another pregnant, non-married celebrity

[poohandwendy]

I really don't want to hiijack this thread into a debate. I was only expressing my opinion, everyone has theirs. Fortunately, we all have the right to live as we please. I hope Gwyneth has a healthy pregnancy and that she and the baby's father make great parents.

 

[Mskanga]

I wonder why 2 loving parents isn't necessarily a priority anymore.

I say, why set the standards low enough not to have a stable relationship before choosing to bring a child into the world?

Some people are born to have relationships, get married, have children, be very religious, etc etc. Others are not, the ones who don't does that mean that thet set standards low because they differ from the rest of the people? Not in my opinion.
I always had it very clear from a very young age that I wanted to have children , with or without a husband or boyfriend, if I couldn't have a biological child , I would have adopted.
Kids can be just as happy raised with one or two parents , it all depends on how these children are raised.

 

[caitycaity]

That one parent is better than an abusive or unhappy 2 parent home.

are you saying you disagree with this statement?

 

[goofygirl]

After all the bad in her life I am happy she has something good to look forward too

That reminds me- her father did pass away recently. Perhaps this impacted her wish to have a baby and maybe it was not an "accident". I have heard of people wanting to add a family member when they have lost a family member. Its an emotional reaction.

My viewpoints stay the same, however. I was brought up in a single parent home, so I saw all the ups and downs of that lifestyle. I am sure this colored my point of view on this topic. I'd much rather have a spouse who was willing to marry me and support me first before I had kids with him. Even without having kids, as I chose to do, I'd rather have a man in my life who is willing to commit to me than one who isn't.

 

[Tinkbell]

Gwenyth's baby will have food, clothing, shelter and LOVE. Sounds perfect to me.

 

[FINFAN]

I did not read thru this whole thread, and someone may have mentioned it, but how do we know she's NOT married anyway? Just because the media hasn't announced it? She prob. isn't, but we really only know what we see on the "outside" of celebrity.

 

[isyne4u]

First I think that it is great that she is pregnant. I wish her well.

Second, my son was an "accident" failure of birth control (the bc and us), the father and I split up before he was born, we had soem rocky times and now we are friends. Now 3 adn 1/2 years later I am of those people saying "I want" another child. I'm 32 yo, haven't found prince charming and I want to have more children. I am currently 9 weeks pregnant with a sperm donor baby. This was not a decsion entered into lightly or without a great deal of contemplation. This is the right decision for me and my family. I am still on the look out for prince charming but I don't want to wait until I'm too old to have a healthy baby. Yes, I'm selfish but I believe this is what is right for my family.

Do I think a 2 parent family is good? yes, but it is not always ideal.

tara

 

[poohandwendy]

Originally posted by caitycaity
are you saying you disagree with this statement?

Not at all, but you took this quote out of context. When someone chooses to have a baby and raise it all alone, and then says 'well it's better than 2 abusive parents', my point is, you are not rescuing a child from a horrible situation. Why set the bar at the lowest rung and say anything else is better when it comes to the lives of children?

I just think it is weird to be concerned about, for example, making sure your child has the best, safest carseat on the market...but act like not having both parents raise them is ...no big deal.

Of course anything is better than unhappy, abusive parents. Anything is better than having the child on our lap in the car. Why not just use the seatbelt on the child? I mean, hey, it IS better than nothing at all.

I am not talking about unintended pregnancies and divorce, I am talking about choosing to have a baby alone.

But, again, this is only my opinion.

 

[Minnesota!]

Congratulations Gwyneth and Chris!! Make the pregnancy be uneventful and healthy.

Also, Congratulations isyne4u!! Your due date is 1 day before mine!!!

 

[mango]

There have been rumours for months about Chris And Gwyneth being engaged, and I have no doubt they will marry. He is pretty old fashioned; I saw him (Coldplay) perform earlier in the year and he talked about trying not to swear because it upset his mom. I think they are both caring people and that they will make great parents.

 

[battricia]

Originally posted by poohandwendy
I just think it is weird to be concerned about, for example, making sure your child has the best, safest carseat on the market...but act like not having both parents raise them is ...no big deal.

I can't beleive someone would actually lump these two examples together. While it is obvious, from the many responces to this thread, as well as the many MANY people that have grown up in single parent households and turned out VERY happy, a car seat has to do with a childs physical well being. Children are mainly hurt by living in a single family household because of OTHER people outside of their house telling them their family is not normal, because they don't have two parents. If OTHER people didn't judge how a parent, or parents raise their children, and if children were taught at a young age that there are MANY different styles of family, then all children could live happily knowing their family isn't the 'strange' or 'unfit' family in the bunch.
I honestly can't see how you could relate this to a child seat. It feels to me, that it's like saying that growing up in a single parent family is like growing up in a car accident.

 

[faithinkarma]

Children are mainly hurt by living in a single family household because of OTHER people outside of their house telling them their family is not normal, because they don't have two parents. If OTHER people didn't judge how a parent, or parents raise their children, and if children were taught at a young age that there are MANY different styles of family, then all children could live happily knowing their family isn't the 'strange' or 'unfit' family in the bunch.

APPLAUSE !!!!

 

[palmtreegirl]

http://www.eonline.com/News/Items/0,1,13081,00.html?eol.tkr

Reports: Pregnant Paltrow Marries

by Joal Ryan
Dec 10, 2003, 2:30 PM PT

Did Gwyneth Paltrow one-up old flame Ben Affleck, and get married under the radar?

Yes, say a series of reports, including one in the upcoming People.


The magazine says the pregnant Paltrow, 31, wed boyfriend and father-to-be Chris Martin, 26, in a hush-hush ceremony last Friday.

What's more, the ceremony reputedly was performed in the same locale, Santa Barbara, that Affleck and fiancée Jennifer Lopez picked out for their summer nuptials before canceling the event on account of, they said, too much publicity.

According to People and other published reports, Paltrow not only evaded the press, but family and friends. She reputedly exchanged vows with Martin in a quick, ultra-private, 10-minute ceremony in what the Chicago Sun-Times described as "a secluded bungalow" at a hotel.

On Wednesday, Paltrow's publicist, Steven Huvane, did not confirm, nor deny, the marriage reports.

If true, it would be the first marriage for both. Paltrow previously was linked with the likes of Affleck and Brad Pitt, her onetime fiancé.

It was just last week that Paltrow and Martin revealed they were with child, and expecting their baby bundle next summer. The reputed nuptials occurred two days after their maternity-minded announcement.

 

[noel]

I just started a new thread annoucing her marriage to Chris Martin. Sorry I didn't see someone else had already updated it.

 

[Robinrs]

I wonder if she read this thread????

 

[Kallison]

They reported on E tonight that she got married in a very low-key ceremony. What a refreshing change from the million dollar affairs that end in divorce 5 years later. Good luck to them!

Ben and JLo are you listening??

 

[goodstarr]

I'm waiting for someone to start a thread about their sistr/cousin/neighbor/co-worker/hairdresser/professor who got pregnant before they got married. Correct me if I'm wrong, but celebrities are such a SMALL part of the population for the original poster to focus on. I do believe that unwed pregnancies were around long before we became aware of movie and tv celebrities. Pre-marital sex ( especially for God- fearing Christians) is a no-no but i don't think that un-wed pregnancies originated with celebrities.

 

[Disney's Deluxe Princess]

Originally posted by goodstarr
Pre-marital sex ( especially for God- fearing Christians) is a no-no but i don't think that un-wed pregnancies originated with celebrities.

Wow. You are quick to defend celebrities, yet your words are rather harsh on those regular folks who practice premartial sex.

 

[ThreeCircles]

I don't think marriage is a prerequisite for having children. In fact, I'm willing to place a large sum of money on the fact that having children was around WWWWAAAAAYYYYYY before the idea of marriage even existed. Seems odd that the current civilization springs from a historical context in which people had children without being married and yet some people (namely the OP) swear that the downfall of our society is rushing at us for this same reason!

Perhaps we should all (namely the OP) be more concerned about our own lives rather than worrying about everyone else.

 

[Rock'n Robin]

Hi it's me, the original poster. Since this thread has come back to the top I thought I'd check out the last page--and since I'm mentioned twice in the last three posts I thought I'd address those issues.
First, I only addressed the celebrity part of the population because some people view these people as role models to be admired. I saw a quote from Camryn Manheim once when she had her baby bragging about how people like me (midwestern, conservative, whatever) were going to have to get used to people like her having babies alone. It really chafed me to think that she thought her rash decision would sway my moral standards, or anyones. But I realize some people ARE swayed by celebrities.
Second, the last poster pretty much wanted me to worry about my own life. I have that covered, thanks. But I thought this was a board to post our opinions, thoughts, etc. about everything, right? My own moral standard is marriage THEN babies. I am not trying to force my moral standards on you, I'm just expressing my opinion. I don't "worry" about these people getting knocked up without benefit of marriage, I just think it is wrong. Not everyone here is a flaming liberal, you know, and sometimes we hold our tongues because we don't want to tick off certain groups of people.
Robin M.