Anyone else feel "sad" when their adult children move out of their hometown?

[BC]

not sure if previous response went thru...

 

[azgal81]

I don't see why you would get flamed for this I think every parent is sad when there kids move away from them.

I also moved away from my parents about 3000 miles away my brother lives about 3 hours away from them. I think in the back of there minds they always knew we wouldn't stick around forever and eventually we would move on. Yes it will be a huge adjustment for you and her not having her around so much but this is what you raised her for to be strong, independent and able to move out on her own!

 

[BC]

I absolutely do want her to be strong and independent. Being an only child, I will not always be here and with no siblings, I take comfort in knowing she is self sufficient. I probably am doing her an injustice now since she has been staying with me, I do all her laundry when I do mine and lots of other things for her. Don't get me wrong, she does not ask me to, I just want to do it for her. I guess I have always mothered a bit too much!

 

[Snowysmom]

I do sympathize with you. I cry when my older son goes to college each Fall, I can't imagine how I would feel if he moved away. It does sound like she has a great opportunity and you must be proud of her. Meanwhile, you can e-mail, phone, IM, and best of all, visit. You never know when another opportunity will come up to take her closer to home. Take care.

 

[iggbees]

i moved 4 hours away from my parents when i went to college. my dad was definitely more upset than my mom was (she went 3 hours away to college as well, my dad on the other hand went 10 min away to college and commuted every day). after college finished, i moved home because i hadn't gotten a job yet. i worked for the same company my dad did for 3 months, i was a technician for him in his lab and it was great. at the end of my stint, i ended up moving back up to the area i went to college in to be with my boyfriend (who is a grad student at umass) and to take classes there. i ended up getting a job there instead and i've been there since last fall. i'm trying to figure out what i'm going to be doing with my life for the next couple of years. i'm applying to grad school this fall (as long as i take my gres finally) and i'm hoping i'll be able to get in somewhere. i'll still be far from my parents, i'm pretty sure, but i feel like this is something i need to do for myself right now. some day i want to move back closer to them, especially if i have children, because i think it's so important to be close to family when children are growing up.

my sister is going 4 hours away to school just like me, except in the other direction. i went north she went south.

i'm constantly on the phone, iming, and video conferencing with my parents. so i talk to them all the time. i'm also very lucky that i get to see them quite often.

 

[BC]

I get on the computer every day, but unfortunately my daughter is not as anxious to check her emails as I am. Maybe she will do better about it when she is alone. Also, her cell has text messaging, so maybe I will get that on mine also. Just when she thinks she is rid of me, I'll pop up somewhere!
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