Any other DISers trying to concieve? Reread OP for the QOTD!

[AllyandJack]

Welcome, Mandy. I hope you have an easier time with your next birth.

My insurance says 48 hours for regular birth and 96 hours for a c-section. If I choose to leave earlier, they'll send a nurse to my house to check on me. My hospital has 14 private rooms and 2 semi-private rooms that they only use if the 14 privates are full. I'd probably stay if I was in a private room. If not, I'm likely to leave ASAP. I won't sleep anyway with someone else in the room. They have 24 hour lactation consultants and my insurance will pay for it in the hospital or at home (but not both). So, if I have problems when I get home, I can call or go to the hospital, but if I've seen them in the hospital before I went home, they won't pay for them to come to my house. I don't think they'd come anyway since I'm over an hour and a half away from my hospital. I'd probably see someone in the hospital and then find someone closer in the event I had an emergency and needed to see someone to fix a problem that couldn't be fixed over the phone. Not sure what sort of "emergency" would require a meeting with a lactation consultant, but you never know.

Is everyone back to work today? I came in at 5:30am. DH drove me in so I didn't have to drive myself. I have NO PATIENCE in my car anymore.

 

[LisaB]

Good morning all I think that is it mandated ar least 48 hrs for a natural and 96 hrs for a section. But is it 48 full hours. I know you have until midnight of the second day for a regular birth ie if i had Diana naturally I think they would want me out by 12 on the second day. They actually wanted to d/c me on monday taking in to account that Friday was my first day and Diana was born on Friday. I don't think anyone should go home before they are ready. All the rooms at woman and Infants are private. They have a neat thing that they do with the parents an sit down meal in your room with wine and everything.

 

[Maleficent13]

Just wanted to say to everyone and hope you all had a good holiday!

 

[gypsydoodlebug]

Welcome, Mandy. I hope you have an easier time with your next birth.

Thanks very much! You and me both! I had spinal headaches that required a blood patch and a staph infection in my incision, followed by PPD. Not cool.

I'm swearing off all vices as of this morning -- no caffeine, OTC meds and alcohol (although we have a trip to Myrtle Beach coming up with our best friends, she's pregnant so it doesn't matter). Also going to watch what I eat –– I gained 75 lbs. with Bella !! Learned my lesson on that one –– "Whole bags of Cheetos does NOT constitute eating for two."

 

[mickeyboat]

Good morning, everyone!

I hope everyone had a good weekend. I had to work Monday, and my mom went home yesterday. I loved having her here, but someone else in the house really adds a lot of stress, so things were much more relaxed around my house.

I don't start my new job until August 1, but I am busy at work because people are on vacation and I am still trying to leave this place having them all trained to do my job - which is wishful thinking, of course.

Denae

 

[lil mermaid]

Hi everyone,

I know I haven't been around much lately, but I have been super busy!

I hope you all enjoyed the holiday weekend. We had a scare on Sunday - Madeline had a febrile seizure. It was the single most scary moment of my life. I want all of you to read about febrile seizures, so when you are mommies and if it happens to you (and I sincerely hope that it doesn't) you won't be scared out of your mind. Now you will probably be scared anyway, I knew about febrile seizures - had heard stories, and read about them etc. - but all of that went out the window when it actually happened! Still - it would be a good idea to know that the possibility exists. Maddie is fine now and is happy and cute as ever.

Congrats to all of the new Aunties! How cool

Welcome Mandy. I had some PPD with my daughter too - it was really difficult. Now that we know what to look for though, maybe if it happens again it can be nipped in the bud, right? I hope you have a better experience next time, both with the PPD and the other aspects of your delivery.

On the TTC front - I am now 13 DPO. I am NOT testing until I am late. I don't have any tests in the house - if I did, I wouldn't be able to resist .

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Hello all....I am roughly 3DPO .

We'll see how it goes--looking at the month of July--this was our only shot. Even if AF arrives--there won't be enough time for a O day to occur. So if this doesn't work--it will be random acts of BD that coincide with home visits .

 

[7beasley]

Hello ladies...hope everyone had a good 4th!

I had a lot to catch up on this morning as I was away this weekend. Congrats to all the new aunties!

Sounds like everyone is on their paths and chugging away...we are starting to "interview" egg donor agencies this week - I suspect that we will choose our agency based upon where the donor we like is thru. I am hoping to look through the "books" of 4-5 agencies - pick the girl we want to use as our donor and then go with that agency. Let's hope it is as simple as that!

Carla -- thank you so much for your offer re: your eggs. When I read your email I started to cry...people are so thoughtful and generous! Your gift is appreciated but unnecessary...alas - the smallest price in the egg donor project seems to be the egg donor compensation (about $6000) - it appears that even if you show up with your own donor - you still have to pay the coordination fee to an agency (about $5000) and the medical fee to the IVF clinic (about $5000) and then all her labs and meds plus my own meds plus the legal fees....

We are researching home equity lines this week and will try to close on one soon so we will have cash for this endeavor. We have just resigned ourselves to the fact that we are going to have to pay $20,000 for a baby -- we spent alot of the weekend grousing about how unfair it is that we have to pay for something that most people get for free but in the end - I think it will be the best $20,000 we have ever spent!

QUESTION: for those going thru IVF -- I am going thru IVF but not retreival - but the doctors have told me I will have to take the meds/hormones to prepare the uterus for the implanation...any idea how many meds I have to take and what they are -- also - are they pills, shots, suppositories...? I keep reading about all of you guys giving yourself Lupron injections and the like. Is that for retreival or is that something I might have to do?

Baby wishes to everyone!

~Nicole

 

[AllyandJack]

Hey....nothing wrong with a good bag of Cheetos! Although, I don't like the new Cheetos. Have you guys seen those? They look like Cheese Doodles. Just not the same.

lil mermaid, I'm so happy your DD is doing well now. I don't think we can fully prepare ourselves for having someone we love fall sick in front of us - especially a child. I'm like you....I just don't keep the tests in the house. So, are you officially late TODAY?!

Nicole, have you ever heard the radio ads for Lenox Financial (they usually run on WRKO - yeah, I'm a talk radio geek)? They have $0. closing costs. I refinanced with them and they were great. I had to pay for an appraisal, but they refunded that at closing. I got a great interest rate and everything went so easy and smooth. Your insurance doesn't cover any of it?? I thought being in MA, you'd at least have some advantage with insurance covering some of it. I've never done a frozen cycle, but it can range anywhere from taking birth control pills and doing Lupron injections to going more or less "natural" until a certain point and then starting estrogen patches or suppositories. You almost always have to do some progesterone supplementation - either injections or suppositories. Obviously, you'll have to do the transfer (nothing like a good catheter in the uterus!). It'll depend on what your clinic "normally" does and, if that doesn't work, they'll change it up. Do they say how many eggs you get for the price? Seems an awful lot to pay for ONE egg.

 

[7beasley]

Hi Carla:

Thanks for the info!

Luckily I do have insurance (Tufts in January and a current plan with a $15K cap) which will cover the IVF (her retreival and my transfer) -- but insurance does not cover her meds or labs (like ultrasounds) or my meds. In addition - insurance does not cover the cost of the egg donor -- as we understand things - we have to pay a fee to the agency that finds us the egg donor (about $4000+), a fee to the donor (about $6,000+), a fee to the Reproductive Science Center (who is doing the IVF) for things like her medical screenings and phsycological counselling for everyone (about $4000+) and the cost of the legal contracts (about $2,000+). Insurance does not cover any of that stuff...

But again, it will cover the actual IVF cycles (retreival and transfer) - we just have to pay for all the extra things (and most of these things are costs that one going thru IVF with their own eggs would not have to pay!)

The other "good" thing is that we get as many eggs as they can retreive from the donor...they tell us on average it is 10-15 eggs retrieved. We will fertilize all of them and get to keep all of them (I understand that no all 10-15 will be able to be fertilized though). They do a transfer with 2 fresh embroyos and then we can freeze any remaining embryos. When we try subsequent transfers with the frozen embroyos - we won't have to pay anything other than my med costs as the IVF stuff will be covered and the egg donor will be out of the picture at that point!

We are hoping that $20K will cover everything and will be enough to get me pregnant!

~Nicole

 

[2bemarried]

Hi all....not ignoring ya...I'm just in a quiet pms mood right now.

 

[momsully]

Hi all - We are still trying but no luck yet. I tend to lurk more than post but wanted to post some encouragement for 7 beasley.

Our neighbors had two boys with an egg donor. They fertilized all the eggs, implanted two and froze the rest. The first time they had oldest DS who is now three. They then used the frozen embryos twice and on the second IVF had their DS who is 6 months.

Good luck to everyone!

 

[LisaB]

Hi everyone went to the u/s and bloodwork. I have four follicles two on each side 10 mm over. The biggest being 11 mm. I need to take glonal f 15 mg for tonight and thursday and go in again on friday. They say they grow 1 mm per day. U/S was a ***** they had trouble finding the cervical wall. I also have 5 less than 10 on right and 2 less than 10 on the left. I went for my healing touch session with my friend. Wow it was really cool; I need to eat and or wear orange stuff. The ironic thing was while she was doing it my eyes were closed--I saw blue green and yellow colors which represent my throat and heart. I felt a presence near me I thought it was my/her friend Gilda who was in the room and she came over to check it out but she said that she was on the coach the whole time

 

[7beasley]

Momsully Thank you so much for your post. That does give me alot of encouragement! We are so so hopeful that what happened to your friend will happen to us...we are praying lighting strikes on the first try and we get pregnant and then we can use the rest of the frozen embroyos to try for baby #2 --- it is not a necessity for me (because it may not happen) but I would love it if I had 2 kids and they were both 100% related (same father, same egg donor and same gestational mother!)

Thank you!!

LisaB good luck with the follicles - your experience with healing touch sounds cool.

I have been hearing alot about accupuncture helping people with fertility issues and I want to try but my husband thinks it is a dumb idea! Oh well...

I see my RE on July 14th to go over the recent blood tests and I am still waiting for my "period" so I can repeat the FSH level test on cycle day three. My last "period" was June 2nd so today is day 33...I had cramping last week so I thought it was coming but not yet...

Anyway -- sending good wishes to everyone.

-Nicole

 

[ImarriedGrumpy]

Well, I called to try and reschedule my appointment, and sure enough the next available appointment is in September!! Grr! I asked if they could check for appointments at ALL of the Kaiser medical centers in the area, but they said I had to stick with the center my regular care physician is associated with. So now I'm stuck waiting until September 12th for the pre-TTC appointment that I'm supposed to have (according to my regular care physician) before we start. I'm very tempted to just go ahead anyway and tell Kaiser to get over it, but I was warned that getting into the fertility clinic (if we need it) will be more difficult if we haven't jumped through all the hoops in the right order.

OOOOH how I hate Kaiser-Permanente! DH can change the health care plan in November and he said he would be open to an upgrade to get us off Kaiser, although he really likes the care he's gotten there. I hate it, and I've heard all kinds of horror stories of the prenatal care, labor and delivery, etc. so I'm even less inclined to stick it out if we're TTC. One of our friends shared a labor & delivery room with 2 other women, one of whom was screaming and swearing for 6 hours straight. She said that throughout her pregnancy it was impossible to get in for routine appointments, and heaven forbid she had to reschedule. It's one thing if it's just me and my regular appointments, but it's totally different if we're talking about our (potential) baby!

Boy, I wish we could afford for me to just go somewhere else and pay for the appointment out of pocket!! I am just fed up with Kaiser!!!!

 

[beckmrk04]

Hi everyone. I'm sorry I haven't been more active around here- not feeling too hot, and I find it impossible to stay awake past 10 pm. But, I guess I knew what I was gettting into, huh? I hope you all will eventually be as sick as me!

Puked all day today. And every time I heaved, I *tried* to remind myself that I was happy about it, but it didn't always work. I was really hoping I'd be one of the lucky sickness-free ones, but I was fooling myself.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Hi Becky!

Glad to see you.

I hope to be joing you really soon--otherwise it will be a ways off!

 

[FlyingBelle]

Good morning Ladies

OK, so I'm on day 28 of my cycle, about 9 days since IUI (took a loooong time for those follies to grow this month), and I'm feeling... nothing. No cramps, no moodiness, no nothing. Last month - I was feeling everything (even my taste buds changed) - and on day 30 I got my af. 4 more days until "the" blood test... anxious and hopeful!!

Anyone else getting close?

 

[LisaB]

Morning everyone. Another day of two kids. We are taking care of my daughter's friend Maria for a couple of weeks while he Dad is on a business trip and her ma works very long hours. They fight like sisters; they ar a year apart but it does make Diana really appreciate us when Maria isn't arround

 

[RachaelRol]

Good Morning Ladies,

We went to Hershey Park adn the Reading PA outlets over the weekend. Nothing new except I joined WW this week. I"ve done it before and lost 53 lbs, just need to do it again.

The hemotologist said if I lose 30 it would be okay to TTC, but said there still may be complications. Don't know if I'm being greedy wanting another child. We have Andrew and should be satisfied, but that's not what we want.

I actaully excercised last night. Went for a 35 minute faced pace walk. i actually made it to the next town and got a little lost on my way home.

Beck, I had morning sickness for 5 months. IT was so bad I had to get up at 4:30 every morning and insert a suppository every day.... The things we'll do.

Welcome to the new folks and best wishes to all of you trying. FlyingBelle I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you.

7Beasley, good luck. It doesn't matter if your baby has your DNA, you will be her mom adn that's all that matters.

Carla, Lisa B, Lisalovespooh, I hope all is well.

BTW, are we a considered a clique? I've heard so much about these on the DIS lately....

Rachael