Any other DISers trying to concieve? Reread OP for the QOTD!

[KristineN]

It depends...if they do a 3 day transfer, they will do 3. A 5 day transfer they will do 2. This practice prefers 5 days transfers. I am praying that they do well enough to go for the 5 day.

Kristine that's wonderful!!!!!

Do you know how many the doctor is willing to transfer?

 

[skuttle]

Kristine, that is great news!

Elaine..Yes, I had to fast. I couldn't eat after midnight and they said I could drink water that morning. After I started the test, I couldn't eat or drink anything...not even water, gum, or mints. I think the combo of the nasty glucose drink and the lack of any type of food got to me. Plus, the temp here has been reaching records of over 100 (today was 102, but the heat index was 105! I can't recall it ever getting that hot here!).

 

[Tasha+Scott]

Kristine, that is awesome!

Allison~ I know what you mean about the heat. It is really, really hot here this week. It was 105 on Friday (not counting the heat index) and it was 103 today. I saw a couple of women who were about 9 months pregnant on Friday and I felt for them. I can not imagine how uncomfortable it would be to be 9 months along in 105 (around 110 or higher with the heat index) degree weather! Yikes!

Okay, it is possible that we timed it right after all, based on some of the stuff I've been researching so now I can say I am definitely in the 2ww. It may not have been our month and I'll be okay with that this go around but man, the waiting is really hard! I'm already growing impatient and I'm not due for AF till around the 24th!

 

[momsully]

Sorry I've been MIA for awhile. Life gets in the way of the DIS but I have been reading.

Kristine - Glad to hear retrieval went well. Good luck with the next steps!

Chelle - NO AF!

Allison - I hope the blood tests show you something. I know for me at least with the metformin I feel like I am doing something.

I know I am missing alot of folks but I really just wanted to pop in and let everyone know I was thinking of them.

My mom was here for the weekend and we went to see The Little Mermaid this afternoon. They are doing a trial run in Denver before it goes to NY this winter. I thought it was fantastic. My boys actually liked it better than The Lion King.

Have a great week everyone. I will try to get online more often!

 

[vetrik]

Thanks ladies for your advice. I have been bouncing back and forth between I will never want kids to hmmmm......and I think alot of never wanting kids is the fear. I am the type of person that over analyizes everything to death trying to think of every possible problem and possible solutions to everything. I over think things. way way over think things.

But I also guess the polite thing to do is also introduce myself. I'm Elizabeth or Liz is fine too. I will be 27 in October and my DH just turned 27. In November it will be 3 1/2 years for us, but we have known each other for almost 7 years. Wow! We just bought a house New Years weekend so we have only been in it for 8 mos and it's only 3 bedrooms our, a guest room and my crafts room. We have discussed having a baby some and I haven't said anything to my dh yet about whether we are willing to consider it yet. When we moved into the house we both said that we wanted time together that it was still just "us" and no kids. Now I am going what?! Will there really be that much of a difference? (You know how when you first get married and you say no children for awhile because you want it to be just us-that's what I am talking about) but I was on some crazy BC earlier this year and I was skipping periods all the time and between one of us we would always be a little bummed when we realized that nope it was just the crazy pills again. So then all the little what ifs are starting to creep in-are we going to have enough money? This is the big one!!!! We don't have alot extra but we are doing very well for our age. We would also have to seriously consider getting a different (bigger) car we already have 2 car payments and several more years to pay on both. But there is no way to LARGE dogs and a baby will fit into a G6. Plus right now my vacation time at work is terrible-after next October (2008) I will start getting more time. So I was thinking, that If my hubby agrees I have an obgyn appoint at the end of the year getting they ok from her (everyone here said that they did before they began ttc I would have never even considered it) get a script just in case, and start trying next year and see what happens.

Oh wow, I didn't mean to go off on a diatribe, my bad! I just am contemplating and wow it's tough and REALLY REALLY SCARY and there are so many decisions and I am just stuck and maybe that is a sign that now isn't the time? Or am I just way way WAY over thinking it at this point?

Wow...your post is scary to me! We could almost be twins. I'm Liz...I'll be 27 in November, DH is 28. We were married 3 years in May, and we've been together 7 1/2 years. We bought our house in April of 06, so we've been here almost a year and a half. My DH is really anxious to have a baby, he doesn't want to be an "old dad". I, on the other hand, am completely and totally petrified. I still feel way too young! I'm not a "mom"! However, I've recently had a few moments of thinking, "oh, it might be fun to have kids". Also, to be honest, I'm on bc but I've gotten very lax about it. I guess at this point I wouldn't be surprised if I did end up pregnant because we're nowhere near "perfect use" (I would still be completely panicked though!). I guess right now our plan it to start trying around next May (our 4th anniversary) - this terrifies me to actually say, I have not told anyone! I worry a lot financially, daycare is insanely expensive, and we still have so much we want to do the house. Oh well, everyone says that you have to take the leap sometime.

I don't know how it is for you, but none of my close friends are having babies now, or anytime soon. When I have a baby, I'm afraid I'll lose them because I'll be the one that doesn't want to be away from my baby, or only talks about the baby, or needs a babysitter to do anything. Getting married was fine - even though we got married before any of them, it didn't really change the way I was already living my life - they are all married now and it's fine. Having a baby though, would move me into a completely different phase of life. I also worry that I don't know anyone having kids - there are absolutely no kids in either of our families. Who would we have playdates with? I work with a woman whose 2 best friends and a close neighbor all had babies in the same year - I don't have that! I also work right now a job with awful hours that is not very accommodating to parental obligations - I worry about potential guilt where I can't parent or work to my best at either, and that my career will begin to suffer. I've seen it happen to other women when they can no longer stay late or come in early, they are out more often, etc.

Has anyone ever had a feeling before they even started trying that they might not be able to get pregnant? That's a big fear of mine - my grandmother had some fertility issues (which is why my mother decided to have me when she was 23), and not to get too specific, but I'm kind of surprised that I've never even really had a scare before despite a few years of not being as cautious as I should. I know I'll never know until I try, but I'm not sure if that's a common thought!

Arrrg!!! Can you tell I'm conflicted??!!

 

[TinkerChelle]

Good Morning Ladies! Happy Monday!

Happy Eggy Dance to you Kristine! Good luck with the transfer. My thoughts and prayers are with you!

Kristy, Hope you hear from your doctor today! Good luck with the phone call.

Allison, Glad you have an attack plan now and hope your results of your glucose test are good.

Rebecca, have a safe trip!

Thanks everybody for the NO AF Chant!!! As of right this second no AF. Today is day #28. I felt a little crampy this morning, so I think she may rear her nasty head. Every twinge, heartbeat or sneeze...and I think it is AF. LOL!!! If there wasn't a possiblity of being pregnant, I might need a tranquilizer.

 

[2bemarried]

morning all...

Tasha I'll keep my fingers crossed that this is your month...even if you weren't trying.

Vetrik welcome to the group.

Sully hope you have a good week!

Chelle I'm still saying the no AF chant for you

No phone call from the doctor yet. If she hasn't called by 3 I'll call her. I'm almost scared to call. What if she says no more ivf's?

 

[KristineN]

Kristy...I can't imagine why the wouldn't do another IVF!! Maybe just a "recipe change"

 

[KristineN]

UPDATE:

8 of the embryos are doing well....1 is behind but not out of the game. I have been scheduled for a 5 day transfer (Thursday) I will get a call on Wed. to tell me the time. I am soooooo excited ...and slightly freaking out!!

 

[fanofdisney]

Kristine I hope that is a good sign for you! Baby dust!

Tasha, I'm just as inpatient as you! I miscarried 2 weeks ago, and I'm already overly eager to try again! I just don't know when my cycles will start again.

vetrik, not having a pregnancy scare has nothing to do with your fertility! That fear has always been in me as well. I've had problems, but fortunately I'm able to conceive. As hard as it is, try to stay relaxed about it.

Kristy- I hope you are able to do ivf again! Keep us posted!

It's hotter than you know what here as well! It's been in the high 90s for several days. Nobody in the neighborhood comes outside until it starts getting dark! Dh keeps saying he wants to go back to Disney, but I say no until it cools off! We went the 1st week of December last week and it was perfect!

I'm still awaiting the return of af after my mc 2 weeks ago. I have a follow up appt this week, and one at the end of the month. The good news is they don't see any reason why I can't start trying again after my cycles return. Hopefully soon!

TTYL!

 

[2bemarried]

VENT TIME:

I'm FURIOUS!!!! I didn't receive a call from my doctor today. So I called and spoke with my nurse. The doctor is OUT OF TOWN!!! Since she is the primary doctor on my case no one else can discuss next steps with me.

I don't think I can even begin to express how furious, pissed off and aggravated I am.

 

[TinkerChelle]

Kristy: Holy Crap!! Is she gone all week? I would be furious, too. They should have told you that last weekend when you called to ask what the next step was. I am so sorry you are going to have to wait!

 

[KristineN]

You have got to be freaking kidding??!! I think my head would blow off my shoulders!!!!

I'm sorry! That is awful! You have every right to be mad...really mad!

How long is she out of town?

 

[2bemarried]

Yup...gone all week. The nurse suggested that I call tomorrow and make an appt with my doctor. That pissed me off even more. I tried to do that last week and they told me I would be hearing from her after the staff meeting.

I'm seriously considering switching clinics. DH thinks I'm over-reacting but I'm furious.

 

[stitchntiggertoo]

I don't know how it is for you, but none of my close friends are having babies now, or anytime soon. When I have a baby, I'm afraid I'll lose them because I'll be the one that doesn't want to be away from my baby, or only talks about the baby, or needs a babysitter to do anything. Getting married was fine - even though we got married before any of them, it didn't really change the way I was already living my life - they are all married now and it's fine. Having a baby though, would move me into a completely different phase of life. I also worry that I don't know anyone having kids - there are absolutely no kids in either of our families. Who would we have playdates with? I work with a woman whose 2 best friends and a close neighbor all had babies in the same year - I don't have that! I also work right now a job with awful hours that is not very accommodating to parental obligations - I worry about potential guilt where I can't parent or work to my best at either, and that my career will begin to suffer. I've seen it happen to other women when they can no longer stay late or come in early, they are out more often, etc.

Arrrg!!! Can you tell I'm conflicted??!![/QUOTE]

LOL! i have another twin cool! I hadn't even given friends and all that a thought. I'm in the same position though. My close friends still live where I grew up and no kids in the neighborhood. Well at least we can say for the outlandishly expensive day care there will be something good come out of it...Friends and play dates...well until the go to school.

 

[KristineN]

Kristy, I don't think you are over-acting at all. This is a very specialized field with prices that match. They owe their patients above average communication. Go with your gut.

My doctor actually gave me his email address....so at least if I don't hear from the nurse, or have additional questions, I can always reach him. He has never taken more than a couple of hours to respond to me.

 

[stitchntiggertoo]

Yup...gone all week. The nurse suggested that I call tomorrow and make an appt with my doctor. That pissed me off even more. I tried to do that last week and they told me I would be hearing from her after the staff meeting.

I'm seriously considering switching clinics. DH thinks I'm over-reacting but I'm furious.

Is there any other dr in the clinic you can see?

Since this is a kids roam these boards I will watch my mouth.....that bites the big one!!! Does that work?

Switch clinics. If you aren't happy with them then by all means go. In the past 3 years I have been to 3 different obgyn drs (and that is just for my yearly check up.) I hated the staff and personalities of the people working at the first two. Mainly because what I married, in my 20s and NOT trying to have babies and they keep trying to change my mind and "pressure me." Ummm....excuse me MY decision not yours. So without a doubt your husband doesn't have a say-sorry.

Good luck though, if you call to schedule I would pitch a fit until you get in first thing on Monday.

 

[GypsySue]

Kristy--Dude! I would be pissed too. Not over reacting to switch clinics. That is just rude to leave you hanging like that and on top of the grumpy receptionist. . .I wouldn't blame you one bit!

 

[exwdwcm]

hey guys, sorry i've been MIA, but i have been thinking about you guys! life just got busy (especially at work) and well i am exhuasted all the time (i am anemic again!).

Allison, so glad the appt went well, yuck on the glucose drink, i did that too, no fun. do you feel positive about moving forward with the doc- did they give any idea on your path or are they waiting on results on the b/w?

Kristy- i am so so sorry. i was really hoping this was it for you. and i would be super pissed at the doc. did you use the same clinic for both IVFs? if so, then maybe it is time for a chance anyhow?

Kristine- wow, what great numbers!! i did a 5 day as well. i am praying you have two great blasts for the ET! on the PIO- Nicole gave great advice, i iced the area for 5-10 minutes, DH ran the PIO under warm water to thin it out (goes in easier) and then darted it in fast. i was so numb, i couldn't feel it from the ice. after, i sat on a heating pad for 5 minutes (after rubbing it in). i was extremely lucky and only had to do PIO for like 2 weeks cuz my progesterone was super high (110). but those tricks work wonders.

Tinkerchele, hoping AF stays away!!!

everyone else I missed- hi and lots of baby dust to you!!! i tried to read like all 40 pages i missed, but just couldn't do it. lol

 

[skuttle]

Oh, Kristy, I would be furious as well! I don't think you're over reacting at all to want to switch doctors!! Your dr could have at least mentioned that she would be out of town! In their profession, you would think that they would be a bit more considerate considering how emotional TTC can be!! I say go with your gut!

Kristine, how exciting!! Keeping my fingers crossed for you!

Chelle...NO AF! NO AF! NO AF!

Michelle...My Dr seemed pretty confident that i would fail the test, so we didn't talk much about a path other than the insulin test. She said she normally wouldn't do the insulin test so soon, but with my history she wanted to jump into this one first. She did make a comment that since I did get pregnant in April, even though it was a chemical pregnancy, that I haven't really been trying too long since then even though she knows it feels like years to me. So that kinda bummed me out, but I'm trying not to worry about that until I get the test results back.

So, I have a huge bruise on the arm where nurse #2 took blood once! The other arm, where nurse #1 took blood THREE times is fine! Thank goodness I only had nurse #2 one time!!

vetrik...Welcome to the thread! I was the first of my friends to get married and the first to have a baby as well. None of my friends left me. There are ALWAYS reasons to NOT have kids...never enough money, house always needs work, worried about your career, etc. Having kids really is all about taking a leap of faith. If you think too hard about it, then you'll never have them! Your friends will still be there, you will enjoy spending time away from your baby with just your friends and that does NOT make you a bad parent, you'll find playdates, etc.