Anybody have a short DD?

[Brier Rose]

My DD is 14..will be 15 in Oct., and she is only 4'10. She had cancer when she was a baby, and had some kidney damage from the chemo and radiation, so we've always known she most likely wouldn't grow to her full height.

It's something she's always noticed , but hasn't been upset about, until today!

We stopped by my sister's office today, and this stupid woman just kept going on and on and on about how short she is!

And this woman KNOWS her history! DD just had this look on her face...OMG..I knew I was gonna start crying again.

She just looked devestated. The other ladies in the office started to get uncomfortable, and just kept commenting on how beautiful they think DD is, how pretty her hair is..etc.

This is SOOO not the right age to be hearing this kind of stuff! DD has always been very strong, and even though I know it hurt her feelings, she'll get over it.

I'm the one with the broken heart!

So what age do girls stop growing anyway???

 

[Pooh67_68]

Just tell yourself that big things come in small packages. My sister is 37 and is only 4'10" and it has never stoped her.


Sounds like the woman could use a course in keeping her mouth closed.

 

[Mom21]

Well if that is your dd in the pics, I say her gorgeous features work well with a petite frame. And that hair.....I would kill for that. She is beautiful.

 

[ChrisnSteph]

I'm 31 and I'm barely 5'. I don't like being short, but what can you do? I can get away with high heels though! My dd is going to be very short and petite like me. Could you buy her shoes with a bigger sole or heel so that it gives her a little height? There are alot of cute sandals out right now with bigger heels. Maybe that will help give her self-esteem a boost.

 

[EthansMom]

My DD is 2 years old and continues to be in the 10th percentile for height. If she's just sitting in a grocery cart being quiet people assume that DD is only 1 because of her size. But DD takes after MIL in looks and MIL is only 5'1" tall.

Honestly, I think it's easier for a girl to be smaller than to be larger. I've been thankful that DS is large and DD is small and not the other way round. I would think it would be easier for a girl who is 4'10" to find a date to school dances than if she were 6'5".

to your daughter. Please remind her that there are insensitive people in the world, but most of us are not so rude.

 

[AuntieM03]

My mom would tell people she was 5', but she wasn't quite. She was small but packed a powerful wallop. Hopefully your daughter will learn you can be a mighty woman at any size.

 

[DVC Jen]

Maybe next time your sister decided to go off on your DDs height you should tell her.."well you are right she is not the tallest person in the world, but she is kind, considerate, thoughtful, that is what is important not her height AND I am proud of her. I wish more people in this world were as considerater and thoughtful of others feelings as she is."

BTW.. I am 39 and 4ft 11.

It really isn't an issue unless ya let it be. Hug her for me.

 

[Arielle22]

My older dd has always been in the 10th percentile. She is almost 13 (in late July) and I still don't let her sit in the front seat with the airbags. Worse is that my younger dd is in the 85 percentile so since about 5 and 7 yrs old, my younger is bigger than the older dd.

I think older dd is a throwback to my grandmother and grandmother in law's genes. Both were very small and petite ladies.

My older dd can still wear size 10 and she is very annoyed that she cannot find more stylish clothes while younger dd is appalled that I suggested she will be shopping in juniors soon.

I know I have been my height (5'5") since 8th grade. My mom bought my high school uniform extra long since I would grow and it didn't happen.

 

[Crankyshank]

Your daughter is absolutely gorgeous. Try to focus on the positive things about being petite with her and maybe get her some great shoes with a heel.

I can tell you it's no picnic being tall. I'm just a hair under 5'9 and I feel like an Amazon most of the time because I tower over so many people in my day to day experience and that's while wearing flats. and it was so hard finding guys taller than I was when I was your DD's age. and the tall ones seemed to prefer the tiny girls. I would love to be petite but there's nothing tiny about me.

 

[Hannathy]

My DD is 2 months younger than yours and she just in the last wk or so is very proud that she is a bit taller(like 1/8 th inch) than me at 5 foot. The only thing she has ever hated about being short was not being able to ride the rides at Disney. When she reads about these kids on here going on things at 3 and 4 she gets mad 'cause she was 6 or so before she made even TOT. She says she actually likes it because it makes her stand out and be remembered at school and stuff. I would ask her but she is at softball practice-made the school team so being short is ok.

 

[Brier Rose]

Maybe next time your sister decided to go off on your DDs height you should tell her.."well you are right she is not the tallest person in the world, but she is kind, considerate, thoughtful, that is what is important not her height AND I am proud of her. I wish more people in this world were as considerater and thoughtful of others feelings as she is."

BTW.. I am 39 and 4ft 11.

It really isn't an issue unless ya let it be. Hug her for me.

It wasn't my sister, it was a woman in her office. My Dsis would NEVER say anything like that, and she was quite mad at her "friend".

I agree that it will be MUCH easier for her being short, than it would be for a boy.
Her brother is almost as tall as she is, and he's only 7! DH is 6'4 though, and I'm only 5'4.

I have pointed out that at least she has the option of heels, and look how lucky we are to have an excuse to go shopping!
The girl has a thing for shoes, so I'm sure this will help ease the pain!

 

[edcrbnsoul]

I have friend who DD is 5'2" and getting out of High school this year.
She would hear comments from time to time and my freind would tell her afterwards that those people were the "small" ones.


P.S.
She just got accepted to Disney's College Program, she is a certified life guard and is going down to Disney with that in mind, but she is thinking because of her size she may get asked to be a "freind" of the Characters.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

My dd is on growth hormone for height/weight. She started at age 6. Prior to that it was awful. People are very insensitive when it comes to a kid's height.
That includes relatives and peers. Been there too....
{{{HUGS}}}

 

[luvwinnie]

Is that her with the gorgeous curls in your pic? SHe is soooo pretty...tell her what she lacks in height God made up for in her cuteness!

 

[Becky2005]

My DD is on the short side. Although she is starting to grow a little more (either that or all her pants are shrinking!). We just measured her because we might be going to Great America this summer with Girl Scouts. I wanted to see if she had hit the 54" mark yet - she's somewhere between 54.5" & 55" (which makes her about 4'5"). She's 12! According to the doc. if she stays on course, she will be 5' 2" fully grown.

Most people think she's about 8 or 9! She's a gymnast though and we just keep telling her it will work to her favor being short when she hits high school.

It doesn't bother her *too* much in general but we do get the comments - nothing over the top though like you experienced (that was just rude!), we just learn to adjust as necessary.

My boys are taller (and as another poster said, I'm just thankful the boys got the tall genes as opposed to the short genes! One will be 6' 4" if he keeps up)...this only makes it bad since her 9 year old brother is about only an inch shorter than she is. When they were little people would ask me if they were twins! Usually got rather shocked reactions when I would tell them there is a 3 year difference.

 

[golfgal]

Girls typically stop growing by about 3 years after they get their period according to most medical information. Of course some will stop sooner and others later. I had my last growth spurt between 9th and 10th grade, about 3 or 4 inches that summer. I am 5' 4" and I thought I was tall growing up because I was so much taller then all my sisters, mom, grandma, etc., none of whom are over 5". The favorite saying at our house growing up is "well, at least my legs are long enough to touch the ground". It always took people a long time to figure that one out.

My DS13 is the SMALLEST kid in the entire junior high, boys and girls. He has some growth delay issues but should be about 6' when he is done growing. DH was the same way, 5'4" when he graduated from high school and is now 6' tall. His nickname all through high school, Peanut. Nice nickname for a boy, huh! Well he turned out ok anyway.

 

[ilovepcot]

My daughter is grown and is only 4'8" tall. Problems, lots of problems.

 

[doxdogy]

I am so sorry you are so upset. Hopefully, someone will say something to this person. My brother's ex-wife is only 4' 10". My DD is about five feet tall and I am only 5' 2". Just remind her that great things come in little packages. I always tell people that I am not short. I am just built close to the ground or under tall.

 

[babytrees]

My DD is 14..will be 15 in Oct., and she is only 4'10. She had cancer when she was a baby, and had some kidney damage from the chemo and radiation, so we've always known she most likely wouldn't grow to her full height.

It's something she's always noticed , but hasn't been upset about, until today!

We stopped by my sister's office today, and this stupid woman just kept going on and on and on about how short she is!

And this woman KNOWS her history! DD just had this look on her face...OMG..I knew I was gonna start crying again.

She just looked devestated. The other ladies in the office started to get uncomfortable, and just kept commenting on how beautiful they think DD is, how pretty her hair is..etc.

This is SOOO not the right age to be hearing this kind of stuff! DD has always been very strong, and even though I know it hurt her feelings, she'll get over it.

I'm the one with the broken heart!

So what age do girls stop growing anyway???

She's beautiful and that woman needs her mouth washed out with soap. She has obviously not listened to Thumper, "If you can't say something nice, don't say nothing at all."

A couple of weeks ago my 13 almost 14 yo daughter came home and said I figure I've got about another year of growing....I asked how she knew that. Seems in one of her classes they discussed that girls, on average, continue growing up to 3 years after they get their first period. My oldest was happy....seems she's getting grief for just being over 5'.

 

[Talking Hands]

I'm only 4'8", my Mom was 4'11" and my aunt 4"6". I took after my aunt but Mom wasn't really that much taller. I have learned to live with being short although it is a bit disconcerting having a kindergarden student who is taller than I.
Your daughter is beautiful. Some things will be difficult. Finding clothes and shoes as a adult. I recommend she learn to sew as everything will need to be hemmed. I can still wear children's shoes and do at times. Heels are hard to find (with arthritis I can't really wear them anymore).
Tell her to enjoy her petiteness. She will neverhave to worry about being taller than her date.