Another wedding gift question...sorry...

[MAH4546]

I'm sure the picture frame and everything you've already done for her is more than enough. Maybe include a card that has a little reminder of the cash you've given her to help make her special day unforgetable along with the picture frame.

That has to be a joke. A reminder of the money one has given? Talk about tacky and classless!

 

[tinkermom23]

I agree with the "No need to remind her" group!!

DNiece was married this summer and MIL & her Grandmother both gave only cards but wrote in their cards what they had paid for prior to the wedding. ($300 for potato salad) MIL actually put the receipt for the flowers she paid for in the wedding card! It was very tacky and I was embarrassed for them!

Does anyone really notice if you come in without a gift in your hand? I don't think so. The bride knows you are there, knows you have given so much already, and won't think any less of you if you don't have yet another gift for her!

 

[sk!mom]

If you're tapped out, then I think you've given enough.

I would try to give some kind of wedding gift, though.

In either case, please do not remind her of the $300. That would be so rude and tacky.

 

[allison443]

OP I think you were generous and helped out the bride when she needed it, to me that would be sufficient. I agree with those who said not to remind her of it.
If you did want to give her something small, how about framing the wedding invitation?
Enjoy the wedding with your family!

 

[Tistal]

I would give her a small gift and a nice card.

I'm astonished that anyone thinks it would be appropriate to *remind* the bride that you already gave her $300....that is beyond tacky.

I didn't want to say this because people flame so easily here, but I feel the same way. I think "reminding" her of the things you've done is horribly rude. I know if I opened a card where someone "reminded" me what they'd done (as if they thought that I was foolish/uncaring enough to forget) I would certainly be thinking a a few choice words about how snotty it was.

My grandmother did something similar to the OP's situation when I got married. She helped me out a lot along the way. I knew it, and I was very grateful. For my wedding she gave me a card with well wishes inside.

When I sent out thank you notes (which some brides aren't doing anymore apparently because I've been to two weddings in the past 2 years and given generous gifts at both, and I haven't received even an acknowledgment) I thanked her profusely about how much she had helped me leading up to the big day.