Anybody here grow up in a Nanny 911 type household?

[KATIESMOMMY]

I am the second of 6- 3 females, 3 males all 2 yrs apart give or take a month. I tell you what--my mother would have smacked the juice out of our months or whipped our hineys if we acted like those kids! Don't get me wrong, it wasn't like we were smacked around or beat on, but we had a healthy fear of our parents and alot of respect. We are now all in our 30's and are doing pretty good for ourselves-5 are college grads and the baby--well--- we won't go there.lol

 

[golfgal]

I know of a few families where the kids rule the roost. I had one neighbor that it got to the point I just couldn't go over to her house anymore because her boys were so badly behaved I couldn't stand it. Her boys would constantly interupt our conversations, demanding that mom do this or that for them NOW, they would whine, cry, throw temeper tantrums if mom didn't act fast enough for their liking. One of the boys threw the biggest tantrum I have ever seen at his sister's First Communion party because he wanted to sit in a chair that someone else had. It went on for at least an hour. Did mom or dad do anything, no, they tried to "discuss his feelings" while he was being a total monster. Oh, and these kids are in 8th grade and 5th grade, they aren't toddlers.

 

[chobie]

Oh no. Absoluetly not. If one has a child it is a requirement to be a charter member of the Practically Perfect Parents to post on the DIS.

. My children's behavior is great too, despite my having taught them to be politically correct and allowing them to play on non-competitive sports teams .

 

[Papa Deuce]

. My children's behavior is great too, despite my having taught them to be politically correct and allowing them to play on non-competitive sports teams .

Funny. But maybe all that bad parenting will catch up with you.

 

[4greatboys]

I was actually starting to think to those shows were staged because I just couldnt imagine that type of behavior going on.
Now my kids have had their fair share of being bad and having smart mouths but there is no way I would tolerate one of them spitting in my face or shooting the finger at me.

 

[meandtheguys2]

Never trust anyone who says their children never need discipline! I remember a poster on the DB saying his daughter never did. That is not normal!

All kids act up on occasion.
All kids need structure, boundaries and discipline.
All kids at some point push those boundaries!
All households have time periods of "unrest!"
There are NO quick fixes.

twinscandc, you have all of my respect. We had those kids in residential, and then would keep them for years in aftercare. You are right, some make it, some don't. I couldn't go back into that area of family work. I don't have the patience anymore.

 

[MamaLema]

No way in heck! That's just ridiculous. I'm pretty strict with my boys and it's hard but I see them growing up to be fine young men and I'm proud of myself

 

[disneygals]

I have 3 great kids, but they're not perfect and neither am I. There have definitely been some psycho moments. Every kid has a different temperament and some are more difficult than others.

Papa Deuce...not trying to start anything, but ages 1-3 can be the golden years. When my oldest turned 4, I was ready to trade her in. I remember my sister saying when her dd was 4, OMG I didn't think I'd get that look until she was 14! Every year poses challenges, so until my kids are 30, I'm not claiming that I did a fab job!

 

[meandtheguys2]

I have 3 great kids, but they're not perfect and neither am I. There have definitely been some psycho moments. Every kid has a different temperament and some are more difficult than others.

Papa Deuce...not trying to start anything, but ages 1-3 can be the golden years. When my oldest turned 4, I was ready to trade her in. I remember my sister saying when her dd was 4, OMG I didn't think I'd get that look until she was 14! Every year poses challenges, so until my kids are 30, I'm not claiming that I did a fab job!

Terrible two's were a piece of cake compared to the 4's!

 

[Papa Deuce]

I have 3 great kids, but they're not perfect and neither am I. There have definitely been some psycho moments. Every kid has a different temperament and some are more difficult than others.

Papa Deuce...not trying to start anything, but ages 1-3 can be the golden years. When my oldest turned 4, I was ready to trade her in. I remember my sister saying when her dd was 4, OMG I didn't think I'd get that look until she was 14! Every year poses challenges, so until my kids are 30, I'm not claiming that I did a fab job!

We'll see, and contrary to what some posters here might think, I am not bragging about my kids. I'm THANKFUL that I have been fortunate so far. I also know that we spend lots of time working at keeping them the way they are. And, like I said, we seem to mimic the Nanny's style, so apparently it works.


I watch the show just to learn, not for entertainment value.

 

[robinb]

Terrible two's were a piece of cake compared to the 4's!

Luckily, 5 has been better. I think it's the structure of Kindergarten that helps. We still have "moments" and my DD has always been a challenging child (in more ways than one ). It's not all bad, though. Those same personality traits that make me crazy now will make her a stronger, more confident woman. Who knows exactly what she wants .

 

[meandtheguys2]

Luckily, 5 has been better. I think it's the structure of Kindergarten that helps. We still have "moments" and my DD has always been a challenging child (in more ways than one ). It's not all bad, though. Those same personality traits that make me crazy now will make her a stronger, more confident woman. Who knows exactly what she wants .

That is my niece in a nutshell. When she was little she would look thunderclouds at you, but was well-disciplined. Her folks did an awesome job at channeling that stubborness for the positive. She is still opinionated, LOL, but she is an awesome young woman.

I have one similar, and I just hope that I can do as well!

 

[skiwee1]

Funny. But maybe all that bad parenting will catch up with you.

Off topic but had to ask. What is that nasty concoction in the photo on your post. Looks like something from Fear Factor!

 

[skiwee1]

We'll see, and contrary to what some posters here might think, I am not bragging about my kids. I'm THANKFUL that I have been fortunate so far. I also know that we spend lots of time working at keeping them the way they are. And, like I said, we seem to mimic the Nanny's style, so apparently it works.


I watch the show just to learn, not for entertainment value.

Believe me, they are YOUNG. To even think one has it made at this age is truly fooling themselves! I have 3 kids ages 6, 16, and 22. They were all angels when they were little. Such cute kids and well behaved to boot! When the oldest hit the teens all I can say is Oh my!

 

[Missy1961]

That is my niece in a nutshell. When she was little she would look thunderclouds at you, but was well-disciplined. Her folks did an awesome job at channeling that stubborness for the positive. She is still opinionated, LOL, but she is an awesome young woman.

I have one similar, and I just hope that I can do as well!

One of my nieces is like that too. She was always well behaved in public, but her parents & her aunt got the looks and the back talk. But now, she is a total joy to be with. Smart, funny, and well behaved everywhere. Of course, she has moments, but like you both said, we know that it will make her a strong confident woman. And great timing, too! Her 2 1/2 yr old sister is feeling her oats, and her big sister can calm her down in a minute.

 

[ely3857]

Hello,

Good lord! No way would I have gotten away with behaving like these kids do!

I hate to say it but I do agree with people who 'blame it on the parents'

The similar shows here in the uk really focus on how a parent reacts to a naughty child and then makes them readdress their own behavior and in turn this reflects well in the child.



Jodie

 

[pirateofthecarolinas]

No, my mother used a "switch" on us. We wouldn't dare!

 

[cheyita]

I completely agree that parents need to be firm - maybe not like the parents of previous generations, but still firm in our own way. Kids definitely need boundaries and consistency.

In a few cases, though, there is obviously more going on. The previous poster who said there was a coworker who needs Nanny 911 and the child was threatening the mother and threatening suicide - unfortunately the mental illness issues the mother may be suffering from may have also been passed down. It's horrible to watch children who have real issues going on that cannot simply be handled by strict discipline. While I don't think *most* unruly kids fall into this category, it is something to keep in mind when seeing children acting up - some are struggling with anger management, bipolarity, etc.

 

[Tea Please]

My "kids" are now young adults and let me tell you, we had our share of Nanny911 moments in the younger years. Nothing quite as extreme nor was it an everyday occurrece, but certainly they acted out on occasion. I think or should I say thought all kids did at one time or another. hmm but than I come here and find I was wrong.

It's amazing that all the kids of the DIS are so well behaved Must be something in the water.


I'm glad that my children are raised and both will be in college next year, because I fear if I had little ones and posted here, I would feel totally inadequate next to most of your superb parenting skills.

 

[SillyMe]

There was one time when my dd (who was about 2 or 3 at the time) knocked over an entire rack of clothing in JCPenney because she was throwing a temper tantrum (she was very tired). We had our pictures taken and she was a complete angel. After we left the studio, my oldest dd and I went to the ladies room. DFi waited in the store w/ youngest dd. While my oldest dd and I were in the ladies room, my youngest decided to throw a fit thinking her dad would take her out of the stroller. She scooted down as low as possible in the stroller so her feet touched the floor and started walking (still strapped in the stroller) across the floor. My DFi thought he'd let her go & she'd stop. Wrong. She ran into a clothing rack and knocked the whole thing over. When I came out of the restroom there were 3 employees picking the rack back up. My DFi was soooo embarrassed...not to mention even more upset w/ dd than he was before that.

My kids are nowhere near like those kids on Nanny 911, but yes, my dd has thrown a temper tantrum in public with everyone standing around staring and probably whispering about how bad she was. She has not done it since, but I'm sure to all those strangers in the mall that day...we were terrible parents and had a brat for a child that we couldn't control.