Anyone encountered any anti-gay hostility-updated!

[dennis-in-ct]

<< I'm gay and a redneck! >>

lol ... hey .. works for me


I love how there are all types of gay people. I read an article ont he QUEER EYE TV show a while back. Apparently there was an uproar over that show. Many gays were outraged that they projected the image that ALL gays are like that.

Yes ... QUEER EYE is the unobtainable BARBIE equivilant for us

 

[Coopsmum77]

I had to say that as a resident of a southern state I am not thrilled with the use of "redneck" repeatedly to describe apparently every anti-gay bigot on the planet. Just to be sure that I wasn't too confused on the issue, I went to Merriam to check the definition of redneck. It said: "redneck: 1 sometimes disparaging : a white member of the Southern rural laboring class; 2 often disparaging : a person whose behavior and opinions are similar to those attributed to rednecks."

First, let me make it perfectly clear that I think that any anti-gay comments are ridiculous and agree that anyone who teaches their child to hate any group is very, very wrong. But I personally know people who are literally rednecks, i.e., white folks who live in rural areas of the south who are part of the laboring class. Plenty of them are kind, open-minded people who admit to being rednecks. Along the same lines, there are many people from the northeast, midwest, west coast, etc. who are bigoted, including some who consider themselves quite "sophisticated".

Maybe it wouldn't hurt to step back and realize that painting any entire group of people with a very broad, very negative brush is wrong.

I have to agree with you. Don't judge one group when you are asking not to be judged yourself. My DP often wonders how she got tied up with a (northern) redneck. I come from a very blue collar family, and come garden season, we all have rednecks and farmers tans.

So far, knock on wood, we haven't experienced any problem while we've been in Disney.

 

[Coopsmum77]

Do you view that as saying that they are proud to be bigots? Maybe some but I know that there are plenty of these people who are just trying to say that they know they aren't sophisticated, they are simple folk and are okay with that and not trying to pretend to be more. There isn't any reason to be ashamed to be a farmer in Mississippi with only a high school degree, for instance; they should not automatically feel inferior to someone from a large city with multiple college degrees.

I have to agree. I would prefer to be a redneck than an elitist, any day. Now, the folks that fly the Confederate flag are a different issue. I think they are trying to say something, while hiding under the "rebel" image.

 

[Coopsmum77]

I knew a couple, one of whose family was so not accepting, they had weekly bible meetings in their home. Like way to the religious right meetings. Needless to say, they aren't together anymore.

We are blessed with our families. We have been trying to get preg for a while, but DP had an ectopic in Feb. My mom was at the hospital, family was devastated. My grandparents are hoping we're the ones who have the first great-grandson. All this from a rural, redneck family. From day one, DP has had her place in their hearts.

 

[Sparx]

I was browsing the boards, and I found this thread. It reminded me of something that happened in my town.

There was a gay man who lived in a very old, historical home. About a month ago, a bunch of teenagers paint balled his house and wrote gay slang (I don't think I can type the words on this board, but it starts with an F) and they threw rocks through his windows.

Three kids got put on probation and had to write a letter of apology to be published in the news paper. Honestly, I think more should've been done to them.

 

[liltinkers]

1) I love this thread now.
2) I wish I had kids right now so that I could have a gentle little talk with them about how some kids have a mommy and a daddy, and that's ok, and that they're a family as long as they love each other.

This is why this country is going straight to hell.

 

[Viki]

lilSOMETHING ... you've been warned, darlin"

 

[olbear]

Vicki,

Shouldn't that be...
"Ye be warned...ARRRGGGHHHH!!"

Sorry, couldn't resist, my bad...
Love ya mean it!

 

[ConcKahuna]

Vicki,

Shouldn't that be...
"Ye be warned...ARRRGGGHHHH!!"

Sorry, couldn't resist, my bad...
Love ya mean it!

 

[klineyqueen]

Hi, I am a straight married woman with 2 kids. We were in Disney over Gay Days with my family and some exteneded family. I think the people who are hostile are doing nothing but being rude and drawing attention to themselves. We obviously saw many gay couples and families...but we also saw many straight couples and families. My DD is only 1 so she didn't even notice anything at all. My DS is 4...guess what...he didn't either! We saw people holding hands...but straight, gay, mom and kid, dad and kid, you get the picture. My kids don't even notice anything because it is no big deal for us. Although...I am a music teacher and a more liberal kind of person. I just don't understand why anyone would act rude.

One funny thing we did see. There was a woman who had a tattoo on her chest that said "I am attracted to women." I thought that was very funny. I would never get any tattoo...anywhere (I am a total wimp...I still cry at 30 over shots.) I know that was off topic...but I just wanted to share. I told my DH that I wanted him to get a tattoo that said "I am attracted to my wife." LOL

Have a great day everyone. I hope you didn't get any bad looks, if you did I hope you don't take it to personally.

 

[ConcKahuna]

I told my DH that I wanted him to get a tattoo that said "I am attracted to my wife." LOL

RFLMAO!! That would be great!

 

[Am_I_There_Yet]

Hi, I am a straight married woman with 2 kids. We were in Disney over Gay Days with my family and some exteneded family. I think the people who are hostile are doing nothing but being rude and drawing attention to themselves. We obviously saw many gay couples and families...but we also saw many straight couples and families. My DD is only 1 so she didn't even notice anything at all. My DS is 4...guess what...he didn't either! We saw people holding hands...but straight, gay, mom and kid, dad and kid, you get the picture. My kids don't even notice anything because it is no big deal for us. Although...I am a music teacher and a more liberal kind of person. I just don't understand why anyone would act rude.

One funny thing we did see. There was a woman who had a tattoo on her chest that said "I am attracted to women." I thought that was very funny. I would never get any tattoo...anywhere (I am a total wimp...I still cry at 30 over shots.) I know that was off topic...but I just wanted to share. I told my DH that I wanted him to get a tattoo that said "I am attracted to my wife." LOL

Have a great day everyone. I hope you didn't get any bad looks, if you did I hope you don't take it to personally.

I posted awhile back about my step-daughter and how we should approach explaining things to her during that week.

You know what we had to do? A whole bunch of nothing.

She didn't notice a thing and we were at the MK that Saturday. I saw some t-shirts that left a little to be desired (and I'm very liberal), but other than that, I noticed a lot of people, both gay and otherwise, having fun.

I would go again during that week, in a heartbeat. But keep the bigots away! It was cool being at the MK on a Saturday and having all the rides practically a walk-on!

 

[lillielil]

This is why this country is going straight to hell.

I sincerely hope that was a failed attempt at humor.

 

[Viki]

Vicki,

Shouldn't that be...
"Ye be warned...ARRRGGGHHHH!!"

Sorry, couldn't resist, my bad...
Love ya mean it!

Where are my whips ... I know I had them someplace .... oh, wait, here they ... are!!!

 

[olbear]

that;s our girl!!

 

[savannahjean85]

I went a few years back on gay day with my best friend April. I'm straight but most of my friends are gay except April. To start with me and April call each other hetro lifemates, we are close having no problem to hold hands or hugging we're just close. April's mom is gay and we're both very proud of her mom and love her. In fact it was April's mom who sent us as a graduation present. In Epcot, MGM, and Animal Kingdom we didn't ever any rude comments. Magical Kingdom was where we did hear some rude comments about all the gay couples, while standing in line in tomorrow land. I knew it was hurting April and she wasn't going to say anything, trying to be the bigger person. But finally while in line for the Astro Orbiter there were some teenage boys picking on one of their friends because he had on a red shirt (the Gay Days shirt was red that year), the boy went on to proclaim that he wasn't gay and "boy if someone to hit on me..." I lost it; I turned around and informed him that just as straight girls have standards that so gay guys and that just as not all straight girls found him attractive that neither would all gay guys, that he and his friends had nothing to worry about from what I could see. He and his friends didn't say anything after that. April reached over and grabbed my hand and held it until we got on the ride. All I could think was that if April's mom or any of my other friends were with me that I wouldn't want them to have to listen to such hate. After that we went to the other parts of the park and didn't have any problems.

 

[dkostel]

I've never experienced any anti gay hostility from guests or CMs. My exGF & I used to take my niece frequently. Once when she was 7 or so, she had made friends with another little girl at the CR pool. I struck up a conversation with her mom who was from Chicago as well. My GF came over & I got up to get a drink & the woman says to her something like, "I was just talking to, I'm sorry I forgot your friend's name...." well my niece jumps in with they are girlfriends, not friends, girrrlllllll friends. The lady about died, she was all apologetic, saying she doesn't assume anything about anyone, etc. etc. Once my girlfriend could stop laughing & speak, she told her that my niece is our biggest advocate and she had absolutely nothing to apologize about. She invited us all to her MK view room to watch the fireworks that night.
To be honest I'm sure that if anyone ever did make a disparaging remark about gays in front of my niece, she'd make them think twice about giving voice to their ignorance in the future.
Just this weekend she was plotting, out loud, how to get me hooked up with Ellen. She was saying how she just loves her and her show and that we should get married. This was from a 13 year old in line in a crowded waterpark, among a bunch of teenagers. She's awesome

 

[easleygrls]

Once when she was 7 or so, she had made friends with another little girl at the CR pool.

I already posted that the CMs were great, but this last post reminded me of a couple of positive experiences we had with other vacationers too.

We were waiting in line at MGM for GMR next to a mom, a teenaged girl and a girl about DD's age. The mom struck up a conversation with DP when she noticed the Costa Rica T-shirt she was wearing. So naturally DD and the little girl started chatting too (it was a long wait). I heard DD say "Actually, both of them are my Moms, I have two". The Mom and teenager kind of raised an eyebrow, but then went back to talking about Costa Rica with DP. They even made sure we sat on the same row as them when it was finally our turn.

Then later that night on the bus back to the hotel, DD struck up another conversation with a girl who was interested in her BBB hairdo. Somehow the two Mom thing came up again. The girl said "You don't even have a Dad?" and DD said "Well I do have two Grandfathers and lots of Uncles." The Mom, who hadn't really said anything the whole ride, said goodbye to us all when we got off the bus.

 

[Kat77]

You know what we had to do? A whole bunch of nothing.

She didn't notice a thing and we were at the MK that Saturday.

From experience, I suspected that would happen... we attended gay day at Six Flags once and even my DH did not notice. When I laughed about someones shirt ("I'm not gay... my boyfriend is") my silly dh says "wow, there are a lot of gay couples here today", it took me a minute before I asked IF he even realised it was gay day?!

 

[ConcKahuna]

From experience, I suspected that would happen... we attended gay day at Six Flags once and even my DH did not notice. When I laughed about someones shirt ("I'm not gay... my boyfriend is") my silly dh says "wow, there are a lot of gay couples here today", it took me a minute before I asked IF he even realised it was gay day?!

LOL That kind of thing cracks me up. At those gay events you get 3 types of straight men:

Mr. Oblivious. He doesnt know anything is going on and doesn't care.

Mr. If-I-Didn't-Like-Girls-I'd-Be-Gay. Normally with his girlfriend and thier gaggle of gay friends.

Mr. Super-Macho. He normally has a death grip on his girlfriend/wife as if he is afraid he'll get assimilated into the gay crowd if he gets to far. This is also the type that will normally make snide comments at every chance.