Any other DISers trying to concieve? Reread OP for the QOTD!

[2bemarried]

Morning all,

Good News!! The PD and Prayers worked. Dh's results came back and he has healthy moving swimmers going into the freezer to be used for IVF.

Having those results is such a relief!!! It almost makes waiting for the next appt bearable I thought about it last night and it's probably good that I'll be pushed back a cycle. I won't have to worry about injecting myself with meds while I'm away for a scrapbooking retreat.

Lisa...good luck with your consultation and have fun on your vacation!

For some reason, she wouldn't take my word for it that we should go with the 150iu that we went with last time. Haven't I done this long enough to treat myself yet?!

Carla you're a hoot. I work for a pharma company so my PCP has to deal with me diagnosing myself and telling her which meds I should be on She doesn't listen most of the time but I still think it's funny

QOTD: ttc was a chore for dh. I tend to want "it" more than he does and trying to get him on an every other day schedule was like pulling teeth. Although now that the pressure is off and the doctor has him on testerone boosting meds his interest has increased significantly.

 

[Jen_in_NH]

Hi kids!

LisaB - have a great trip! The finger lakes are beautiful. Good luck with the Clomid.

2bemarried - That's great news!

Carla - does Emla cream help for the shots? A friend of mine used it while he was getting daily Procrit shots for chemo, and said it dulled the pain quite a bit.

I just did the HSG on Wednesday. I'll join the list that said it hurt like heck. But everything was OK. Hopefully everything will work like it should this month so I don't need to find out all of the details of IUI

QOTD: TTC does seem to become a bit of a chore - more in terms of trying to find the time that actually doing the deed DH and I both work 24 hour shifts, but not always on the same schedule. So occasionally I work Sunday 24, he works Monday 24, I work Tuesday 24, and he works Thursday 24. Not convenient for mid-cycle. We've both taken sick time / vacation time / swaps to try and be home at about the right time. I haven't exactly told my boss why I'm sick that day

Jen

 

[RachaelRol]

Good Afternoon Ladies,

QOTD: Yup it is totally a chore. I'm actually afraid to do it if its not TTC appropriate. I feel like it my mess something up or its just being wasteful of my DH sperm. DH is slightly annoyed with me.

We have dinner and a movie planned for tonight, it's been at least six months since we go out with out DS.

Maybe I'll hide the thermometer, ovulation sticks, chart and TCOYF and he can think we're doing it for fun!!!

 

[AllyandJack]

Lisa, have a good time on your trip. Maybe you can be one of those "stories" of people who "just went on vacation and had it happen".

Kristy, on the healthy, moving swimmers! See, half the battle down. With IVF, it's one visit at a time and each one is a little victory.

Jen, I never use anything to numb the area, but I have heard people on FF use that stuff and they say it's good. For the sub-q shots, I use a bag of frozen veggies. Never use ice since the water in the area could contaminate. For the IM shots, I make sure to hold the bottle in my hand and warm it up before injecting. If it's cold, it goes in like a brick. I ice that spot with the veggies, too. A good trick is to stand on the leg where you're not getting the shot to try and relax the muscle in the cheek that's getting it. Laying down can help, too, but sometimes it messes things up because, well, things tend to move around when people lay flat. So happy the HSG was all clear. It's good to be done with that chore.

QOTD: Ever since my RE took over, it's no longer a burden. It was never a problem, exactly, but there were times I just didn't feel like it when I had to (by doctor's orders....it's fun to have a 70 year old Indian lady telling you to go home and "do your homework"). Then there were times I wanted to, but couldn't because of a restriction. Did you know after IVF you can't do it for at least 2 weeks after retrieval? Oh, and if you do get pregnant, some doctors don't lift the restriction until you see a heartbeat. That, of course, is when I REALLY want it to happen. The progesterone suppositories usually put the stopper in that anyway. Not sure what progesterone does to a guy.....don't want to find out.

OK, my crisis for the day. All in all, I've handled all of this crap pretty good. I've had my days where I get mad and ask "why me?", but I've accepted it. So, let me ask why is the entire world against me? Why does Fed Ex show up with my medication and not ring one of my three doorbells to tell me they are here? UPS managed to ring the bell and managed to deliver my DSL shipment. Yet, Fed Ex not only cannot ring the doorbell on the garage door that is 3 inches from where they left their little "1st attempt sign", they also can't come to the front door and ring that bell, or to the back door and ring that bell. I am so mad right now. So mad that I'm sitting here downing a bottle of Merlot. I can handle IVF. What I can't handle is the rest of the world conspiring against me to make this 10x harder than it has to be. I took my phone off the hook....even though I'm waiting for my doctor to call. I don't care. I'm sick of fighting it....someone, somewhere is trying to tell me to give it up and I'm about ready to listen to them.

 

[beckmrk04]

2bemarried: That is GREAT!

Jen- hope things keep looking up!

Rachael- I totally feel like we're wasting sperm too, sometimes. How funny.

QOTD: sometimes I know we "need" to do it. I just feel like all the spontaneity is being sucked right out of the bedroom. So far, though, DH has been happy to oblige!

 

[CleveRocks]

Is ttc killing the romance? How do you keep it fun/romantic? Or do you feel like a ttc drill sargeant?

MAN ALERT

My wife's been pregnant three times. First one ended in miscarriage at 11 weeks. She got pregnant agan the very next month. We have two great kids, 6 and 3.5.

As a man, let me tell you that I had no better time in my life than when my wife acted like a, what did you call it, a ttc drill sergeant. Time of my life. I just felt like saying, "Thank you sir may I have another!" Unfortunately for me, my wife and I are apparently very fertile, and all three times we tried to conceive we did it right the first time. I coulda used a few months at a time of her acting like a ttc drill sergeant. Time of my life, I tell ya ....

 

[mickeyboat]

MAN ALERT
As a man, let me tell you that I had no better time in my life than when my wife acted like a, what did you call it, a ttc drill sergeant. Time of my life. I just felt like saying, "Thank you sir may I have another!"

You made me laugh out loud! Thanks for visiting this thread today.

When we were trying, we had to BD 12 hours following my shot, which meant around 6AM. It really was a chore at times, and DH didn't really like the ttc drill sergeant routine, although he likes morning most of the time.

I tell everyone that I was either asleep when Emily was conceived, or I had an immaculate conception. I certainly did not enjoy it. I had a 2 month old who was not sleeping at night. When did we have time for that?

Denae

 

[beckmrk04]

Oh, Carla- don't give up. You have come SOOO far to give up now. It's like not finishing the last K of a 5K! Only, if you don't try- you'll always wonder what could have been.

And I hate those darn Fed Ex people too. And UPS never knocks or rings my doorbell either. Why the heck not? One time my door was OPEN and he could have just yelled through the screen door- but nope- nothing.

I know it must be so hard. And if you do decide to give up at some point, I doubt anyone could blame you. But keep the faith! At least for a little while. I'm sure what all of us are going through are just preparations for the trials of being parents.

 

[KimR]

OMG, OMG, OMG.....I can't believe this. I posted a while back that I was afraid my pregancy was not viable. My pregnancy symptoms had disappeared and I have since had 2 ultrasounds that seemed to confirm my fears. My OB thought the outlook was bleak but wasn't ready to say with 100% certainty that there was no viable baby. I went in today for what was supposed to be the final, definitive US and lo and behold we saw a baby and a hearbeat!!!!! The baby is measuring 6 weeks 5 days, which is very close to my calculation of 7 weeks, 1 day. So for now everything is looking good!!! I am still somewhat in shock...I was completely prepared to have to schedule a D&C.

 

[mickeyboat]

KimR!

I am so very happy for you!

Denae

 

[RachaelRol]

OMG Kim, that's great!! Rest, keep your feet up and don't let anything or anyone stress you out.

Carla, go ahead and vent with us. It's your right and you are right. They suck!!! Some things should just not be that hard. I hope you will feel differently tomorrow.... and somehow I suspect you will.

 

[2bemarried]

Kim that's WONDERFUL!!!! Congratulations!!!!

Carla....vent as much as you need too...but do not give up!! The world isn't against you..that Fed Ex driver just happens to be a bleepin idiot that doesn't know what a door bell is. To be honest...to let some of that anger out I would have called the Fed Ex office and let them know exactly what type of shipment that driver was messing up and that he needs to learn how to use a doorbell....but that's just me. Or you could find an empty plastic grocery bag...tighten the ends, blow air into it...tie it off...and then stomp on it. The loader the pop the better you will feel!!

 

[beckmrk04]

KimR!!!

That is so fantastic!!!!!!!

 

[Pollito916]

Well, AF is due Monday, but when I woke up this morning I decided to POAS....and there is a faint line. It is faint, but it is definitely there. Does this mean I am pg? I honestly can't believe it, I keep getting up and going to look at it again, and it's still there. I am a little shocked b/c we only bd'd twice in what I guessed was my fertile period (no charting), and this was the first month. I was sure endo was going to make my life more difficult.

And I was soooo upset 2 days ago, b/c DH called me on his business trip and told me his LITTLE brother's girlfriend was pregnant. I was just balling in my hotel, b/c I was so sure it wouldn't happen for us this month, and they weren't even trying. They've only been dating less than a year, and I think they're only like 20 yrs old, don't even live together.

Anyway, now I don't know how to tell DH. He's at work right now, but should be home around 4. I'm not sure I can wait that long to tell him. And we have a party to go to tonight where it's expected to be drinking, and now I don't think I should.

So cross your fingers for us, and please send sticky dust our way!

I just noticed these guys, and I thought they were cute!

 

[LisaB]

Congradulations Kim At least one of us it worked for. That is really great

Well greeting from the finger lakes. The place we are staying at is http://www.springdalefarmbb.com/

It is a terrific b and b at the people are really nice.

We picked up our medication yesterday the hsg. The consultation with the doctor went well. My dh asked how many times do you clomid with iui. Kevin thought he was going to hem and haw and give us an answer like it depends but he said 4!!!!!. If I don't get pg this cycle then we will go on to iui with injectables but that has a risk of multiples.

Carla delivery men are morons.

Lisa

 

[RachaelRol]

Well, AF is due Monday, but when I woke up this morning I decided to POAS....and there is a faint line. It is faint, but it is definitely there. Does this mean I am pg? I honestly can't believe it, I keep getting up and going to look at it again, and it's still there. I am a little shocked b/c we only bd'd twice in what I guessed was my fertile period (no charting), and this was the first month. I was sure endo was going to make my life more difficult.

And I was soooo upset 2 days ago, b/c DH called me on his business trip and told me his LITTLE brother's girlfriend was pregnant. I was just balling in my hotel, b/c I was so sure it wouldn't happen for us this month, and they weren't even trying. They've only been dating less than a year, and I think they're only like 20 yrs old, don't even live together.

Anyway, now I don't know how to tell DH. He's at work right now, but should be home around 4. I'm not sure I can wait that long to tell him. And we have a party to go to tonight where it's expected to be drinking, and now I don't think I should.

So cross your fingers for us, and please send sticky dust our way!

I just noticed these guys, and I thought they were cute!

Pollito,

That's great news!!! BE on the safe side and don't drink. Tell a little white lie about medication or something for not drinking.

As far as the 20 year old PG couple, it figures...

 

[beckmrk04]

Pollito- That is awesome!!! I'm wishing you the stickiest baby dust there is!



And I understand about the little brother thing- dh's younger brother and his wife got married after us and are due in December. At first I was really jealous and upset (not with them- luckily, we're all very close), but it just felt like EVERYONE around me was getting pregnant (my 21 yr old unmarried cousin just gave birth, too). And I always assumed DH and I would have the first grandkids... I'm still a teeny bit sad that we won't. (Plus, everyone keeps asking when I'm due- they get us mixed up all the time )

But, I'm relaxing about it. And- I'm gonna be an aunt!! So, that's cool. Hopefully, we'll get pg soon so our kids will be close in age. My SIL is counting on it, and is already planning the WDW Grand Gathering!!! She's nuts- but I love her.

 

[cheerful chickadee]

Count me in too! DH and I just got the ok from the doc to ttc, we got pg in feb without trying but it ended in a miscarriage so we're officially trying now as of June 1st. We have an almost 10 yr old ds so it's been a LONG time since I had a newborn (I had him when I was a teen) so this will be interesting lol. Everyone keeps joking with me and saying we waited until ds was at an age to be able to babysit to have another one! Anyways good luck to everyone for this month! I found the cutest tink ttc graphic and put it in my siggie, so cute! Feel free to use it too, I found it on another ttc board.

 

[AllyandJack]

Cleve Rocks, my DH always says, "Don't threaten me with a good time." He loved every doctor's visit because I might come home with "orders".

Kim, that's awesome! A friend of mine in my buddy group was all set up for her D&C and now she's almost 14 weeks with a healthy baby. Take care of yourself and keep us updated.

Pollito, . Let us know how you told DH. I think we can always use ideas.

Lisa, four is a good limit. The injectables don't have the same risks as Clomid, as far as thinning the lining. As long as your RE monitors you, the risk of multiples can be controlled. My RE wouldn't do an IUI on me because I had 5 follicles (from 50mg of Clomid ). She stopped the entire thing and I wasn't allowed to BD either. As long as you let your doctor know your limits, they can manage it with ultrasounds.

Chickadee, welcome! Nothing wrong with a built in babysitter!


Thank you, everyone, for letting me vent. I laid into a bottle of wine. DH came home and found the Fed Ex thing that I balled up and tossed on the floor. The thing wasn't even filled out - no info on where to get it, no info on when they were coming back. DH calls the number and the automated thing says they're not coming back with it until Monday! I told him to give me the phone. He doesn't want to because I'm drunk. I get the phone anyway and tell this woman if they want to mess up a delivery, they need to make sure they don't mess up the delivery of a lawyer. I let her have it. I threatened litigation. I threatened media coverage. I threatened to tell the pharmacy how they "deliver" their medication. Don't you know that guy was back at my house in 20mns. DH and I sat in the window and saw him coming up the driveway. We ran downstairs to meet him. He gets out of the truck with another sign to hang on the door! It was all filled out "second attempt". He look positively shocked to see us there. I took 200 units Friday night. My RE called me Saturday to see if I got the stuff (my DH had called her to let her know about the fiasco). I dropped down to 150 units last night. I go down to 100 units tonight. I go back tomorrow AM for blood. I have to admit....I'm hurtin'. I'm already waddling. I feel like I have 2 bowling balls in my abdomen. Blah....I can't wait for retrieval. Bring on the Versed!

 

[Pollito916]

Hi everyone! Thanks for your well wishes. I let DH know by purchasing a onesie with a baby chick on it (his nickname for it) and wrapped it up with the test in the bottom. He was so excited, he couldn't believe it. Then he cheered and said his "boys were powerful." Typical man.

Now I just need to figure out how to tell my mom. She keeps calling b/c tomorrow is my b-day and she's trying to figure out what kind of cake I want, but I just don't have a taste for anything. Kind of the oppposite of cravings, I guess.

BTW - Welcome to all the newcomers, and good luck to everyone trying.