so it was very unusual. I also got a sweet text fro mmy dad that was meant for his wife.

I got an email from a vendor of ours at work that spoke derrogatively of our company. I wrote back and apologized that we were so much trouble for them.

 

[Pigeon]

No, I haven't.

But in your situation, kids grow mohawks to get attention. He got some attention which you didn't especially like. I don't see that as a big deal.

 

[Scornelius]

No, I haven't.

But in your situation, kids grow mohawks to get attention. He got some attention which you didn't expecially like. I don't see that as a big deal.

An 8 year old doens't grow a mohawk thinking a 50 year old friend of the family will say mean things about him. He does it because he thinks it's fun and cool. That hairdresser should be ashamed and mortified, and I bet she is.

OP, I'm really sorry you had to see that. I'd share your story with anyone you know who goes to her. They should know she's the type of 'professional' who thinks it's ok to be mean and snide about her clients, even children. I sure woulnd't want to give her my business.

 

[krcit]

I got one in the middle of the night from a friend of a friend. I had his number in my phone from planning a party for my friend. Anyway, I got a text that said something along the lines of 'I love you guys...' My dh was like wth? I was just glad it said 'you guys' or I would've had some 'splaining to do

 

[RitaE]

No, I haven't.

But in your situation, kids grow mohawks to get attention. He got some attention which you didn't expecially like. I don't see that as a big deal.

I agree with pigeon. I have a son who used to dye his hair all these really weird colors like green and then put a bunch of gel in it to make it stick up in funny spikes. Then he'd whine after he'd go out and somebody would tell him it looked weird. I wasn't all that sympathetic because I think that if you dye your hair green and then make it stick up funny ...... weird was kind of your goal and you shouldn't be all that surprised if somebody comments on it.

The text isn't that bad. It is a mohawk and she doesn't want to be involved in it. No biggie. It isn't like she was calling him fat or saying he's a stupid moron. She just doesn't like his hair, which you have to know that there's probably more than one person out there who agrees with her and they also are probably talking out of earshot about it.

I wouldn't damage a friendship over that.

 

[krcit]

No, I haven't.

But in your situation, kids grow mohawks to get attention. He got some attention which you didn't expecially like. I don't see that as a big deal.

Kids do everything for attention. Doesn't make it ok for a grown woman to be mean. Anyway, OP doesn't seem to be making a big deal about it.

 

[NikitaZee]

Most of us say things to our spouse, best friend, etc about people that we wouldn't necessarily want them to hear. If I were that woman who sent the oops text, I'd be mortified. If I were the OP, I'd feel awkward around hairdresser friend. I've never been in that position so I'm not sure how I'd act going forward. I can see myself sending back the same type of text that OP did though.

 

[FireDancer]

Received? No.
Sent? Yup. It wasn't pretty.

 

[MaryAnnDVC]

I agree with pigeon. I have a son who used to dye his hair all these really weird colors like green and then put a bunch of gel in it to make it stick up in funny spikes. Then he'd whine after he'd go out and somebody would tell him it looked weird. I wasn't all that sympathetic because I think that if you dye your hair green and then make it stick up funny ...... weird was kind of your goal and you shouldn't be all that surprised if somebody comments on it.

The text isn't that bad. It is a mohawk and she doesn't want to be involved in it. No biggie. It isn't like she was calling him fat or saying he's a stupid moron. She just doesn't like his hair, which you have to know that there's probably more than one person out there who agrees with her and they also are probably talking out of earshot about it.

I wouldn't damage a friendship over that.

I agree with Rita.

And it's not like she said it to him, you, his friends, his friends' parents. She said it to her husband, and it accidentally got sent to you. Very unfortunate. I'd be mortified if I were her. But I don't think what she said, meant for her husband, was that big a deal.

If you know she's such a gossipy person anyway, outside of this incident, you might want to stop being friends with her. I had a friend years ago that talked negatively all the time about her "best friend" and I finally had enough...can only imagine what she must've been saying about me then. Good riddance.

I don't recall being the recipient of a text or email meant for someone else, but I did send my DH an email complaining about his mother, which I meant to send to my mom. Thankfully, my email was pretty tame, since it was for my mom, and not for a friend of mine, because I may have been more "descriptive" with what I said.

 

[tuckerkeys]

OP here..I want to get over it, I do. There are more important things in my life to be worried about! I think I'm over it and then feelings come back...it's weird I've never had to deal with something like this..


One of the things that bothers me is that this lady proclaims to be a buddhist....and speaking unkindly about others is a big no no ( and VERY hard to do) ....She also has a large tattoo of buddah on her right hand, so that when she shakes someone elses hand Buddah can greet them as well...

So the rub with me is that she is making fun of someone elses outward appearance ( who happens to be 8! ) when she herself has 5 outward tattoos she is proud of and has meaning to her. My son is a surfer-snowboarder and has decided to "look" the part of his "dudes" I let it grow this summer to @ 3" and we DID cut it down to @ 1" for school. I'm happy that HE is happy. It's in no way offensive or harming others. It's just weird to me that someone who proclaims to be a non-judgemental being is doing so ( a lot with her neighbor gossip I happen to hear) and then this thing w/ my sons hair.......
Oh and btw, YES I gossip. I try not to do it as I don't really like it, but it's lessons like this that make me realize how UGLY it can make the gossiper look.....

 

[Pigeon]

Kids do everything for attention. Doesn't make it ok for a grown woman to be mean. Anyway, OP doesn't seem to be making a big deal about it.

No, they don't. Much of the time kids don't want to draw particular attention to themselves.

This woman wasn't mean to the kid. She made a comment meant for her husband about it being a dumb haircut.

 

[Pigeon]

OP here..I want to get over it, I do. There are more important things in my life to be worried about! I think I'm over it and then feelings come back...it's weird I've never had to deal with something like this..


One of the things that bothers me is that this lady proclaims to be a buddhist....and speaking unkindly about others is a big no no ( and VERY hard to do) ....She also has a large tattoo of buddah on her right hand, so that when she shakes someone elses hand Buddah can greet them as well...

So the rub with me is that she is making fun of someone elses outward appearance ( who happens to be 8! ) when she herself has 5 outward tattoos she is proud of and has meaning to her. My son is a surfer-snowboarder and has decided to "look" the part of his "dudes" I let it grow this summer to @ 3" and we DID cut it down to @ 1" for school. I'm happy that HE is happy. It's in no way offensive or harming others. It's just weird to me that someone who proclaims to be a non-judgemental being is doing so ( a lot with her neighbor gossip I happen to hear) and then this thing w/ my sons hair.......
Oh and btw, YES I gossip. I try not to do it as I don't really like it, but it's lessons like this that make me realize how UGLY it can make the gossiper look.....

What does her being a Buddhist have to do with it particularly? I know a whole slew of Christians who are a nasty lot.

 

[tuckerkeys]

What does her being a Buddhist have to do with it particularly? I know a whole slew of Christians who are a nasty lot.

Pigeon - as do I! I guess the thing is with this lady is that she goes around being very proud to be a Buddhist, and will school anyone who would like to know more about it but she doesn't practice what she preaches, KWIM?

 

[pensgirl10]

Yes, I sent an "oops" email to an ex-boyfriend. To be honest, it was meant for a friend, referring to a background check I was doing on the bf. He was out of town so I was able to cover by telling him my computer had a virus and to delete anything received from me during that time period.

I did tell him about the background check later and he was really, really mad, not surprisingly.

 

[FireDancer]

Yes, I sent an "oops" email to an ex-boyfriend. To be honest, it was meant for a friend, referring to a background check I was doing on the bf. He was out of town so I was able to cover by telling him my computer had a virus and to delete anything received from me during that time period.

I did tell him about the background check later and he was really, really mad, not surprisingly.

So, basically you're a stalker who, when caught, like about it. Super.

 

[Pigeon]

Pigeon - as do I! I guess the thing is with this lady is that she goes around being very proud to be a Buddhist, and will school anyone who would like to know more about it but she doesn't practice what she preaches, KWIM?

Right, but again, there are lots of people of every religion who don't live up their own ideals.

 

[mjkacmom]

No, they don't. Much of the time kids don't want to draw particular attention to themselves.

This woman wasn't mean to the kid. She made a comment meant for her husband about it being a dumb haircut.

My DH doesn't gossip, and rarely talks negative about anyone. However, if he does, he tells it to me, his wife. Everyone thinks and says snarky things - some say it to the person, some say it behind backs to anyone who will listen, and some will just say it to their spouses.

I don't live in a bubble, and assume no one is saying negative or snarky things about myself, or members of my family. OP, it stinks that you had to "hear" it, but really, have you never said anything about another person to your spouse?

 

[robinb]

One of the things that bothers me is that this lady proclaims to be a buddhist....and speaking unkindly about others is a big no no ( and VERY hard to do) ....She also has a large tattoo of buddah on her right hand, so that when she shakes someone elses hand Buddah can greet them as well...

What is the difference between her calling your son a "skunkhead" to her husband and you making fun of her religion and tattoos on the DIS? Other that more people will read your put-down on the DIS.

 

[tlbwriter]

Kids do everything for attention. Doesn't make it ok for a grown woman to be mean. Anyway, OP doesn't seem to be making a big deal about it.

This. It would have been perfectly appropriate for her to say "I don't feel like I can handle your son's mohawk."

Anyway, my most memorable event was an email that was sent to me. I was a member of a listserv related to my work, and there was one member who was just always really snippy, pompous, and opinionated. I disagreed with her once on something that seemed pretty minor, and she sent me this really angry tirade via email, which ended with her declaring that she would see to it that no one in the entire state of California would ever hire me.

A few months later I open my email one morning and see two emails from her. One says "PLEASE READ THIS FIRST" as the subject and implores that I please, please not open the other message, which was meant to be sent to somebody else. Unfortunately, the other message was the first one in my inbox and had automatically been opened. And surprise, it was another angry tirade directed at someone else who had dared to disagree with her! I just laughed and deleted both of them without comment, but I wanted to respond "It's okay, I already know you're a nasty <rhymes with witch>, so no harm done."