Anniversary party invitation no kids

[LilyWDW]

I agree that adults only mean adults only. However if I was in that situation I would not be attending the wedding let alone be apart of it. If the bride to be couldn't bend the rules for am exclusively breastfeeding bridesmaid I would not want to be a part of that wedding.

The bridesmaid made the decision to exclusively breastfeed. The bride shouldn't HAVE to accommodate her. I personally would never have even asked for accommodation or, if I did ask, I would not expect it at all.

OP, you can hire me (just feed me) and I will guard the door that night. If they show up with kids, I will turn them away. They can get upset with me. I don't care.

 

[okeydokey]

The bridesmaid made the decision to exclusively breastfeed. The bride shouldn't HAVE to accommodate her. I personally would never have even asked for accommodation or, if I did ask, I would not expect it at all.

OP, you can hire me (just feed me) and I will guard the door that night. If they show up with kids, I will turn them away. They can get upset with me. I don't care.

True, she didn't need to accommodate her, but it sure would have been nice if she had. I wonder if the bride would have been peeved if the friend backed out of being in the wedding.

 

[Gumbo4x4]

I wouldn't either. One detail I forgot to add - the wedding was this past winter, they are already getting divorced.

I'm shocked

 

[DWGal210]

True, she didn't need to accommodate her, but it sure would have been nice if she had. I wonder if the bride would have been peeved if the friend backed out of being in the wedding.

She probably would have been peeved; I'm only guessing as this happened to my friend, not to me, so I don't know the bride.

My friend didn't feel she could back out or not attend, as the groom was her husband's cousin and they grew up together, more like brothers. So it was more than just the wedding of someone who was just a friend. Now, why she asked my friend to be in the wedding I don't know, they didn't know each other beforehand. In fact, I think my friend only met her once or twice before the actual event.

 

[yoopermom]

OP, you can hire me (just feed me) and I will guard the door that night. If they show up with kids, I will turn them away. They can get upset with me. I don't care.

Not to veer off topic, but when we got married in the early '90s, our venue required us to hire an off duty cop to keep the peace (so to speak). Maybe OP could hire one, give him a picture of the offender, and turn her away at the door if she shows up with kids .

Terri

 

[goofinoff]

Thanks for the suggestions. I will NOT be providing a babysitter for the night. It's only this one cousin that has kids (my other 1st cousins are all in their 20s and not married). I was thinking of wording the invitation "Together with their children and grandchildren, Mr. & Mrs. Blah Blah invite your to celebrate their 50th wedding anniversary". Then at the bottom put Adults only please. Like I said it's really just the one cousin who this would apply to.

 

[usd2bmd]

My siblings and I are giving my parents a 50th wedding anniversary party. My parents are coming up with the guest list. They have specifically said they don't want any kids there except their 7 grandchildren (the youngest is my 11 year old). Do I put on the invitation no children or adults only or something like that. My one concern is a cousin who goes nowhere without his two (misbehaved) children. We know we have to invite him and his wife but do not want his kids there. I don't really care if he comes or not to be honest.
Suggestions?

Like others have said, just put "Adults Only" on the invitation and then be prepared to turn them away if they show up with their kids.

I don't think you need to provide babysitting service. If you can't find a sitter for your kids for the night stay home.

But I am also one of those people that had an adults only wedding reception.

 

[Art 1]

I agree that adults only mean adults only. However if I was in that situation I would not be attending the wedding let alone be apart of it. If the bride to be couldn't bend the rules for am exclusively breastfeeding bridesmaid I would not want to be a part of that wedding.

Don't know much about it but can't the breast feeding mother use a pump and store some for the babysitter to feed from a bottle?

 

[goofinoff]

Like others have said, just put "Adults Only" on the invitation and then be prepared to turn them away if they show up with their kids. I don't think you need to provide babysitting service. If you can't find a sitter for your kids for the night stay home. But I am also one of those people that had an adults only wedding reception.

I honestly don't know why people WANT to bring kids to weddings! I see it as a fun night out with my husband!

 

[Gumbo4x4]

I think mentioning the grandchildren in the invitation will cause some to overlook the "adults only" part. I wouldn't do that.

 

[deedeetoo]

Thanks for the suggestions. I will NOT be providing a babysitter for the night. It's only this one cousin that has kids (my other 1st cousins are all in their 20s and not married). I was thinking of wording the invitation "Together with their children and grandchildren, Mr. & Mrs. Blah Blah invite your to celebrate their 50th wedding anniversary". Then at the bottom put Adults only please. Like I said it's really just the one cousin who this would apply to.

Frankly, I think this is confusing. Not everyone reads everything carefully. They might notice the grandchildren part and not notice the Adults only at the bottom. I would not mention the grandchildren on the invitation and just put Adults Only is big enough print that it can't be missed.

 

[goofinoff]

I think mentioning the grandchildren in the invitation will cause some to overlook the "adults only" part. I wouldn't do that.

The only reason why I thought about putting that on there was so they wouldn't be surprised to see my kids and my brothers kids there. But you're right.

 

[Janepod]

Man, have we come to the point that if you have a party you know have to make "accommodations" for all the invitees.
Jeez, it was so simple when I was younger. It went like this.
Host a party, send out invites with "adults only" on it.
people who could make it came, people who couldn't didn't.

If I've got kids dh and I figured out how to go out with out them when necessary.

Op, host the anniversary, send out the invites. stress that it's kids only. Yes, it's possible some one will be tacky and think it doesn't apply to them. look at it this way, you get to talk about them for the next year. "giggle"

I'm going on the assumption that you are sending out invitations in advance.

Sorry but I think if some one sends out a wedding invitation 3-6 months in advance or a party invite 2-3 months out, folks with kids should be able to figure out a solution on their own.

LOL. I live in Philly, my family is in NYC, DC and NC. good thing they know I'm not finding babysitting for anyone. ain't my kids. You want to come, you figure out how to make it happen.

Correction: people never wrote "adults only" because guests knew that the only people invited were the people whose names appeared on the envelope. Doesn't say "and family"? Kids stay home.

 

[Gumbo4x4]

The only reason why I thought about putting that on there was so they wouldn't be surprised to see my kids and my brothers kids there. But you're right.

Totally get that. It's a double edged sword either way you go

 

[Hannathy]

I have to say this and it is based on many years of dealing with family dynamics (and I also know your parents have the right to have the kind of party they want) But what it comes down to is there are only one set of kids you don't want there. You are inviting everyone in the family but a couple cousins. Will the hurt feelings and probably anger be worth not having a couple kids from 1 family there? This cousin is going to take it personal because they will know they are the only ones with kids and this cousins Parents -thinking your parents sibling? will probably also get their feathers ruffled.

I don't know how harmonious the family relations are but this could cause a big upset since it is only relating to 1 family.

Just be ready for some hurt feelings and possibly long lasting negative effects.

 

[Art 1]

I honestly don't know why people WANT to bring kids to weddings! I see it as a fun night out with my husband!

Used to be children were left home and it was a nice night out for the parents. Now the people need to show their children off I guess, it's so cute when they run around and scream. Free range children we call them.

 

[sayheyrenee]

The only time I sided with a guest in an "adults-only" invitation situation was with a friend of mine. Her infant was about 2 months old and she was exclusively breastfeeding. The wedding was adults-only and when she inquired about bringing the infant to the reception so she could feed her, the bride was pretty empathic that they couldn't. She and her husband were in the wedding, so there was no option for her to just decline and stay home. She ended up meeting her parents in the parking lot during the reception, feeding the baby and then going back in. I thought THAT was a bit ridiculous but like I said, that's the only time I've sided with the guests in an adults-only invitation setting. Otherwise, if you can't find a sitter / don't want to find a sitter, don't go. Easy peasy.

I was in my cousins wedding less than two weeks after the birth if my daughter. I pumped in the brides room and the catering hall froze the milk. I stocked up prior to the event and grandma fed baby in my absence.

Easy

 

[Art 1]

I was in my cousins wedding less than two weeks after the birth if my daughter. I pumped in the brides room and the catering hall froze the milk. I stocked up prior to the event and grandma fed baby in my absence.

Easy

There you go. I was right. But some people just like to fight at family events and don't want to be told that junior is not invited. So it's a good excuse for them to use, I guess.

 

[msjprincess]

I have to say this and it is based on many years of dealing with family dynamics (and I also know your parents have the right to have the kind of party they want) But what it comes down to is there are only one set of kids you don't want there. You are inviting everyone in the family but a couple cousins. Will the hurt feelings and probably anger be worth not having a couple kids from 1 family there? This cousin is going to take it personal because they will know they are the only ones with kids and this cousins Parents -thinking your parents sibling? will probably also get their feathers ruffled.

I don't know how harmonious the family relations are but this could cause a big upset since it is only relating to 1 family.

Just be ready for some hurt feelings and possibly long lasting negative effects.

Did I misread the OP. I thought the only children invited were the couple's grandchildren.

I have been to numerous events where the only children invited were close relatives of the host. I have never been insulted because they my kids weren't invited.

 

[Shutterbug]

I don't know why people are always trying to bring kids to adult only events. I find the ones who complain loudest about their kids not being invited are the ones with the brattiest kids.

Hire a sitter or don't go. That simple. And the whole provide a sitter thing is kinda non-sense too. Parents (and I am one) should be able to find a way to manage care for their children. I've had out of town weddings to attend that my kids aren't invited to. I've had my parents come to sit, brought the kids into town & hired a local recommended sitter or simply not gone to the event. I've never been offended and half the time my kids don't even want to go.

There are some that believe their children have a right and privilege to go anywhere, just because they are so special and everyone just "loves them". Those are the ones that usually have the brattiest kids.

Then there are those that believe family functions should include ALL family..spouse, kids, babies, dogs, cats, parakeet.

Then there are those that never ever go anywhere unless they are with spouse/kids. They type that are: If you invite me, you invite my husband/wife children. We are all one. Makes for an awkward guys/girls night out when spouse and kids are sitting at the next table over.